Ok, so my girlfriend broke up with me last saturday. She said it was because she needed to focus on her school and work and her graduating from college and such, and that she didn't want to worry about the stress of the relationship on top of that. Kinda BS if you ask me, but.. then again... who knows.
I had been letting myself fall into the submissive role (I'd noticed) and she was gaining the control.. maybe she didn't like it and I wasn't attractive to her anymore. But at any rate... now I am on a mission to get her back.
I read this book called the EX2 System and it was pretty informative. I am doing as the book said.
1: Breaking contact with her unless she contacts me (via txt or phone).
2: Bettering myself and making myself more alpha male again and building my self-esteem.
3: Going on dates with other women.
4: Flirting with other girls on myspace/facebook to make her realize that she really might have just lost me.
I guess the point of this is to get her to realize she misses me and her to become lonely and contact me. So far... I do not know if it is working.
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The night OF the breakup is about the only time we have actually talked since the breakup happened. She called me and was crying. I was acting chipper - because I was out with my friends and was actually having a good time. I told her "I think breaking up was for the best. I believe that you did the right thing". I was trying to make her think I was OK with the breakup so that she feels like she lost me. She was crying and said to me "well I just hope you will still be around when I'm ready again". I told her "I love you, but I can't tell the future and as much as I love you, I don't know.".
Since then we haven't talked or txted at all. Until this morning. She txted me asking me if I could burn a movie for her. (random, I know). I asked her what one and when she needed it by (also telling her I had plans and that I might not have time). She told me the movie and that she just wanted it sometime this weekend.
I told her "I'd see what I could do".
She said "Could you let me know if you actually do it?".
Then I replied with "yea I have plans but I will see what I can do."
Then she said "ok, whatever".
I laughed at that.. but txted her back and said "haha cute. That wasnt a no. I have plans. I told you I would see what I could do".
She txted back "Don't say that" (I'm assuming the "cute" part is what she was talking about".
Then I replied with "I'm going to make sure I say that more often now! lol
"To which she replied something that kinda wasnt expecting. She said "Well if we stay on the level we're on and continue not talking, I wont ever need to worry about it!
"This kinda threw my whole plan of not contacting her off. Does this mean that she is feeling bitter for my not contacting her? Does it mean that she is missing me but the fact that I have stopped contacting her makes her think I dont want HER back? I'm confused as to more forward from this point now. OR what I should do to get my girlfriend back. I have a note written... that I want to send her.. but I don't want to seem like I am begging for the relationship back or something. I don't know how to handle this breakup. Help, advice?