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| Author: | Consistence [ Wed Dec 30, 2009 4:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Bring it up in ALPHA-way |
Been with my gf for 8 months and during the last 10 days I have felt that both of us are tired of each other. How to talk about it without being AFC? - much less texting and calling - no sexual attraction from me towards her - we care less about each other I want to talk about it, sure she does too I think, how to bring it up in a good way? |
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| Author: | dark one [ Wed Dec 30, 2009 5:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Bring it up in ALPHA-way |
Quote: Been with my gf for 8 months and during the last 10 days I have felt that both of us are tired of each other. How to talk about it without being AFC?
Pick an activitiy you can do with her...tell her your bored and want to try somthing new....do it. If she feel hurt by what you say then tell her you love her but you want to try somthing new....just speak your mind and be your self.
- much less texting and calling - no sexual attraction from me towards her - we care less about each other I want to talk about it, sure she does too I think, how to bring it up in a good way? |
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| Author: | arcteryx [ Wed Dec 30, 2009 6:51 pm ] |
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Yea try and spice things up. If you aren't interested in her sexually, go buy her some hot lingerie, make a night out of it an see if that helps |
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| Author: | Tempus [ Wed Dec 30, 2009 8:08 pm ] |
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You've just ended the Honeymoon period of the relationship, so relax lol. Quote: - Much less texting and calling
This is natural. Don't sweat it too much. In fact, too much calling/texting can be taxing. I've personally found texting cute things that remind me of her was much more appreciated by her than me waiting to see her and tell her about it. (e.g. "This kitten cuddled up against me today and it made me think of you," (that's not AFC to say if you're already in a loving relationship) and "We're cuddling to a movie tomorrow night. Savvy?")Quote: - No sexual attraction from me towards her
Whaaa? You mean you haven't been showing sexual attraction? Get on that! Pump up your intimacy in your relationship! That doesn't mean more sex, necessarily.Tell her, "You know, we haven't gone out in a while. I want to change that, let's go to XYZ {some date} at {some time}." Keep taking her out on dates. Most relationships crash because they've stopped going out on dates. Learn how to give massages and give her a nice intimate one. I'm talking all of her body OTHER than her breasts, ass, and pussy. Show genuine appreciation for all her body parts. Great sex *tends* to follow, but do it with the health of the relationship in mind, not the one-time sex. Do whatever your imagination wishes, but it's MUCH better to start acting on it (and telling her you're doing it) right away than to say "Uhhhhh soooooo we haven't been intimate... what we gon do bout it???" Quote: - We care less about each other.
Once again, you care less about EACH OTHER or you feel SHE cares less? If you both care less about each other, then it's time for a new relationship. If you feel it's been because you haven't been intimate (like I labeled above), then pump it up.My ultimate rule: Don't TALK about the relationship. BE in the relationship. If you see these problems already, that's great for a guy. Most men are oblivious when things are dying down. Now start being the man in the relationship and make choices where you guys are going to do for fun next. Keep it fresh. Tempus |
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