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| Author: | allsouledout [ Mon Jun 01, 2009 1:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | dropped off face of the earth ? |
Been dating a girl for about two weeks. Everyday up until id say 3-4 days ago was a non-stop text fest... never running out of things to say to each other and it was what i was getting used to. i slept with her, turned her world upside down, got her to affirm i was the best shes ever had. we both liked eachother a LOT... she has always been telling me she missed me, and likewise so have I... but i made it a point to only see each other sparingly. now back to the topic, she picked me up the night before, and we slept at a friends house of whom she knew. the next day, i text her... she replies she "just got off work", and is "about to take a nap", i say "okay ttyl"... midnight rolls around; im with a friend, still no word from her. I check her twitter, shes awake and out! i still dont initiate conversation at this time thinking she got caught up with her friends or whatever. no big deal...but really strange and unexpected, considering relationship build up prior to this, i would have usually gotten texts like crazy from her. next day hits (yesterday) i text her around 4-5pm, saying "whats up", she says "hey", i say "havent heard from you", she says nothing. ok. done texting for the day... record low. usually its non stop texting throughout the day, just shooting the shit with each other. surprising. today rolls around, text goes like this: I send "no more?" replies: "?" response: "i havent really heard from you?" no reply, fast fwd 7 hours, i text her: "whats with the drop in communication...? i dont get it?" no response. anyone see this pattern before? cant put my finger on what went wrong, but the intrigue is how she has the balls to even dead me so fast haha... considering i was her best lay, and shared an insane amount of commonalities. we got along great. it really was the start of something beautiful.... i mean ideally i would love to resume our relationship but seems like itd be a lost cause if shes acting like this. however, any ways to get her to explain herself? |
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| Author: | Bonita [ Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:28 am ] |
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Constant communication like that is bound to slow down...we all know that. I understand your position. I have felt the same way as you before. You wonder what went wrong. And usually, the answer is NOTHING. Eventually it has to slow down. But then you displayed clingy and needy behaviors. You weren't the same guy anymore. You need to back off from the needy texts saying "we haven't talked in a while what is up with that." I realize it is different, but it is okay. You simply can't talk all day everyday. I'm not sure how/if one recovers from this. You can try pulling back but she might have already pulled back too much. |
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| Author: | allsouledout [ Mon Jun 01, 2009 6:25 am ] |
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damm..did i really seem that needy asking her that? i wouldnt have thought so but okay maybe... i simply just felt warranted to ask. i didnt really bother her about it either. when she didnt write back i did the same. but i mean like....i dont understand? should i have said nothing? EDIT: btw...not sure if this is considered a "slowing down" in communication. it just stopped cold--abruptly. im under the impression shes not looking to continue dating at all- just wild...i mean ive deaded chicks this same exact way before but different circumstances... they were one night stands. i felt totally guiltless in not returning their calls etc.. but with this chick, we had something goin on. plus we share mutual friends. boggles my mind how shes seriously pulling this off. just 3 days ago she was telling me how much she misses me. trying to figure this out is like having an itch but you dunno where to scratch....in other words, leaving this whole thing wide open without closure is a bitch- so i guess ill have to just let it kill me and not look to her for answers lol wow this is gonna suckk ^^ thanks for your reply- |
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