Ok, pickup of a lifetime...maybe not to yall, but to me. Here's the story, I'll try to be as interesting as possible.
My ex and I dated for 4 years and broke up in January. I still love and miss her TREMENDOUSLY. I joined the PUA community because, well, I wanted to tools of a) getting a new, better GF or b) getting her back.
When we split, I told her I'll get over you, it won't take me long, not because you aren't special but if we didn't work out we didn't work out. There are plenty of beautiful women in the sea.
6 months go by, no contact. I called her while I was at a club on a Vegas trip after sarging a few women over there. Women were talking in the background, and we had a casual conversation.
I froze her out for another month or so. She sends me her number saying "Here's my number, figured I'd give it to you"
I NEVER responded nor called her.
I called her 4 days ago, we talked for 10 minutes, she said I goto go I got friends over. This, I believe, was her tactic to make me jealous. She said I'll call you later if you want, I said "10-4, ttyl". She didn't call.
I sent her a text today, Saying I have plans at 9 but I'm free until then. You need to ask me to hang out because I never ask to hang out with anyone, it always just happens that way.
She responds back with "Im going out tonight but I dono when and right now I'm free"
I reply "first of all, it's I dunno, phonetically
, second of all I never pull the trigger first"I call her, no answer. Thought I fucked it all up. Go into my room where I started to feel crappy, and because I get no cell phone coverage. Good freeze out tactic. I go outside to smoke after 30 minutes and BAM, 3 txt messages from her.
Sorry I didn't answer, what do you wana do, etc. I replied back FOOD. I don't wana drink on an empty stomach.
She calls, good attitude, ALMOST club energy (because, hey, I'm excited about goin out to a club tonight, right?)
I pick her up, hard to get body language. She starts bringing up memories. I say I don't remember that. We play a couple of songs on my CD player in my car, songs that were "our songs". I change them, not bc of bitterness but because of boredom. Neg much? I continue to own the conversation, continue with stories that demonstrate higher value. She does the same, we are back in forth. She begins to fold, I believe she was getting jealous. Perfect point to start building comfort I thought.
We start going a little deeper with conversation. I text this girl I'm seeing at the moment, and WALA she's going out tonight at 9. I tell her to call me with details. I act like I already knew. I ask whose gona be there, she says "Erin, Amy and me." I turn up my phone loud enough for her to hear that.
My ex gets very jealous, and starts to call and txt everybody. She ends up making plans. I do a total freeze out, cut the comfort building and go back to fun party guy.
She gets her plans, and asks me to drop her off. I say sure. On the way out of the car I say give me a hug I haven't seen you in a while. She HUGS me, and I mean HUGS THE SHIT OUTA ME. Passionate hug. And then she kisses me on the cheek. I say what was that for? And she says I don't know. I say well it wasn't good enough. We kiss on the lips, no tongue, for about 5 seconds, but she is kissing me HARD. She gets out of the car, and I say I'll call you.
End of story.
Oh, and of course I didn't go out, too tired, but hey, it worked great on me.
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I just wana say THANK YOU to all you mother fuckers out there, the PUA community is about to help me really get the love of my life back into a relationship, and for that I am eternally grateful. Our 3 hour date tonight was played, in my opinion, extremely well. Before I woulda begged, cried, etc. There are so many subconscious IOI's she gave me tonight it was unbelievable, and if not for the PUA community, I woulda missed em all.
I'm going to wait until monday to call her, and I'm trying my damndest to NOT fuck this up.
Wish me luck, pray for me that I get this girl back. I love her so much still (although I would NEVER, EVER say that to her this early on) and if I get her back I'll give you guys all the credit.
Again, thank you, very much, and God speed on all of your pickups, now and in the future