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| Author: | ACM [ Sat Apr 11, 2009 1:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to remain ALPHA in a LTR |
Can you guys help me with books? Or articles? Or links? On how to remain Alpha in a relationship. I know this is a broad question. But the specific subjects I am looking help in is the Jealousy issue and Protectiveness Issue. I am 20 years young, and in a LTR with an HB9 gogo dancer//model I am not experienced in relationships, on how to deal with jealousy, or even dating a hot girl for that matter. My girl likes the feeling of being protected and feeling owned, but how much is too far? How much goes into being too needy or jealous? The other night we were in Hollywood and went to a club together. My girl was wearing a hot scandelous dress which I loved. But right and left guys were hollering at her, hitting on her, giving her looks. I was trying my hardest not to portray any AFC qualities but it was soo hard. The raging latino in me wanted to kill every mother f*cker there who gave my girl a look or even said hi to her. I just did my best to stand tall, keep my head up high, and proudly walk with my girl by my side. But inside I was dying. Any tips on how to deal with further situations like this? Why am i acting like this? I hate wanting to kill every mofo who looks at my girl wrong. How do you guys deal with dating a HB with killer looks, while being protective but not over protective. Thanks much love |
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| Author: | The-candy [ Sun Apr 12, 2009 10:43 pm ] |
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Dude take it as a compliment that ur girl gets hit on and dont be afraid at all its that simple dont forget to also have other girls in your life even if they arent girl friends , u can look but u cant touch their might be a better solution but showing that u pissed kinda ruined it so its good you didnt . might even be cool to laugh about it if u can still be the guy qualifying her 
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| Author: | sorin93 [ Mon Apr 13, 2009 3:20 am ] |
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^^^ agree 100% a lot of it just comes down to being cool, calm & collected. just be laid back in that situation. and keep your value. you have the girl, they don't. |
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| Author: | ACM [ Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:31 am ] |
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Thanks for the replies you anything helps I wish there was more material out there on how to deal with relationships, because they do mess with you in the head aloottt!!! |
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| Author: | Risen [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 6:44 pm ] |
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I know how you feel man! Ive been dating my gf for the past 4 months and relationships are new to me. I always dread becoming the jealous boyfriend, but sometimes I get very annoyed and angry when she gets hit on, mentions old hookups, or talks about her ex's. I am still trying very hard to come to terms with this and not be too jealous. I guess a little jealously is ok, but its bad to overdo it! In the end it has to come down to trust and if you really care about each other. I guess its normal to feel like this, but its weird if you are going through it for the first time in your life. You are never told how relationships are going to be, so books on that would def help, although every relationship is special in its own way. Anyways Im not sure how much I can help because im going through the same stuff you are but....congrats on bagging a hottie!! |
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| Author: | jsquared [ Sun Apr 19, 2009 11:19 pm ] |
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ACM.....dude.....wow........ "I wish there was more material on relationships....." That is by far the WEAKEST thing I've ever heard someone say. This is proof that the psychoanalyitical approach to game is WRONG. You can't take apart everything and script it. Things can be analyzed after the fact to learn a mistake, but in the end its all a "flowing" entity, that can't be completely categorized. Thats why so many guys who switch to relationships FAIL, because they think WAY to much. You can't put alot of thought into relationships. Its fine to feel territorial, but it needs to be TEMPERED. If guys are hitting on her, take pride in the fact you have her and they have their hand. You can be a strong confident male and still show care for her and her feelings. The transcedant goal of a monogamous relationship is to put her needs above yours (and her for you in vice versa). Being a strong confident male in a relationship only requires that you stand by what you feel and don't back down from it. |
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