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Author:	Checkfigure1 [ Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:37 pm ]
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I came across a great article for guys looking to prevent a potential breakup: Do not defer to her judgment if you know better. She will lose respect for you for being weak. Remember: Girls want a MAN, not a child. Sacrifices are necessary in any relationship, because let's face it, without sacrifice there would be no fruitful benefits. This goes for any aspect in one's life (school, work, marriage, etc). It may mean conceding to go to an event you're really not fond of attending. As long as you balance your time and priorities, and are given a head's up about the event, there should be no reason for you not being able to attend. Furthermore, don't give your girlfriend a hard time or complain about it. This doesn't make the situation any better and only makes her feel bad and question the future with you since there are likely to be occasional events that come up. Besides, if you both did only what you individually wanted, why not just be single? Respect is very important for both of you. Respect each other. Respect her family no matter what. Like them or not, she loves them and doesn't want to be left to feel uncomfortable with boyfriend on one side and family on the other. No matter how bad they may be, it's not her fault, we don't choose our families. Learn to like them, or even just fake it if you have to. Don't just have her for the time being; real relationships are something to be cherished forever. Always remind her how important she is to you and she should do the same. Understand that the little things mean a lot. To a woman it's the little things and the little surprises that mean the most. Never forget this simple fact. A simple love note or card or sweet text message, buying her flowers for no reason, cooking her dinner, having a nice bubble bath ready when she gets home from work, surprising her with that hat you saw her obsessing over last week, rent a movie she's been wanting to see and order take out, spend a night in with her alone rather than going to that party, the list goes on. It's absolutely vital to do nice things like this for your woman, not only will it keep the romance alive but it shows her how much you really care for her, and that is worth more than anything. If a fight starts, work it out. Don't simply say whatever is necessary to get her to be quiet; this method will only start more fights. Don't be too demanding, but don't simply let her do anything if it hurts you (financially, emotionally, physically, etc.). If your girlfriend hangs up on you during a fight, call her back, never leave her hanging, because 9 out of 10 times she'll be waiting by the phone crying. Both of you should have equal "power" in the relationship. If she wants a little more than you, you will have to discuss this. You shouldn't give her all the power just to keep her as your girlfriend. Understand that woman do get jealous, whether they choose to admit it or not. You should never' do anything to provoke this. She doesn't enjoy feeling that way . Most woman are very insecure with themselves; even the most beautiful woman have many insecurities. If you're lucky enough to have had her open up completely to you, then it is your job to remind her how lucky you feel to have her. Compliment her, be sure she really knows how perfect you think she is. Do what she asks, it'll make her happy. This doesn't mean to jump off a bridge at her command, it just means to be happy to help her with anything and everything she may need. Be willing and glad to do her a favor, and she will, too. Always say "I love you," but only if you mean it completely. The worst thing to do is to say you love her just so she will quiet up. If you love her, tell her. Don't be shy. Like (or try to like) her friends. Always be polite and respectful to them. You don't have to have close relationships with them, just like them. If she says she wants nothing for her birthday, she's lying. What she is really saying is "I want you to surprise me. If you know me you know what to get me!" Wrap your arms around her and kiss her on the forehead, it will make her feel safe. If you're truly in love, then you shouldn't have any urge to be "checking out" other women, whether you're with her or not. This applies especially if you're with her, and she will notice. Lose the posters and magazines, as it's not worth how it makes her feel to see you looking at them. Everybody needs space. Even if you are going out and want to spend every day with her, she might want some time alone with her friends. When she's sick, take care of her and show her how much you love her by just being by her side. Make it as easy as possible for her to rest, and therefore, get healthier faster. She will do the same. If she is mad at you, apologize to her. If you don't know what you did wrong, talk it through. That's the best way to win her back and get through a situation. If you are with your friends and your girlfriend, and you friends ask, "Do you think [another girl] is hot?", simply reply, "I'm not interested on whether or not another girl is attractive." (Or you can make the joke: Are you talkin' about the one I'm lookin' at, or the ugly one over there? and you look at her while you say it). If you really love that special person that you've been with for a long time, tell her how much you love her and show it, even if its just a little bit everyday; she will probably say i love you back to you. Always hold her hand, she will like that. Kiss her on the right times, not if she's mad at you. Do it when you say that you love her, or when she does, then smile, and gaze in to her eyes, she will probably finally know that you are the one she wants, and that you two might be together forever. Love is the thing she wants and if you give it to her, she will definitely say these things to you. peace

Author:	JSmooth [ Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:56 pm ]
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GREAT POST! Glad to see more stuff like this on the forum. For a guy that's been married and in a few serious longer relationships I can say pretty much everything here is dead on. If you want to keep a girl then this is how to do it.

Author:	Lodewijkp [ Wed Dec 16, 2009 10:07 pm ]
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yeah good post ... however some girls can be screwed in the head .. they want you to sacrifice too much etc. but i agree when you stick to these values and you can analyse woman you will guarantee a good relationship. the hardest thing is not dozing off ....... never doze off .. when you got a hard time when you are bussy with exams DON'T doze off. keep investing ... guys often complain ..'' but im txting and she doesn't send anything back '' of course it can make you feel like shit ... just text message her '' X '' or something. it's sooo easy and it's not too much to invest. when you had a fight with your GF and she hung/hangs up you don't have to call her back ..... time will heal the problem if you don't ignore it completely, ignoring means giving up. just txt message '' i love you '' or '' Xxx '' it's way better this way, you don't force her - just let her know you love her. woman are often emotionally destabalized without reason ( often your not the problem ) .... often something about what happened before. any way im putting short words of your post in my mobile phone ... so i won't forget them. thanks

Author:	Checkfigure1 [ Fri Dec 18, 2009 8:29 pm ]
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"the hardest thing is not dozing off ....... never doze off .. when you got a hard time when you are bussy with exams DON'T doze off. keep investing ..." Dude, that is such an important point. Don't EVER doze off or get lazy in your relationship. I learned the hard way about that one. Not that I got lazy, but i took her for granted. If you are dating a HB, which most of us probably are, there will always be an abundance of other guys that would be more than willing to take your place if you slack off or screw up. That is why that is such an important thing to remember. If you have a girl and you love her, make damn sure you give 100% effort all the time. cheers

Author:	dasani [ Fri Jul 30, 2010 6:01 am ]
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After going through quite a difficult time and finding this thread while searching about gifts for a girlfriend (weird i know), i have to say this thread should be at least bumped. This thread has a lot of substance

Author:	cagewalker [ Fri Jul 30, 2010 3:34 pm ]
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great post. there isn't enough material on what happens AFTER the pick up and dates- nor anything on how to maintain long relationships.

Author:	cedius [ Thu Aug 05, 2010 11:53 pm ]
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This is on point...but another major topic left out is listening... That can be a major problem...I know it was for me...I would hear her...but not listen. Once she made it point to tell me that I don't listen to her...that was enough for me to start tuning in to her and out to every other distraction around. It has made us a stronger couple...along with all the other things on the list that I have done...a few of my fave's that are not on this list are... Making eye contact with her from across the room with a small smile...it's mostly the eyes that do it...she will always smile back and ask what...what are you thinking...and that's when you just give a nice comment or compliment. Not for every girl but I like to show my affection in public, nothing crazy, but a soft kiss on the back of her neck when she is in front of me, or I whisper in her ear, I love her and then bite her love...Soft of course...I can feel the chills on her arms at times. Sitting next to her on the couch and while talking to her, I will pick up her feet and start rubbing them while engaged in what she is saying, this always has a positive effect on her and she feels like I am "There" with her. I will cook for her on occasion...or when she cooks for me...if she leaves the room, I will just start washing dishes or cleaning up...I think it's a fair trade. When I have cooked for her, when she is done with her plate, she will start washing dishes without asking...I thought that was nice too. I feel we should start a thread on just items like this...whats worked for you in a positive way and share ideas...

Author:	airlighter2 [ Mon Aug 09, 2010 9:57 pm ]
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but isnt some of those ways of being AFC...and in many ways losing your dominance? its hard to find a balance

Author:	Zaffy [ Tue Aug 10, 2010 11:20 pm ]
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Quote: but isnt some of those ways of being AFC...and in many ways losing your dominance? You shouldn't be dominant in a LTR, it's a 50-50 thing, you have dominance, you get bored. She has dominance, same for her. Just stay on your toes, but show her why she would make a terrible mistake leaving you, while still showing you care about her.

Author:	cedius [ Thu Sep 02, 2010 9:57 pm ]
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Perfectly said Zaffy... I left that out...this is not an everyday thing...more like once in a while... One GF told me that if it is always there, she as well as her GF's...it's gets old for them...almost like having a fav food so often, you get bored or tired of it. Make it random...tease her...if she says...I want my feet rubbed...say...that's a good idea, I have been on my feet all day and have her rub yours...if she says no...oh well, just play if off but dont give in either...push and pull...if you are truly in tune with your GF, you will know if she really needs something or if it's just a want. Be dominant...but sometimes...give in a little just to make her happy, then take control again...it should help.

Author:	Junglepimp [ Fri Sep 03, 2010 1:07 am ]
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Nice article, I've probably read it before. Some of the points come off as cheesy to me no offense but quite informational on the flipside.

Author:	RadiccalDreamer [ Mon Sep 13, 2010 6:57 am ]
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I dont want to start a flame war on my first post, but does no one else think this mentality of thinking is horribly incorrect? it seems to me this has AFC written all of it. I'm no pro, and i just joined this forum literally like 15 minutes ago. I've read a few books and done a little sarging in my area. I dont claim to have great credibility but my number is past 20. I'm not even saying i know more than this guy. He writes well and has a lot of good information. I'm only placing the seed of doubt into everyone that reads this because even in a pua forum, you cant believe everything you read. Quote: Understand that woman do get jealous, whether they choose to admit it or not. You should never' do anything to provoke this. She doesn't enjoy feeling that way it would seem to me that in a relationship you must always reasses value. i mean isn't that what keeps a girl? of course you dont want to make the girl hot headed with jealousy, but a friendly reminder every once in a while that girls would die to be with you gives you sense of value. Not tryin to be disrespectful, and i'm fully anticipating a reply that will shatter my entire post here. In fact i want to be proven wrong, i just dont understand and would much rather like to get it.

Author:	RadiccalDreamer [ Mon Sep 13, 2010 7:10 am ]
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sorry i didnt mean to put the entire thing in the quote box hah. shrugs sorry guys hope you can figure that one out.

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