Well, i approached my current GF textbook on all fronts. I stayed mysterious and dangerous while being funny and unlike any guy she has dated.

I knew she had kids from the start and that didn't and still does not pose a problem.

I am just starting to think more about the long term and i think that shes great. But, deep down i don't know how to feel about taking care of another mans responsibility. I don't have kids of my own and realistically i would like to say that my wife/gf has only had the experience of having my child and not another mans.

She has also stated that she may not want a third child, which is the last hope for my family name (corny sounding i know) but really i am only one of two people alive that can pass my name down.

I only realistically have two options...stay or go....so i am not looking for suggestions. I just wanted to hear if i was alone in feeling this way and what others might feel about it.

Thanks for the response. i am 26 btw

We are moving away to another state together, we will have about a month of no kids. Her daughter (2y/o) will come to live with us. After 6 months her son (6y/o) will come to stay. Since she is guarded about her son getting to know me and we could possibly break up, i agreed to move out when he comes to stay. Although i wonder the effect that will have on the 2y/o


I feel with time i can come to deal with just about anything. But, she asked me if i felt like i was settling for second best by dating her with 2 kids. It made me think that i could very well find a girl my age or younger who is single...no kids...and willing to start a family. its an appealing offer no doubt.

But i can't deny i am crazy for my girl and shes a good woman... that's appealing as well.