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| Author: | greensky [ Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Just starting a relationship...want to speed things up |
I've just been on a few dates with a cute girl, and things are going well. I like her, and I know she likes me. She seems like a very "girlfriend" type girl (ie. perfec for a relationship). However, there is a small problem in that she wants to take things slow, and she is taking them really slow (ie. three dates, and we have yet to have a proper make-out), and is hesitant/deflective of any advances I make. What can I do to lower her defences and speed things up a little bit ps. normally I wouldn't really care, but for 2 things: 1. she is taking things really slow and is very wary of anything in the least bit sexual (we do get along great otherwise, ie. she participates in planning dates, we are open with each other, etc.) 2. I recently got out of a relationship with a girl who, while otherwise great, was a virgin and incredibly afraid of sex, which was extremely frustrating for me. Basically, I don't want to repeat it with this girl, and want to get this out of the way so that we can have a relationship with a proper sex life or I can cut ship and run if she isn't interested in sex. (if it matters, Im 19 and shes 18 ) Thanks |
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| Author: | Mindwarp [ Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:58 am ] |
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There will undoubtedly be a number of ways to approach this. This is how I personally would approach it with a girl I wanted to be in a relationship with. Try taking her to a romantic public place like a park or by a lake, or even a movie. Once you guys get comfortable, move in to kiss her, your movement should be slow and natural. Then kiss her on the lips, then the cheek, then the neck, back to the cheek, the lips again, then back off. Also don't grope her or anything. If she does not respond negatively to this then have conversation again for awhile. When the timing is right do a variation on this again. I would probably do something like nuzzle into her neck, kiss her, then place my hand behind her head as I move back around to her lips, then kiss her multiple times on the lips and then back off again. Keep doing this, ideally you can do this three times because on the third time you dont place your hand behind her head, but on her thigh, between her knee and upper thigh/groin area on the top of her leg. This is a sensual spot but safe, because its away from her groin, and this time while you kiss her you move your hand up and down her leg from the middle of her leg to her knee and back, never going further than the middle. The movement back towards her groin will build sexual anticipation in her, and your movement away will help her relax because your not trying to have sex with her. If done in the right way she will likely become turned on by this. Don't bring up sex unless she does first. You need to have great self control with a girl like this, if you push sex you might actually get it, but the sex itself will be better and the relationship began on a better foot if you slowly bring her into it like this. Eventually this escalates to her feeling comfortable making out in complete isolation, then you escalate with the understanding that the most "unsafe" area is obviously her vagina and avoid that unless she directs you there. The next step is then to make requests and state your intentions, like asking her to take off her shirt and that you just want more of her to kiss. Each time you make a request and do not cross the line when she complies, she is more likely to comply later because she will trust you. The methodology is the same as the initial 5 kiss routine. You get her to do what you want, like this, then pull away and do something else like talk for awhile. If she gets to a point where she wants sex most women won't let you stop what your doing, or if you look like your stopping or getting disinterested with the makeout session, they will take it to the next level if they want more. Furthermore put her first, she probably doesn't want sex with a guy who literally just wants to fuck her. If you have escalated to the point that you guys do touch each others genitals, ask her while your touching her if you can go down on her, but that's all you want (presuming your comfortable with this). In many cases the woman will reciprocate without you having to make any indication that you want reciprocation. Plus having this level of control will make her more attracted to you and therefore more likely to want to have sex with you. Hopefully she doesn't have a past of serious abuse preventing her from being sexual or is not a scared virgin. Good luck! |
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| Author: | greensky [ Fri Nov 27, 2009 2:37 pm ] |
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Wow, thanks for the advice. That was really helpful. I'll try it (we're going to see a movie next week. I think Ill casually invite her to my house (for the movie), since girls tend to automatically open up a lot more when they're at a guys house. If she's uncomfortable, we'll just go to the movies proper, and I'll definately try out what you said. |
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