Would I be able to get a copy of that PM Marc ? Some of it may be relevant to me and I'm a sucker for absorbing new advice
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| Author: | MD91 [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 3:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Punishing? |
Even though I have been in a relationship for quite a while, I had a lot of learning to do. I started reading the PUA forums and the techniques they have written about for I can improve my own problems (Jealousy, Pessimism, Questiony, etc). Our relationship has gotten much better after I have used the PUA advice and techniques (we have hardly any fights). I once read something about "punishing". When she does something you don't like, your supposed to punish her for she wont do what she has done again. And when she does something right, you reward her with a compliment, or a kiss on the cheek. What is a healthy way in which one should punish a female when she does something he doesn't like? Any tips or advice in doing this? Is this okay to do in a relationship? Thank You! |
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| Author: | Marc [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 4:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Punishing? |
Quote: What is a healthy way in which one should punish a female when she does something he doesn't like? Any tips or advice in doing this? Is this okay to do in a relationship?
It depends on how your relationship is developing. Again punishing is different than showing that you get affected by her actions all the time. Communication is key to a relationship. Normally I very calmly but firmly let my girls know if they are testing my boundaries. I'm trying to come up with a hypothetical example but nothing is coming to my head. Why don't you give us an example of where GF does something that the guy doesn't like.Punishing could be subtle from not bothering to call her for 2-3 days to throwing her out of the house, or taking a 'break' if she has done something really really stupid. I had read of a guy who was a regular wealthy guy with a hot GF. He threw her out of his house 3 times and everytime she would come back and tell him that she realized her mistake and she loves him more than anyone else. So again this depends on the relationship and situation come up with an example. |
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| Author: | MD91 [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 4:28 am ] |
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Here are some examples: When I ask one thing like, What you doing? And she becomes angry (The reason behind this is because she feels I don't trust her) I talk, and then she says things that says she is uninterested When I come over, and she plays music really loud and sings it Or I come in, sit on the couch and watch TV, yet she is on the computer (Also how do I react to these certain types of things) |
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| Author: | Marc [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 4:44 am ] |
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My answer is in a PM to you. This is not about punishing but the way your relationship is developing. Its much more than punishing |
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| Author: | The_Prophet [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 12:46 pm ] |
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Would I be able to get a copy of that PM Marc ? Some of it may be relevant to me and I'm a sucker for absorbing new advice .
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| Author: | Angelz [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 9:08 pm ] |
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Punishment could be you not giving her attention if she does something bad - this is all the small stuff. Like her trying to make you jelouse by saying hwo hot a guy is etc. For bigger things you would have to remove attention more - if she is unresposinve in a conversation say you got to go and leave.....remeber punishment is effective when you reward good behaviour....and punishment has to be consistant. |
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| Author: | Marc [ Sun Jan 03, 2010 9:17 pm ] |
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Quote: Would I be able to get a copy of that PM Marc ? Some of it may be relevant to me and I'm a sucker for absorbing new advice .Every situation could be slightly different though they may seem similar on the surface and hence the advise differs. There is no cookie cutter approach. If you have a similar situation kindly post it in the forum or PM me and we'd get back to you. The key is to understand where the girl is coming from, why doess she behave the way she is behaving and then act accordingly. Its much more than PU, reward & punishment I agree Angelz that punishment should be consistent and effective when you are rewarding good behaviour as well. |
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