yeah i would agree that a freeze out/space is the best option for now, and while you're doing this freeze out i'd suggest going for a few casual dates with some other people
after all that is what she suggested
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| Author: | Tianman [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 11:08 am ] |
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Started going out with this girl a week and a half ago, we were seeing eachother for about a month before that, she is 17 and i am 20. Lastnight we were ust txting as we usually do. She was showing great interest as usual, she was very enthusiastic about the relationship and i refrained from showing too much enthusiasm so as not to seem needy. evrything was great,she was saying i miss you, cant wait to see you at the weekend etc... untill she text me saying, she was thinking about something and wondered what i thought, i asked her what it was, to which she said she feels like we moved too fast and was wondering if i felt pressurised as everybody else dates for a lot longer before going out, so i said i dont do things just cause everyone else does it, i want something, i go for it, and told her to relax and not to worry. and she said she wanted to go back to dating. and i said "i suppose that means seeing other people too?" and she said somethintg like "i hope your not mad" and i said "if thats what you want then ok." and i said goodnight without the usual kisses and smiley faces. and she was all "Please dont be mad, i really like you" and i replied "night". She knows im annoyed. Now im stuck as to what to do. I want her back . I was thinkin of freezin her out for a while. guys what do you think? |
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| Author: | General Lamb [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 11:39 am ] |
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yeah i would agree that a freeze out/space is the best option for now, and while you're doing this freeze out i'd suggest going for a few casual dates with some other people after all that is what she suggested
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 12:55 pm ] |
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it could be everything or maybe she isn't ready yet, it doesn't really sound like buyers remorse cause she is saying she likes you alot. just leave her be, she could change her mind over a period of time - or maybe you will meet a better girl. you can only have her back if you RELEASE your expectations of getting her back, you are already fixing on one thing only and it's your ego at play here. YOU LIKE YOU WANT HER SHE LIKE YOU BUT DON'T WANT YOU ( right now) if you are going to be like this ''i want and i '' bad things are going to happen. Quote: ''i want her back ''
you only seeing eachother for .. about what? ... a month or so ? you don't have anything and you don't own herresult : like you said; you're annoyed and this will reflect into your game and relationship when dealing with her. You don't have to pretend everything is cool... it's not really cool to give someone false promises, freeze out and keep it frozen. im eating a bowl of soup right now and i got a good metaphor for you... you are thinking you have a bowl with soup in it.. not true - she actually made you think you got soup in this bowl by giving false promises. you want a second refill but there wasn't soup in the bowl in the first place. Illusions - people are giving you wrong thoughts. Now you realise this and you are dissapointed and that's normal human behaviour, but you didn't had a relationship yet so you have nothing to lose. You still got you ! drop your ego and fill your bowl with your own homemade soup - her soup is imaginary. it's also insecurity on her part , il bet if she was older she would hook up - she to young probably. peace[/b] |
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| Author: | Tianman [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 1:40 pm ] |
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Okay, thanks man, so its probably just cause shes so young then? im gonna freeze her out but ill probably get a text from her tonight though. I got me a plan. I was thinkin, when i get a message from her, i wait a few hours, till she texts me wondering if im going to text her back. and ill wait some more and text her sying i was out at a bar or club with the guys or something. your right, its only been a short time, gota get some soup. |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 2:13 pm ] |
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yeah it's because she's young, that certainly is a factor.... it's not your fault dude you were cool. you didn't became angry and you didn't threw insults to her , you acted cool. she's just being insecure so don't blame her for being insecure and don't force it, she probably needs to grow up a little bit. Quote: im gonna freeze her out but ill probably get a text from her tonight though. I got me a plan.
don't play games.. when you send something like this she could be thinking : '' oh he's already going after other girls'' you never know what the outcome is- it could have a adverse affect thus our negative emotions increase, expecting a outcome is a part of ignorance...I was thinkin, when i get a message from her, i wait a few hours, till she texts me wondering if im going to text her back. and ill wait some more and text her sying i was out at a bar or club with the guys or something. you can say this to her when you release your outcome, the outcome of her being jealous. if you really love/like someone you don't want that person to be jealous and feel like shit, and she's not mature yet she's like a butterfly and you have be carefull. my english isn't really good but i think you understand me. Don't take my word for granted, just think about it ok ... you decide what to do and you decide what feels the best. peace |
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| Author: | Tenasscious [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 2:34 pm ] |
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When she texts you I would wait an hour before texting her back. (this shows you're not being needy and anxiously awaiting her text.) Then just say something like "What's up cutie " It shows her that you're not mad at her and she doesn't control your emotions. (which again she shouldn't)Maybe hit the gym with friends or do something else to build an attractive lifestyle and better yourself. (while having fun of course) Then if she asks why it took you so long to text her back just say you were at the gym (or whatever activity that you were doing). This shows that you still can have an attractive life without her in it... (which again you should be having anyway... with or without her.) |
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| Author: | Tianman [ Tue Jan 26, 2010 7:51 pm ] |
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your absolutely right. I go to the gym regularily anyway, i should just go abot my awesome day as i ususlly do. still awaiting a text though. its only 8 o clock thogh. shit i got pretty pussywhipped here didnt i.Damn. |
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| Author: | AfcGalway [ Mon Feb 08, 2010 3:16 pm ] |
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Without a shadow of a doubt she has somebody else in mind man. I dunno if u've banged her yet but I will guarantee that the reason she's saying this is because she wants to be with other lads, more than likely somebody in particular. You need to show her ASAP that you have other options. |
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| Author: | Tianman [ Mon Feb 08, 2010 4:31 pm ] |
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No havent banged her yet, RAG weeks comin up and shes was plannin on cumin down and stayin with me, starts here in sligo on the 22nd but i cant see that happening the way things are goin. How do you think i would go about showing her i have other options without making it obvious thats what im tryin to do? Cas she picks up on these things. Shes fuckn savage man. |
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