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| Author: | Rich69 [ Tue Mar 30, 2010 1:37 am ] |
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Right so i posted a thread something like "winning" the ex girlfriend back a couple of weeks back. There has since been some stomach churning mind fucking developments. So i met up with her last monday to discuss friday nights bullshit: her now new "piece of meat" came up to ME and tried to start giving me grief, i told him that i didn't have a problem with him i'm here to have a good night with my mates i told him to just go and have a good night. Please bare in mind this lad coming up to me is the lad she is supposedly cheated on me with and hes coming up to me giving me grief about some bullshit about me meant to have been chatting up his sister and i didn't turn round and break his jaw? That for me is fucked up in itself. So anyway we met monday because i basically wanted to sort it out once and for all, i don't want to be going out seeing them and having it kick off all the time. We spoke, she was still adamant she never cheated on me, she told me they weren't together, she said she never left me for him and she reckoned she told everyone to leave it now and that she knows i didn't chat up that cunts sister. It started off as a fight but it was left as mates, she said she did still want to be mates. From here i start the no contact, so this is last monday, thursday she pops up on fb chat and asks me something like "whos this girl thats just added me" fb chat was fucking up so i text her saying it was a girl i know and im not sure why shes added you if you don't know each other. about an hour later i speak to her a little bit on fb chat as mates nothing other than that for about 5minutes i then ended the convo saying i need to go to sleep, that i had an eventful day ahead of me and went offline. Now we get to this friday just gone, i went out with a group of mates and shock horror her and that prick are there, it doesn't kick off though. I was having a good night and then it slowly started to fuck up. She came past in the beer garden as i glance round she sees me and says sommat like hi richard i just look at her pretty much a loss for words because im hurting inside, she turns round and goes "oh well this is awkward" my mate flips abit and goes "HA FUNNY YOUR A CUNT" then me and my mate have some half drunken argument about it i walk inside, he comes and finds me calms me down i go for a piss come back and my mates speaking to her at the bar i dont go up and say shit i just start chatting with some of my other mates having a laugh and a joke trying to put her out of my mind. i do end up going up to them and speaking a little but not for very long maybe a minute? i spoke to her mate after and she asked me if i was alright i was like well no but ill get over it wont i, her mate this is the one that said i trated her like shit as part of a cop out because she'd cheated one me started saying stuff like oh itll be fine rich dont worry bla bla i literally just got up and walked off lol. Getting to the point the night ends the pub closes and everyones outside me and a couple of mates walk to the burger van like 30ft away from the pub get our food then as i turn back round to walk back past the pub home what is the first thing i see? her and that lad, her new piece, all over each other and i shit you not i cracked major, itll go down as one of the most earth shattering things ive experienced. I became a mess and no i aint no fucking cry baby i never cry i mean fuck people have told me i have too much pride but yeh i balled my fucking eyes out when i seen that shit. One of my mates tryed to snap me out of it but i was a complete mess so my other mate comes over with his bird whos actually one of her mates and im decent friends with her aswell, there all asking wtfs the matter and i point out what ive seen, but then it gets to the point that there all over each other on purpose laughing and shit and after a while he cracks too and so does his bird so its like some absolute emo session with us 3 crying and my other mate trying to get me to calm the fuck down. I aint gonna lie it was a tragic night and i can't get that image out my head its haunting me. Knowing i've been lied to about a thousand times makes it so much worse, having her mate tell me she did cheat on me and then witnessing with my own eyes something that made it obvious she would of cheated, because inside i actually believed her when she told me she didn't cheat and she isnt with him. Basically my mind is totalled, ive been keeping active over the weekend and did extra hours at work ive been with my mates all day today but that image is haunting me. I haven't tried to contact her i've not text her emailed her rang her i've not said a word. I just need some advice because you know the most retarded thing about all this is? I still love her and i still would want her back. I know that i need to carry on the no contact but after friday i feel like i need to say something because it was below the belt what she did. I know shes bad news i know shes not worth it, i know theres a lot of girls out there but ive tried over the last few weeks to slowly start gaming girls and i dont mean to pedastool my ex but no one seems to compare. i probably know the answers inside me but fuck i guess i need some reassurance. |
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| Author: | Freemind [ Tue Mar 30, 2010 8:44 am ] |
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Dude, what you're feeling is completely natural. Of course you're upset when your girlfriend cheated on you, who wouldn't be? Now, solving the problem is not going to be easy at all. It's a sort of pain period. What I recommend for losing the image is some sort of hypnosis that you get from the tape of the stylelife challenge. It actually helps you to delete images from your mind, or atleast, make them much blurrier. Also, I suggest you work your anger in a productive way. Staying extra hours at work and being with friends is partly good to keep your mind off of things, but that only momentarily pushes away the feelings that you still feel ever so clearly. I suggest you to actually do something physical, and use your anger as fuel. No, I do not want you to beat up the guy, or the girl. I recommend you to do something extremely exhausting, something that after you've done it, you almost wish to die. This will not help if you only do it once, so do it repeatedly, as often as you feel that you can do it. And as everyone says, there is more fish in the sea. Of course, this is absolutely no fucking help when you still like your ex, but it's actually the only mentality that can actually help you. Right now, you don't think that anyone matches her standard, but that's because you know her so well, and you haven't got a clue about the other girls that you meet on the bar, pub, street, you get my point. That's really all the advice that I can think of right now, straight-handed. I hope it helped. Cheerios Freemind |
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| Author: | paladien [ Tue Mar 30, 2010 10:04 am ] |
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Great advice Freemind Dude, I just want you to know that you're not alone. Like NOT AT ALL! I am in the exact same situation. My girlfriend also convinced me she did not cheat on me. I don't believe her anymore. The lies she was telling me were just eating me up from the inside, like tearing me apart, I was feeling heartaches and having stomach burns from it. I couldn't sleep, I lost appetite. I looked and felt like shit. Im still not over it, and it has been over a month now. I must tell you though that I saw her yesterday. It was so cool to see her after almost a month of no contact. She looked tired, gutted, broken. It helped me a lot to get over her. Please keep the no contact thing going on, and date as many other girls as you feel like. I can understand you don't want to date any of them right now, but please go flirt with other girls. See the qualities other girls have. also keep in mind that deep down all girls are sluts. I know some PUA's disagree with me putting it this way. But Im bitter because my gf left me for some other guy and I think you feel the same way. |
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| Author: | casthenova [ Tue Mar 30, 2010 1:12 pm ] |
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Quote: I know shes bad news i know shes not worth it, i know theres a lot of girls out there but ive tried over the last few weeks to slowly start gaming girls and i dont mean to pedastool my ex but no one seems to compare. i probably know the answers inside me but fuck i guess i need some reassurance.
Alright man, I feel your pain and I didn't even read your post, I just read this last statement and lucky for you I am here to break it down for you. Your girl is bad news. She is not worth jack shit from you, not even so much as a single word. There ARE alot of girls, alot of better girls that get a guy that has value like you. You are full of shit. What makes this girl better than others? She cheated on you. That is the cardinal sign of an immature, selfish bitch. Wake the fuck up. You are: 1. Idealizing her. 2. Chasing what you can't have. 3. Trying to redeem yourself over your own insecurities. 4. Probably have some deep rooted self-worth issues that you see as being cheated on means you aren't a valuable attractive guy and you want to prove to yourself that you are by winning her back because then you will have VALIDATED that you are worthy. The problem with you is that you are failing to realize that this is a DAMAGED bitch. She isn't worth shit. She isn't even worth a single thought in your head. All you are doing is being a pussy. Why are you salvaging this? Because you are coming from a mindset of scarcity and you are rationalizing your own insecurity without admitting the real truth at hand here. You are incredibly insecure about yourself and her cheating was a huge blow to your ego. Then you rationalize it by saying you love her and there is no one else like her, because that gives you a legimate reason to chase after someone that COMPLETELY DISRESPECTED YOUR BOUNDARIES. She's fucking done, let it go. My god could it be any clearer? A girl cheats, she is an immature selfish brat. Simple as that. You can idealize her all you want and then you just have weak frame and don't get reality at all. |
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| Author: | Rich69 [ Wed Mar 31, 2010 7:37 pm ] |
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Quote: No, I do not want you to beat up the guy, or the girl.
Dude i would never hit a girl, no matter what.As for him though, only time will tell and if he comes and rubs it in my face like i'm pretty sure he is going to do then i'll seperate his jaw from his head. No one needs to stand for that shit, being cheated on is bad enough but having it rubbed in your face that is just grim i don't care if hes not worth it. I mean fuck all of my mates are finding it impossible to understand how i haven't done it already. But yeah cheers for the advice dude ive been doing a lot of work in the gym and going running every other day, getting back into shape basically and it feels good. People are starting to say how i'm looking more in shape and i even don't fit into some of my t's anymore. Quote: Please keep the no contact thing going on, and date as many other girls as you feel like. I can understand you don't want to date any of them right now, but please go flirt with other girls. See the qualities other girls have.
yeh man the no contact is definitely a must i see that now, and if i do make the contact in a week or two weeks time it'll be on the line of what casthenova has told me to say.Quote:
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Alright man, thanks for kicking my arse to be honest. I guess i am doing all of them things. I think point 4 is a little hard to take but ill take it on the chin, i've always said i'll take peoples opinions into consideration and no matter how harsh they are as long as there constructive i'll take it on the chin and as yours is constructive i'll wear it and try and do something about it.1. Idealizing her. 2. Chasing what you can't have. 3. Trying to redeem yourself over your own insecurities. 4. Probably have some deep rooted self-worth issues that you see as being cheated on means you aren't a valuable attractive guy and you want to prove to yourself that you are by winning her back because then you will have VALIDATED that you are worthy. Me saying its hard to take means that i know its true by the way. I know i'm trying to get her back so i can try and rectify some "mistakes" in the way i was AFC in some ways - not totally but i know how i "lost the attration" i still don't feel that i deserve to be cheated on lol fuck thats cold. Quote: The problem with you is that you are failing to realize that this is a DAMAGED bitch. She isn't worth shit. She isn't even worth a single thought in your head. All you are doing is being a pussy.
Again, true but heres the thing. My own insecurities stem from my mum walking out and not having any contact with her for over a year now so yeh i guess i'm a little fucked in terms of that and yes being cheated on has been a massive blow to my ego, but i do honestly know what i had with her was geniune and good. I've not said shit to her and like i said i'm not going to unless its something along the lines of you've lost the best thing you ever had. I'll wait it out as hard as it is, one of the things that eats me up the most is the fact that i got her with my own material my own pua no canned shit, i wasn't afc in anyway and then boom she came out and said she was falling in love with me, her chasing me, her crying at the thought of losing me. Then i guess it changed as soon as that word came into it i started to show afcness and now all this, cheating and i'm chasing her and im mind fucked because i've lost her.[\quote] True. Quote: Why are you salvaging this? Because you are coming from a mindset of scarcity and you are rationalizing your own insecurity without admitting the real truth at hand here. You are incredibly insecure about yourself and her cheating was a huge blow to your ego. Then you rationalize it by saying you love her and there is no one else like her, because that gives you a legimate reason to chase after someone that COMPLETELY DISRESPECTED YOUR BOUNDARIES. She's fucking done, let it go. My god could it be any clearer? A girl cheats, she is an immature selfish brat. Simple as that. You can idealize her all you want and then you just have weak frame and don't get reality at all. How the tables can turn eh? Anyway cheers for the advice |
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