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Author:  holler45 [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 12:02 pm ]
Post subject:  How should the relationship change things?
hey,

im now in a relationship w/a cool girl who i got using a lot of the PUA techniques i learned here.....but now i dont know how to play it......i dont want to stop doing the PUA things that i did to get to this point because they worked so well that im afraid if i stop doing them ill lose her interest.....some examples are:

1) before i would only call her/see her once or twice a wk..now should i do it more or the same?

2) she wants me to say shit like "i miss you", "i like you", etc... these are things that i know i shouldn't say when im just dating her, but how bout now? if i dont say it, she gets angry...

..i know i cant turn into a pussy now..but im having trouble changing at all..i need some advice on wat changes u should make between just picking up versus actually having a gf?
Author:  870 [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 3:42 pm ]
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1) Call whenever you want to, but keep this piece of advice in mind: A wise man talks because he has something to say. A fool talks because he has to say something.

2) Once again, if you miss her, say so. Not every five minutes or at the end of every phone conversation, of course, but if you feel it, it's fine to let her know. Some people would even say it's endearing. Same goes for "I like you," "I love you," "You look stunning tonight," etc. etc.

Stop trying to live up to some bullshit identity you've invented for yourself and just BE YOU, man. That's the guy she wants to be dating anyway :)

Your boy,
870
Author:  thelenzel [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 5:15 pm ]
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You don't exactly have to keep gaming her to keep things interested, just continue being an alpha male, continue with your C&F style.
Saying that you like her and miss her while you're on a relationship is different than when you're just dating, because she's actually your girlfriend now, and you're no longer the guy that gamed her, if you know what I mean ...? ...
Just don't become a wuss now.
In fact she will be happy to know that you've missed her. Its a relationship now, its time to spice it up with your romantic stuff, without becoming a wuss. :)
Author:  holler45 [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 5:42 pm ]
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yo,

deep down i know you guys are right...but..

1) in my past relationships ive turned into a wuss...thats y im worried (maybe overly concerned) that it'll happen again

2) playing game (ie, calling her infrequently, not saying "i like you", etc...) is working so so so fuckin well.....shouldnt i expect that itll keep working? wont it keep me in control in the relationship?
Author:  870 [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 6:46 pm ]
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Looking at relationships as a power struggle is a 100% guaranteed way to make sure you never have a fulfilling one. Trying to lord control over her might make you feel good in the short term, but you're just deluding yourself. Keep it up and she will eventually get tired of your aloofness and look elsewhere, and you'll be left heartbroken and pissed at yourself for not being upfront and honest with her about how you felt.

The alternative, of course, is to be that cool confident guy who's secure enough in his masculinity to communicate honestly with his girlfriend on an emotional level. Which would you rather date? :)

Your boy,
870
Author:  thelenzel [ Fri Jul 31, 2009 7:19 pm ]
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870 Is right, and I understand what you mean by turning into a wuss in a relationship, that's one reason I'm scared of being in a relationship is to become too emotionally attached and become a wuss / be afraid of loosing her.

You just need to be confident (Yea, coming from myself confidence isn't really a word in my vocabulary ) but I know she doesn't want you turning into a complete different guy.
You can still be relationship material without having to become a wuss hehe.
Just be yourself.
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Sun Aug 02, 2009 3:33 pm ]
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lol i don't know why but i have to say this

id fuck her until her brains fall out
Author:  Marc [ Sun Aug 02, 2009 4:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How should the relationship change things?
Quote:
hey,

im now in a relationship w/a cool girl who i got using a lot of the PUA techniques i learned here.....but now i dont know how to play it......i dont want to stop doing the PUA things that i did to get to this point because they worked so well that im afraid if i stop doing them ill lose her interest.....some examples are:

1) before i would only call her/see her once or twice a wk..now should i do it more or the same?

2) she wants me to say shit like "i miss you", "i like you", etc... these are things that i know i shouldn't say when im just dating her, but how bout now? if i dont say it, she gets angry...

..i know i cant turn into a pussy now..but im having trouble changing at all..i need some advice on wat changes u should make between just picking up versus actually having a gf?
I think you are thinking too much. You should try to relax and enjoy her company. Out of every 5 times she asks you to say that you like her say it once. Call her infrequently but not soo much that she thinks you are not interested.

Girls like to talk on the phone. So if you feel like talking to her more than do so but make sure that you dont end up being her 'girlfriend' !!
Author:  Philly B [ Tue Aug 04, 2009 8:48 pm ]
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The relationship should be more natural than you are making it sound. Everything should flow and you should not be worrying about what you're saying and not saying.

Seems at the least you should find some middle ground between what she wants and what you want. I know you don't want to be bitched, I know I try not to be as well in mine, but relationships can also be different. Some couples are more detached with their emotions and feelings while others are more affectionate.

Just take the relationship how you want to, don't worry how you look in front of your buddies, don't be whipped but don't be ignorant to what she needs.
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