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| Author: | thelenzel [ Sun Nov 01, 2009 6:38 am ] |
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Hi all, this is going to be a pretty long post. So please bear with me, I will appreciate the help! So, recently, I met a girl I have known through myspace. We met on a friday, after like 3 weeks of myspace, msn and texting "getting to know each other" That same friday, we kissed, etc, she was very nervous, but I managed to kiss her, and we kissed some more...etc.. Then I saw her Sunday, her best friend arrived at her house, so it ended up being the 3 of us, on this day we remained hugged all through the time, she would play with my hair, hug me, hug her back etc. When I was leaving, I managed to kiss her once again, then I left. Then I saw her Thursday, this was probably the first time we were finally alone, with a little more comfort, we talked a lot, and this was our longest kissing session in the back of my car. Then Friday (yesterday) she sent me a text, to summarize it, the text said that she was an honest and direct girl, she liked, serious and formal lasting relattionships, she said that the few she has known me she likes me (i tought she was gonna suggest going more serious but...) then she says, she doesn't feel safe to start something new again, being that she just got out of a long relationship, she told me she didn't wanted to stop seeing me as friends, and hoping I wouldn't stop talking to her. Then I called her so she could explain the text, so we talked (its all because the ex boyfried showed up a few weeks ago and put some shit on her head, basically lied to her and she hates lies) so she was really pissed and confused, she told me that when she has a Boyfriend, its her 100% to him, and that it wouldn't be fair for the two of us to go around "going out" while she cant clear her head, I asked her if there were any chances of us having anything serious, and she said YES, but she just needs to clear her mind (I have more than a 50% chance of something serious, I asked her, I know AFC) ... So then I saw her friday, I told her Id drop by her house, go buy some strings for the guitar and just chat... We remained hugged all the time, and I teased her a lot, she laughed a lot, we "danced" etc... she told me more about her life Then we were outside her house, and I tell her "Im dying so much to kiss you right now, but I respect your decision" and she says something like "what if I've told you I want to kiss you also?" ... I said... "I respect your decision" .. So to summarize, she LIKES me, and for something serious, she just "needs time" ... My question is, what can I do in the meantime to not become just her friend, I know I should keep teasing her, making her laugh, showing an alpha side, but I'm also showing a romantic, careful side, while still being an alpha... shes coming tommorow to my house to watch a movie, I was thinking of talking about the subject in person, but I don't want to put pressure on her... yesterday I kissed her on the forehead, and did some corny "kiss" where I would kiss my fingers then put my fingers on her lips... What can I do, until the time she feels ready ? Should I talk to her, that I don't want to become just a friend in this process?... I know she would tell me, if something like that happened though. And please don't come with answers like "move on" to another girl and that stuff, I don't want to give up on this girl, yes I may have oneitis, but I am feeling something for her, something I had not felt in a lot of time ... Would it be wise to tell her that?? Opinions from girls here would be appreciated a lot! I hope I could get some advice, thanks a lot! |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Sun Nov 01, 2009 10:28 am ] |
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Start playing the game. You need to tell her you are getting back together with your ex girlfriend. After you tell her that she will want you. Tell her that you want a relationship and since she isn't giving it to you then you will go back to your ex. She will think "ugh, I can have this guy. Why should I let some other girl get him?" The reason why she needs time is because she is unstable. It might be better for you not to get involved with her, but if you want to grow as a person - learn the hardway. |
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| Author: | thelenzel [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 1:36 am ] |
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Quote: Start playing the game. You need to tell her you are getting back together with your ex girlfriend. After you tell her that she will want you. Tell her that you want a relationship and since she isn't giving it to you then you will go back to your ex.
Well, I really don't want to lie to her, saying that Im getting back with an ex.She will think "ugh, I can have this guy. Why should I let some other girl get him?" The reason why she needs time is because she is unstable. It might be better for you not to get involved with her, but if you want to grow as a person - learn the hardway. She needs time because she just finished a relationship. And well, its not like feelings for an ex BF / GF fade away in one day, specially if you were with them for long time. I guess my only option here is to wait, keep her attracted to me, because she does likes me ... And just be patient ... |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 3:19 am ] |
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Thats exactly what you should do. |
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| Author: | thelenzel [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 5:43 am ] |
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Quote: Thats exactly what you should do.
So what are some tips, so I don't fall in friends zone ??I know she is attracted to me, both physically and ... mentally?? Should I just keep teasing her, making her laugh ... be alpha, but still show my romantic side...? |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 8:43 am ] |
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Start playing the game. You need to tell her you are getting back together with your ex girlfriend. After you tell her that she will want you. Tell her that you want a relationship and since she isn't giving it to you then you will go back to your ex. My father married my mother after he told this to her. |
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| Author: | Astute [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 9:29 am ] |
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Back off from her a bit, don't text her or myspace her or facebook her. By this i don't mean completely ostricise her but instead when she comes online wait for her to talk to you, don't text her but respond to hers still. If you are up for it when she comes on and speaks to you on facebook/myspace etc. say sorry i g2g x ( or even drop the x ) and click appear offline. This is so she starts to think ' wow i really miss him, maybe he is the guy for me? ' It works most times but if she starts to draw away more then say sorry I've been really busy, do you want to catch up again and take her out to coffee or the movies ( pay so she thinks your sweet ) |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 11:50 am ] |
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Quote: Start playing the game. You need to tell her you are getting back together with your ex girlfriend. After you tell her that she will want you. Tell her that you want a relationship and since she isn't giving it to you then you will go back to your ex.
I suggest he tries freezing her out before going into lies (if necessary lying at all).
My father married my mother after he told this to her. |
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| Author: | thelenzel [ Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:23 am ] |
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Quote: Quote: Start playing the game. You need to tell her you are getting back together with your ex girlfriend. After you tell her that she will want you. Tell her that you want a relationship and since she isn't giving it to you then you will go back to your ex.
I suggest he tries freezing her out before going into lies (if necessary lying at all).My father married my mother after he told this to her. We're already going out again, and I'm happy... =) |
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| Author: | magnum45 [ Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:29 am ] |
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Thats great dude. |
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