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| Author: | Konfusion [ Fri Apr 10, 2009 5:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | hard to get a sexual frame back...need help understand this. |
ok i'm in a LDR with a girl for about a month now and as we've been getting closer it's like her mind has shifted thought processes. I'm trying to figure out why and how i can get it back to be more balanced (ill explain further). ok...she started off very sexual, and claiming to me how she didnt understand what i was doing to her blah blah blah....this is good, it was exciting, i want it back as frequently as it was before. over time she has progressed more and more towards a mind frame where she's CONSTANTLY positively emotional towards me...going on and on about how much she likes me all that jazz. I seriously think she's "in love" with me and is trying to constantly see if my feelings match up with hers. However, i dont give it all to her, i tell her a little bit every once in awhile but for the good stuff i tell her she'll have to find out when she comes here. OK, heres where it gets confusing...now that her head seems to be completely in the clouds with these feelings, it seems VERY tough to get her back into a sexual frame. This is what sucks about damn LDR's, i know that if this were in person i could arouse her physically and lead her to do what i want. I simply want a balance or combination between the two. she does not DENY the thought but she usually will "shift" slightly in that direction, and then say something like "yeah well if i were there i'd love to" Im starting to think maybe im being too available to her (even though i still make time for my friends and live my own life outside of her) so im trying to get back to the gym and pick up old interests that i lost well before i met her. Thanks guys |
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| Author: | nightrider767 [ Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:27 am ] |
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I read through your post and wonder if you are hoping for too much from a LDR. I mean there are limits. Personlly, I wouldn't sweat it. Phone talk and texting in the long run don't mean shit when compared to the chemistry of when you are together. I wouldn't worry too much. Really seems like you got a handle on it. Just make sure you frame things correctly for when you actually get together. It's the time you spend tegether that will define things, not the calls and texts. Just keep doing what you're doing and be ready to have some fun when she arrives. LDRs are real drag. Good luck! |
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