Hey all, my close friend just got dumped by his gf of 3 years, and he's in a bad place...thought I'd post what happened and see if you have any ideas, it'd really help out. Thanks!
Background on the relationship--started dating in high school, continued into college, they go to college 4 hours away from each other. Took her v-card, dated for 3 years, always faithful, families are really close, go on vacations and stuff together and talked about getting married after college so really solid.
Where it started going bad:
She started bringing up 'going on a break' about 2 months ago, saying the long distance thing is too hard, but he talks her out of it. She brings it up once every few weeks but he manages to say that they can work through it...finally agree that he needs to 1. visit her more to make it easier 2. not hassle her about going out and partying (he was worried she'd cheat) and 3. make her more of a priority when he goes home on vacation, because usually he tends to see his best friend more than he sees her. So everything is fine for a week or two, then she flat out tells him its not going to work and she is too drained emotionally to continue and she needs space, but still claims that she loves him and wants to get married, and she just needs to be more independent and live her life but fate might bring them back together once she's done with that.
He stopped talking to her for a week after that and she started texting him, then she came up to our college for a volleyball game, and he went to see her because she asked him to come---they talked and she just said she wants to be more independent but would like to see him during thanksgiving and give him his b-day present.
Any advice for my friend? I think he just needs to give her space and fuck some other chicks, live his life and let her figure some shit out......I don't really get why after 3 years, she'll all of a sudden say she needs to be more independent...seems weird.
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