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| Author: | stunt101 [ Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Asking her to be your gf |
When is it the best time to ask her to be your gf? When you have k-closed, f-closed, gone out on a date three times, or what? And how exactly should you ask? |
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| Author: | Jav [ Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:27 pm ] |
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I'm kinda confused by what you mean with taking her out and going on a date.. It's the same thing right? |
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| Author: | 870 [ Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:39 pm ] |
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There isn't a "best time" because you shouldn't ever ask. If she is going to be your girlfriend, it will become official without any discussion. You should be too busy having fun with her to think about this kinda stuff. Your boy, 870 |
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| Author: | Jav [ Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:46 pm ] |
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Alright, Thank you for clearing up the title stunt. Like 870 said there isn't a perfect time. Atleast you probably have already passed that perfect time. Because the only moment people ask each other to be boyfriend and girlfriend is on elementary school. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:02 pm ] |
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Moving thread to Relationships section. |
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| Author: | stunt101 [ Fri Feb 06, 2009 12:46 am ] |
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Yea, noticed the topic wasn't very clear lol The thing is I want to make it official somehow because it seems like it's very possible for a girl to cheat when it isn't explicit enough. Even if you game really well, there is a possibility that she will wander and fuck a guy cuz it wasn't made "official". As AFC or "elementary" as it sounds, I want to still "ask" and any advice or wording will suffice. Thanks! |
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| Author: | 870 [ Fri Feb 06, 2009 1:17 am ] |
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If a girl sleeps with someone else at this stage, she either isn't as in to you as you think (and would therefore reject your "request" anyway) or is predisposed to doing so and no amount of "officialdom" is gonna change her actions. Either way, you should be happy you found out now rather than investing more time and energy in a relationship that is going nowhere. Formalities are meaningless. Make her laugh, make her happy, make her cum. Enjoy the ride  Your boy, 870 |
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| Author: | stunt101 [ Fri Feb 06, 2009 1:34 am ] |
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I'm aware of that, but can someone just answer my question straight up and stop dancing around it...  Oh, and these forums are so boring without PUA chat 
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| Author: | Locke [ Fri Feb 06, 2009 2:19 am ] |
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Onion Theory....look for it in this section |
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| Author: | Eharpaz [ Tue Mar 10, 2009 12:28 am ] |
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Stunt i get what you mean when u say you still want to make it official in some way. Im not looking for any title in my relationship but i am looking for an easy to make it known that i want it to be monogamous.. just me and her.. there does not need to be a title like that. Any ideas guys? |
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| Author: | stunt101 [ Tue Mar 10, 2009 3:32 am ] |
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Now that you've dug up this topic again, I'll just contribute with what I've found out. Basically what everyone is trying to say is that if your game is good enough, there will be no question whether you guys are going out or not, despite the fact that you had not verbally announced it. However, there will be those times where not making it "official" can make it a problem. Such as: 1. If there was a "player" who has just as good of game as you do or even better, she might consider having a fling with him since well, you didn't actually make it official. 2. She talks with her gal friends and it's brung up that she's been showing a lot of interest with you, but she notices you haven't actually asked her out. These can lead to all these other thoughts you might not want to deal with such as she thinks she is a slut, she thinks you're a player, she's not sure whether monogamy will be an issue, etc. Even if you say that, "well it won't happen to me" or "that won't happen cuz she's not that type of girl that'll do that" it makes it far more likely to not happen if you actually say it. So what should you say? Well, haven't really come out with the best way to say it, but basically this is what I would do: "Hey, listen. You've been (her attractive characteristics) and it's been great. Let's make it exclusive." Basically you are telling her to be in a relationship with you, not asking and to reinforce what you just insisted, you have given her reasons why she's good enough to be with you. |
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| Author: | Eharpaz [ Tue Mar 10, 2009 6:10 am ] |
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I actually really like that line Stunt, its simple and to the point. Just tells her that u want it to be just you and her, exclusive. Im gonna use this unless someone has a reason why it would be a bad idea? Ive been dating this girl since December and feel like something should be said about monogamy? |
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| Author: | KPrincess91 [ Wed Mar 11, 2009 1:52 am ] |
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hi dear! firstly, you should check your emotion with her. Do you really love her? if that, choose the suitable time and place to say 'i love you' to her.take the chance. don't let it pass by and you will regret.good luck! |
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| Author: | ZEGlass [ Wed Mar 11, 2009 4:10 am ] |
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Quote: hi dear!
Quoted for truth. Pro'ly, a lot of people feel pressured to say "I love you" a lot earlier into a relationship than they should. Going steady and expressing love for one another does seem like a rather good pairing, though.firstly, you should check your emotion with her. Do you really love her? if that, choose the suitable time and place to say 'i love you' to her.take the chance. don't let it pass by and you will regret.good luck! Alternately, you could be charmingly funny about it. Get down on one knee, tell her she's "pretty okay for a girl," offer her a plastic ring from Chuck-E-Cheese or one made from a twistie-tie, and ask, "Will you be my steady girl?" |
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| Author: | stunt101 [ Wed Mar 11, 2009 4:28 am ] |
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My first gf in the AFC days I told her I loved her and that I wanted to be her girlfriend. I was basically the bitch throughout the relationship - horrible. You should only drop the "I love you" line when you truly mean it, but saying it when asking her to be exclusive with you will give her too much power way too early unless she has already said it. ZEGlass, I like that idea, but telling her she is "pretty okay for a girl" is going to give her a negative response because: 1. You're coming at it from an elementary school mentality. 2. She's pretty OK and that's why you want to go out with her? Standards are low. |
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