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| Author: | TheDon87 [ Tue Nov 03, 2009 3:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Need Honest Opinions |
Hey guys, I've been talking to this girl recently and everything has been going pretty well. She invited me to a costume party for Halloween so I said I would go and I did. I got pretty drunk bc she was being a bitch to me all night and then later when I tried to kiss her she pulled away and apparently I grabbed her shoulder and hurt her (I don't hit girls and I have no recollection of this). So the next morning these were the ensuing texts. Her: "I'm sorry last night was so awkward. I was stressed when you showed up n then when u tried to kiss me u were really forceful when I pulled away. U kinda freaked me out. And all these flowers and things you do for me, if we were dating I would love it...but bc we arent it's a little uncomfortable. Also I feel like bc u do so much for me I owe u something and last night I didnt realize how coupleish we were going to look and I completely shut u off because of it." Me: "I hear ya and I'm sorry about being forceful like that but thats bc i was a little drunk, and as far as the things i do for you, i dont do it bc i want anything back i just like doing nice things for you, i dont know why but i do and you shouldnt feel like you owe me anything. And why did it freak you out that we looked coupleish Am i that bad? Her:"It's not you, it just feels like a big deal to be introduced to everyone and it's a lot of pressure. I don't know." Me: "It's not that often I actually give a shit enough about somebody like this but i know when something feels right and I would like to date you but you don't make it very easy, you put up a lot of walls." Her:"I have had serious bf's in the past nd it hasnt worked out. I'm so young to be making serious decisions in my personal life." Me: "I understand that and I have had my bad share too, but it's kind of tough for me to walk away butI also feel like I can't keep this going like it is. I don't want to pressure you at all and it comes down to whatever you want to do and I understand you're reasons but I'll be ready whenever you are." She never answered that one. So basically I'm just looking to see what you guys think of this. Is her excuse of bad relationships in the past a bullshit line? I don't know what my move is here, do I dead her? I was gonna call her tomorrow and tell her I would like to sit down face to face and talk instead of texting. I would really like to date this girl and I appreciate any input guys. Thanks. |
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| Author: | dark one [ Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:34 pm ] |
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Ok here is the deal bro you are being to nice to this girl...she is basicaly punishing you for being nice to her and you are saying in brawd terms "hey its ok your right Im a chump who likes you and will do anything for you...sorry" 1. Dont apologize for giving flowers...IMO you shouldnt have so early in your relationship but it doesnt matter...you did it so stop being afc because alpha men dont apologize for their actions unless they are truly in the wrong. You did somthing nice If she doesnt like then that is her fault...tell her its to bad she didnt like the flowers but thats how you show you care and that you arnt afraid to go for what you want...thats why you did it. (Learn from you mistakes and dont do it again) doing nice thing for a girl is ok but only when she is acting how you like and right now she is not! 2. When she told you that she has had alot of bf's and she is still young ect ect you should not have told her that it was up to her you should have told her thats to bad because you really thought she was a cool girl and you would have liked to get to know her alot better but since she cant see a future you are done with her. Dont tell her you will always be with her or any thing like that just leave it at "Thats to bad I think you area really cool girl and I thought we could get to know each other better but since there doesnt seem to be a future beetween us what ever we have is over" Boom you just took back the power...even If she doesnt want a relationship atleast you done look like a fool, and If she does then you look like a guy who knows what he wants and if he doesnt get it then he moves on. 3. You should always let her feel like she is slightly more interest in then you are in her...why? if keeps her on her toes and it makes you a challenge. As soon as you are no longer a challenge a women will start to shit test you so she can see If you are the real deal or an afc...right now you are failing all her tests and she is loosing interest. 4. Last I want to let you in on somthing - what makes sens to men doesnt make sens to women. Why? Women think with a diffrent part of the brain then men...men are more logical and women more emotional...men act on logic and women act on how they feel emotionally. It would make sens to you that giving her flowers and showing how much you care would make her like you correct? but to a women she is thinking "wow he must be desperate and weak...he must be doing all this because he is afraid I wont like him for who he is"....crazy I know lol but thats how women think...learn how women think and how to control their emotions and you can have 99% of the women you want. |
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