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Author:  xChocolate [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 1:52 pm ]
Post subject:  From player to a serious relationship guy [Need your help]
recently i've played around for 1 year, dating alot of girls and so on, now i've meet this new girl which i fell in love with, but the problem is that i DLV because it seems like im more in love with her than she is with me?


How should i act to make it work in the beginning? should i show her that i like her alot or should i DHV and act busy?



thanks in advance.


i've totaly forgot about how it feels to be in love, so im a newbie to serious relationships
Author:  "DHV" [ Tue Sep 29, 2009 3:06 pm ]
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Well it always seems like if you love her more then she does in the begining.

I had the same situation I was player playing the Game and i fell for this girl and now were both in love.

For love you don't need DHV's thats when you want her to at least be intrested in you. Once you have that basic attraction start building an emmotional connection show her that you do care. Showing emmotions isn't a DLV it shows that your human and be proud to feel that way. Make her feel comftrable with you, have a good time with her. Remember the gy must escalate the girl will only make herself available. So it's all up to you buddy to make something out of it.

Best of luck
Author:  SiNfUl [ Wed Sep 30, 2009 1:34 pm ]
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You should ALWAYS DHV, regardless of your relationship status.

Do not ACT busy, be busy. Have your own sets of friends, take up a hobby, whatever. To many guys meet a girl they are interested in and all of a sudden she becomes the center of their universe (this is why it seems like the guy loves her more)...HUGE mistake.
Author:  xChocolate [ Tue Oct 06, 2009 3:00 pm ]
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I diddent read your reply until now, but damit i should of, i made her become "my universe" and i've been feeling like crap all along because she isnt so much in love with me than im with her.

i've been trying to hard too make it work between her and me meanwhile i should of just been having fun.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Wed Oct 07, 2009 2:01 pm ]
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You should ALWAYS DHV, regardless of your relationship status.

Do not ACT busy, be busy. Have your own sets of friends, take up a hobby, whatever. To many guys meet a girl they are interested in and all of a sudden she becomes the center of their universe (this is why it seems like the guy loves her more)...HUGE mistake.
EVERYONE I REPEAT EVERYONE in a relationship or getting a girl OR EVEN WHEN gaming one ALWAYS follow this guideline.
HUGE MISTAKE especially when the girl dumps you ... suddenly the center of the universe is getting dumped and not much is left - the more important the girl is the more you loose when thinks go wrong.
NEVER build your life around a girl ... even when you are together for a few years.

this doesn't mean you shouldn't be investing in the girl ... invest the in the girl when your in comfort zone or you got a young relationship - you should always be number one.
Author:  SRVisGod24 [ Tue Oct 13, 2009 11:22 am ]
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You should ALWAYS DHV, regardless of your relationship status.

Do not ACT busy, be busy. Have your own sets of friends, take up a hobby, whatever. To many guys meet a girl they are interested in and all of a sudden she becomes the center of their universe (this is why it seems like the guy loves her more)...HUGE mistake.
EVERYONE I REPEAT EVERYONE in a relationship or getting a girl OR EVEN WHEN gaming one ALWAYS follow this guideline.
HUGE MISTAKE especially when the girl dumps you ... suddenly the center of the universe is getting dumped and not much is left - the more important the girl is the more you loose when thinks go wrong.
NEVER build your life around a girl ... even when you are together for a few years.

this doesn't mean you shouldn't be investing in the girl ... invest the in the girl when your in comfort zone or you got a young relationship - you should always be number one.
I made that mistake A LOT when I first started getting serious about relationships. The girl was always the center of whatever of I was doing and thinking. And then of course came the realization that I loved her way more than she loved me.

Now I put more value into what I'm doing and having fun without thinking about her ALL the time. It's helped my relationships and my game in general
Author:  xChocolate [ Wed Oct 14, 2009 12:00 pm ]
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ï've followed what you guys said, i'm busy now, i go to the gym, hang with my friends, but i also spend time with her... and i feel really great!

althought i'm mad. i feel like im trying more to make this relationship work than she is.

she have been abused by guys before and havent had a really serious relationship before, but she tells me she really wants it to work and that she is ready for a real relationship.

but i really dont wanna invest in something that might not work, i rather keep playing around until she tells me she love me.

what should i do?
Author:  SRVisGod24 [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 11:45 am ]
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ï've followed what you guys said, i'm busy now, i go to the gym, hang with my friends, but i also spend time with her... and i feel really great!

althought i'm mad. i feel like im trying more to make this relationship work than she is.

she have been abused by guys before and havent had a really serious relationship before, but she tells me she really wants it to work and that she is ready for a real relationship.

but i really dont wanna invest in something that might not work, i rather keep playing around until she tells me she love me.

what should i do?
Truthfully, I think you need to tell her what you're feeling. Cause if she isn't willing to put more effort into the relationship then it's not worth it for you to stay around when there's a billion other chicks out there that will put plenty of effort into a relationship
Author:  Chim [ Thu Oct 15, 2009 1:19 pm ]
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but i really dont wanna invest in something that might not work, i rather keep playing around until she tells me she love me.
Tbh thats the biggest part of serious committed relationships, putting investment not knowing what you'll get in return.

If you're serious about it, playing around until you know it's the real deal will can only cause harm.

By all means take it slow and like others have said your partner should be a part (or even a big part) of your world but she shouldn't be your world by herself.
Author:  magnum45 [ Fri Oct 16, 2009 7:31 pm ]
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recently i've played around for 1 year, dating alot of girls and so on, now i've meet this new girl which i fell in love with, but the problem is that i DLV because it seems like im more in love with her than she is with me?


How should i act to make it work in the beginning? should i show her that i like her alot or should i DHV and act busy?



thanks in advance.


i've totaly forgot about how it feels to be in love, so im a newbie to serious relationships
You must be in a lot of pain? If so then the only thing I can think of is to forget about her and move on. It is easier than being in pain for months. Maybe you can use some game to get her to think about you in a different way. I don't know. What do you think?
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