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| Author: | Hayatori [ Sat Dec 05, 2009 10:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My confusing ex |
I've known this girl for like a year or 2. Lets call her S. We finally decided to date and everything was going good and perfect for a while. We made out and everything. One day S suddenly broke up with me. At first, she told me that she had a lot of stuff going on with school, taking care of her sister and mom, finding a job, making money, etc... All of this is true because her mom has a really bad back and her sister is very young and whines and raises hell when she doesn't get what she wants. S said that she still wanted to be friends with me and I said that I didn't want to be friends because I was afraid of being stuck in the friend's zone and also because it would just be awkward because I was use to seeing her as a lover. She said that we had a 50/50 chance of dating again. We talked a bit more and I knew that crying and begging was NOT going to work. I said that she was right and that breaking up is probably the best thing for us right now. I told her that we shouldn't talk for the time being. She had trouble hanging up on me and everything. We finally hung up. I made the mistake of being clingy and a few days later I called S and said I didn't mean it when I said we shouldn't talk and I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said yeah. A day after that I started talking to her on Myspace and I asked her if she wanted to hang out Saturday or Sunday and she said neither and I was like wtf? She then got mad for no reason and said how she was never in love with me to begin with and that she was weak and that she just wanted someone to love her. I don't believe this because her friends would tell me how obsessed she was with me when me and her were dating and that she wouldn't shut up about me. I think she was just mad about something else and she just took it out on me. She usually takes her anger out on other people. I then started getting pissed when she said that because I just felt used even though I didn't believe it. and we got into a huge argument and then I said: You know what, your right, I am annoying, I'm going to go now, bye. I signed out. When I signed back on the next day, I noticed that she deleted me off her myspace but she did NOT delete me off her facebook. That was pretty much the last time we talked. Its been several weeks now. Me and S made no contact with each other ever since. Her best friend called me on private at 4 in the morning one day. Lets call her E. (E is also an ex of mine. I dated her before I dated S. S pretty much stole me from her and they would always fight over me and I went with S and it took a while but E finally got over it.) Anyways, E asked me if I was in love with her and I said that I think I was but not for sure. I asked her if S loved me and E said that S would always brag about me and always talked about me while me and S were dating. I asked E if she said anything about me after we broke up. E said that she didn't say much except that I still text and talk to her a lot which I don't. I think S said that to E because I think that S thinks that I'm trying to get back with E which I'm not. I know now that I really do love S and I want her back! How do I get her back? |
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| Author: | Right [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 5:35 am ] |
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this is VERY similar to my situation, except i fixed mine. we did not have such an argument or fight like you guys did, which will make it harder to do. if this is a real relationship (not a pick up) then the first step is an apology, even if youre right and shes wrong, if you love you apologize first and she will reciprocate. there step 1 is established - non hatred. now, you guys are in an awkward stage, but let the vibes flow. go back to alpha male mentality (not ass hole, but confident) have fun, make jokes, make her cry laughing, remind her of all the good times, but most importantly - have fun! but second to that is vibe rocking. if there is touching and kino, work it ever so gently. do not get back to make out, full on passion, or try to bang her! keep it at strong eye contact, deep smiles, hand holding, and finger tracing (with your thumb or other fingers while holding hands). be fun! laugh! dont be so serious! but dont be toooo funny because that becomes freind zone. like i said, rock the vibes! sensual but exciting! like you can hold her hands while telling a joke! and im not taling about walking down a beach hand hold, i mean sitting at a table or bar or a couch, just chilling silly small kino. she will realize how great you are. but talk to other girls, not to pick up, but to show that she is not the only girl in your life, even small talk. when she leaves for bathroom or drink, catch up to a friend on the side (in party or lounge SPAM) she misses being in a relationship with you. step 2 is established. and last, say, i want to get back together, its fun having a girlfriend. make sure not to sound needy! "i need to you to come back!!!" <- bad. make sure not to sound like life destiny/ soul mate "we can work it out! please come back! you are the one! i love you!" stick to fun, smile, good relationship "hey wanna get back together? (: i think were good now eh? (;" some of you PUAs may disagree, but please remember relationship is different from pick up. i could be wrong, but im speaking from recent expereience myself, so take it as you want. |
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| Author: | Hayatori [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 5:17 pm ] |
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Quote: this is VERY similar to my situation, except i fixed mine.
I tried apologizing after that arguement by saying "You know what, your right, I am annoying. I'm sorry" on myspace and then I signed out and went back on a couple minutes later and I saw that she deleted me off myspace but kept me on facebook. She might of thought that I was being sarcastic.we did not have such an argument or fight like you guys did, which will make it harder to do. if this is a real relationship (not a pick up) then the first step is an apology, even if youre right and shes wrong, if you love you apologize first and she will reciprocate. there step 1 is established - non hatred. now, you guys are in an awkward stage, but let the vibes flow. go back to alpha male mentality (not ass hole, but confident) have fun, make jokes, make her cry laughing, remind her of all the good times, but most importantly - have fun! but second to that is vibe rocking. if there is touching and kino, work it ever so gently. do not get back to make out, full on passion, or try to bang her! keep it at strong eye contact, deep smiles, hand holding, and finger tracing (with your thumb or other fingers while holding hands). be fun! laugh! dont be so serious! but dont be toooo funny because that becomes freind zone. like i said, rock the vibes! sensual but exciting! like you can hold her hands while telling a joke! and im not taling about walking down a beach hand hold, i mean sitting at a table or bar or a couch, just chilling silly small kino. she will realize how great you are. but talk to other girls, not to pick up, but to show that she is not the only girl in your life, even small talk. when she leaves for bathroom or drink, catch up to a friend on the side (in party or lounge SPAM) she misses being in a relationship with you. step 2 is established. and last, say, i want to get back together, its fun having a girlfriend. make sure not to sound needy! "i need to you to come back!!!" <- bad. make sure not to sound like life destiny/ soul mate "we can work it out! please come back! you are the one! i love you!" stick to fun, smile, good relationship "hey wanna get back together? (: i think were good now eh? (;" some of you PUAs may disagree, but please remember relationship is different from pick up. i could be wrong, but im speaking from recent expereience myself, so take it as you want. Can you tell me another way I could apologize? Like exactly what to say, how to say it like do I have to say it in person, on the phone, on facebook, or through texting? I know where she lives. Should I surprise her and go to her house and talk to her? |
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| Author: | Marc [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 6:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My confusing ex |
Quote: I've known this girl for like a year or 2. Lets call her S. We finally decided to date and everything was going good and perfect for a while. We made out and everything.......... She said that we had a 50/50 chance of dating again
This is a freaking trainwreck, I couldnt read any further. What in the name of GOD are you doing !!! It sounds more like a negotiation than a romantic relationship. FORGET S, She was never interested in you to begin with. Or may be a little but its all done in the past. she would never be interested in you like she was before. If I were you I would date someone else, say this girl's best friend and have a good time ! Make this S girl jealous and wanting more, period ! And stop being so pathetic about a girl. I know I'm being rude but its for your own good. Go meet other girls, there are plenty of fishes in the sea. |
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| Author: | Hayatori [ Sun Dec 06, 2009 7:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My confusing ex |
Quote: Quote: I've known this girl for like a year or 2. Lets call her S. We finally decided to date and everything was going good and perfect for a while. We made out and everything.......... She said that we had a 50/50 chance of dating again
This is a freaking trainwreck, I couldnt read any further. What in the name of GOD are you doing !!! It sounds more like a negotiation than a romantic relationship. FORGET S, She was never interested in you to begin with. Or may be a little but its all done in the past. she would never be interested in you like she was before. If I were you I would date someone else, say this girl's best friend and have a good time ! Make this S girl jealous and wanting more, period ! And stop being so pathetic about a girl. I know I'm being rude but its for your own good. Go meet other girls, there are plenty of fishes in the sea. |
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