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| Author: | DasaniMal [ Tue Oct 27, 2009 11:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | I don't think she feels the same just yet |
So me and this amazing girl have been hitting it off pretty well for the past 2 months! Recently we have been going on alot of dates and house visits work visits etc. We always leave cute lil msgs to eachother and i can feel myself turning into a AFC slowly but she was eating this stuff up and i just went with the flow. So sunday we had some time so i took her to this great place to watch the sunset and ask her out officially! She said she would like that!. We go out to eat after and had a blast went back to her place etc etc All around amazing nite and couldn't ask for better. Yesterday morning was great she msged me etc and then as the afternoon came it just turned crappy in my opinion but i may just be scared or sometime.... Her text were short etc so i felt the need to keep msging her until it came down to her not msging me back. Now it was pretty late and maybe she was sleeping or busy yesterday but it just felt different! Even some typical things i would get from her just didn't happen yesterday. So im asking for your help becuz i feel like i might be pushing her away even tho it was only 1 day... A lil background about her. She has a lil boy that had some problems first starting out in life so that takes up alot of her time and she hasn't been out in about 2 years until i came along! She gets alot of attention from guys but she blows them off all the time to be with me. She tells me it is so new to her becuz she hasn't really dated in 2 years but she always tells me how amazing i am etc. So after asking her out i changed my status etc becuz to be honest with you the other girls where just annoying! Lets do this or that and i want everyone to know im with this girl. She hasn't updated hers but i blew it off becuz i figured maybe she just isn't ready or hasn't had time but her X has been irritating her about the baby and threatening this or that etc. So I plan to see her today at a lil restaurant her family owns! It isn't very busy on Tuesdays so i planned on doing something sweet for her! I was going to txt her when i got there and tell her to come outside for a surprise and when she gets out there give her a rose and then proceed to chat it up with her for awhile. After the event last nite i don't know if that would be the best thing to do but i feel like im losing interest so what can i do or anything that you guys have worked for you when in this situation! Looking for replys asap thanks fellow puas |
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| Author: | Havok123 [ Tue Oct 27, 2009 3:24 pm ] |
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Sounds like to me its neediness all together bro. No matter what stage in a relationship, especially the hotter the woman, the more pre-selection you need to have. Let her come to you for once. Go hang out with friends, make new friends, get to know more women... just cause your committed to one woman doesnt mean you cannot have other female friends. Sounds like you have you head too involved in this, which doesnt make sense in our male logical minds, I know... Welcome to the paradox of a females attraction system. |
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| Author: | DasaniMal [ Wed Oct 28, 2009 3:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | UPDATE |
So i went to go visit her at work! I was cocky funny busted her a lil and said a few sweet things! I left shortly after chatting it up with her and giving her a kiss... Everything seemed fine... She msged me later on that night saying I hope your having fun i saw your profile said in a relationship. she said you know i have alot going on right now! So i tried to blow it off by saying oh thats fine babii i know you need to take everything slow with your situation. she goes i really appreciate your understanding so friends? =( So after she said that i wanted to clear it up that i don't want her to be my friend so i told her "well im not one for labels but i thought we had some sort of connection... I def think of you as more then friends and i hope you feel the same. I would def like to date you more maybe kick it back a few and slow everything down. Is that fair? she replys with Thats sounds great!!! Thanks for being so good about it! I then say Im glad you agree theres just something about u that has me just ya know but i def understand. I hope everthing goes great with her son tomorrow.. have a great nite baby. I got a game to win! I left it at that and went out with a bunch of friends to get it off my mind. She msged me later on that night with "Thanks babii Goodnite XoXoXo and btw u are amazing! I don't reply about 30 mins go by and i get another msg saying I love my present your the sweetest! XoXo and the best! I don't reply again! Today i decide since she was going to have a ruff day being at a hospital to msg her b4 she left and wished her the best and i get a msg backt saying Good morn baby! Just getting ready thanks 4 being so great!! I hope you have a good day off! XoXoXoXo I don't reply Sorry for all the details but just wanted to know what you guys thought of all the mixed signals! I know i need to kick it back a few and slow it down with her. So should i let her make the next move? Txt phone calls etc? Also if she initiates contact should i eventually ask her to come hang out again? Just want some ideas from the pros? In my opinion i think she started to pull back a lil becuz of the label thing and because of all the troubles with her son and x.. Let me know your thoughts! |
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| Author: | gamer_nl [ Wed Oct 28, 2009 7:22 pm ] |
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I think you are doing well. I would not call and msg everyday, unless she is the one who is initiating. Try to end a msg session first. Also phone calls and possible meetings. I would leave it to her to initiate contact. If you don't hear anything within 2-3 days, than try it yourself. Seek some distraction, get some things going with your friends. It makes things easier, she may contact you. Don't call or msg 2-3 days, than send her something sweet, for example an online card. |
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| Author: | DasaniMal [ Wed Oct 28, 2009 10:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Thanks guys |
Yes ive always been the one to end convos txt leave early etc! I just feel so compelled to msg her when she starts giving me ioi's ya know! but i like the online card idea for sure |
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| Author: | DasaniMal [ Wed Nov 04, 2009 6:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | i know what to do but it is so hard to judge... |
just wondering what i should do... i backed off and she started to msg me asking if i was mad at her i blew it off and told her no.... she started to show positive signs to me again flirty etc.. then i asked to hang out and things came up where we couldnt get together... i kept asking to hang out and she seemed to pull back again... why does she show signs of interest and then doesnt want to hangout? so what i did was i refrained from msging txt etc etc... i didnt hear anything from her except i posted that i was sick and that she hopes i feel better... i didnt rely and just told her in the morning thanks for the get well wishes and didnt really hit on her complament etc just friendly now she is msging me and i dont want to screw it up but i wanna hang out with her... should i just be nice and talk to her and not hit on her and also let her make the move for the next hangout? |
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| Author: | gamer_nl [ Sat Nov 07, 2009 12:01 am ] |
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Do you have a date already? If so, then get out with her and take it easy. A lot of teasing, cocky/funny things should be ok. End the date first by telling her you had a good time but also that you should get going. Tell her you will hang out again when you find some time. If you still don't have a date, do not hit on her. Just play cool and tease her again. When you get an opportunity tell her you should hang out together some time. Tell her you would like that and that you will let her know when you have time. Make yourself scarce by not msg'ing and phoning her to often. Msg'ing and phone calls you end first. Tell her you are quite busy and make it look like that even if you are not. If you ask her to hang out and she is not responding well, don't ask her again at least for two weeks. Also cut the contact for at least one week. However, always stay friendly and in a good mood. |
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