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Author:  ATM16 [ Fri Nov 27, 2009 11:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Have I fucked up with this girl I'm seeing?? Advice wanted
Right had what seems like a giant fuck up today with this girl I've kinda been seeing. We went out a couple weeks ago had a great time. Today after college I asked if she wanted to hang out she said yes. We end up at the cinema hold hands kissing her legs draped over mines while watching the film. We have this thing going where she cant believe that I've not seen the disney film "Cinderella". We're watching the new film Paranormal activity she says afterwards she'll need to watch a disney film before she goes to bed. I jokingly say "We'll watch Cinderella together" and laugh it off.

I drive her home and this is the conversation that we have in the car.

Me: what disney film we going to watch?
Her: None
Me: Why?
Her: Cause my mums home
Me: And?
Her: I don't take boys to meet my mum until I trust them
Me: You don't trust me? I'm very polite and good with people
Her: You are good with people and pretty polite but I don't trust you yet
Me: Ok why?
Her: Haven't known you long enough. Plus I've been hurt before and it takes me a while to trust someone. How do I know your not out picking up girls at the weekend
Me: Cause I've said that I'm not
Her: How do I know thats not a lie
Me: I can promise you that I won't if we were going out

Some more small talk goes on and we somehow get to the subject of cheating again.

Me: Well I can promise I wouldn't cheat on you if you can promise the same. Unless of course its Mick Jagger, John Travolta or Johnny Borrell (laughing)
Her: Or guitar guy from our college or James from my class. Do you know guitar guy?
Me: (Laughing) Yeah he's a bit of a cock really. Don't know him personally but my tutors say he's a dick. (which is true my tutors hate him)
Her: He seems really nice. You have to give me those two on my list
Me: (Laughing) No I'm not giving you those two
Her: You have no choice in the matter
Me: Nope not happening
Her: I'll give you two girls from college
Me: 1. there are no girls at the college I want to fuck (which is true apart from "Her" there are no hot girls) and 2. I wouldn't be cool with that

Again I try change subject we end up kissing for the second time and then somehow we end up talking about the trust/list thing as she is about to go

Me: Suppose I'll have to try and build up trust with you
Her: Trust isn't a house it doesn't need built. Its either there or its not.
Me: Some trust takes time though
Her: yeah trust does take time with some people. I'm not saying your not trustworthy I just don't trust you enough yet
Me: So we'll take the time to gain that trust if you want
Her: Yeah I suppose we could. But how do you know its going to be worth the trouble
Me: I just think it's better to find out. Plus I love trouble
Her: Well I want it noted that I warned you I'm trouble
Me: I told you I liked trouble

We kiss again for about 5 minutes

Me: I'll see you next thursday then
Her: Wednesday if your at college
Me: Yeah should be. Might be hard at work though
Her: (Laughing) Yeah right. If you see guitar boy
Me: (Laughing) Yeah I'll give him your love
Her: Or my number
Me: Cya

That was the general jists of the conversation. I feel like I fucked up big time. Were some of these shit tests that I've just completely failed? I need advice on what to do with this girl at this point in time. We're going out again Next Thursday. Should I freeze her out until then? I've no idea what I'm doing here with this girl. As I was driving back home I felt like I had fucked up big time.
Author:  paxis [ Sat Nov 28, 2009 2:15 pm ]
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Imo, I think you shouldn't even bother with her negative response and of course not talk about the same subject again.
If she wants you to go there ok, that's great, if she doesn't whatever, her loss.
Author:  ATM16 [ Sun Nov 29, 2009 1:03 pm ]
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I agree I'm def not bringing up that subject again. Any advice on what to do if she does bring it up again? I know changing subject is the most obvious but if she makes a habit of bringing it up over and over should I just say look I cant be fucked with any of your bullshit or is that just rising to the bait?
Author:  paxis [ Sun Nov 29, 2009 5:07 pm ]
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Well, I'd say something like "oh no, not this again. Did you see "Spread" of Ashton Kutcher? That's what I'm like." with a sly smile.

(as in, Spread is about an homeless playboy who uses women to have a place to sleep and money to buy clothes, etc)
Author:  tomlove [ Sun Nov 29, 2009 9:33 pm ]
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they were shit tests but you havent failed ne. just play it cool, but dont think of her as your main lady friend. cus she seems like abit of bitch to me lmao. but yeh dont have oneitis. she seems like she wants to dominate you. just brush it off and take charge x
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