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Author:  Headstock [ Sun Jan 04, 2009 6:45 pm ]
Post subject:  really need help with a hole i've dug
right so i've been digging my hole for ages. when i got with my current girlfriend, i thought we was only seeing each other. so i slept with two other people in the first month. then i was faithful....ish (as in jsut kissed some people since then, nothing else) so after a month it was my birthday and she came out with me and my friends, my friends in theyre drunken stupidness told her i'd cheated, so i denied it.

So then this girl i've liked for years asks me if i wanna go out with her and her mates, so i do. we get friendly, no kissin or ne thin, just friendly. i go out with them a few more times, and then this girl tells me by text she fancies me. so i tell her i do to, and tell her i havent got a girlfriend. we never did ne thing together in the time we knew about eachothers likes, But still she and her friends think i'm single.

so then i buy the game, my girlfriend reads it coz i'm on another book, and she liked it, so i read it, i find this site, and try out some of the PU i've learned. she doesnt know that i'm trying it out and such. so i meet this girl who i really like and could just keep as a just seeing girl.

But i really like my girlfriend. she's funny and likes the same things as me. only problems: sex is boring, she's short and stubby(tho thats a good thing too. one of the things i like about her, but i like taller women too.), she's at uni about an hour and half away, and she's very emotional.

i really wanna stay friends with her and maybe i'll get back with her eventually who knows, but i wanna get with this other girl, and play the feild and get good at PU. i jsut dont know how to let this girl down. :(
Author:  Marlow [ Mon Jan 05, 2009 3:19 am ]
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Sounds like you need some more time to think about it, you have a lot of mixed emotions in there it seems like. Best thing I could recommend is talking to her about her lameness in bed, but in a positive way, like suggest stuff.
Author:  Headstock [ Mon Jan 05, 2009 7:29 am ]
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well i've tried to suggest stuff during before, but its always the same. i really dont know. i've been feeling like this for a while now tho. i mean origanly, i was only gonna be with her from may when we met untill september when she went to uni, but then she forgot about that bit, and we stayed together till now.

I've had a bit of a depression lately, so would it be a good idea to tell her i need a break to sort my head out? so that i'm not breaking up, but i'm not entirely with her?
Author:  Locke [ Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:23 pm ]
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rubber band theory: you need space to reignite your emotions, and she isn't giving it too you.

You don't need to take a full fledged break, but tell her you need a little space; not because you want to venture off, but because you want to recreate sparks--the best way to do that is to lessen the amount of time you spend together.
Author:  Marlow [ Tue Jan 06, 2009 2:33 am ]
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Sounds nice in theory, but think of it this way: How would you react if she started dating someone else while your sort-of broken up?
Author:  Headstock [ Tue Jan 06, 2009 3:41 am ]
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yeah i know but still. and also dude, she's at uni i probs see her for like 2 days for 2 weeks or someting, but she phones me everyday. met up with that other girl this evening. omg guys she so hot but still. i got a date with her on thursday. i dont know what to do. coz this date is all in my hands anyway. i could kiss her at anytime and i know it, or i could jsut keep it as friends.

Headstock
Author:  Locke [ Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:22 am ]
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Sounds nice in theory, but think of it this way: How would you react if she started dating someone else while your sort-of broken up?

that is why you are getting space, not taking a break....
Author:  Headstock [ Mon Jan 12, 2009 1:28 pm ]
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oh god, i suggested going for a break the other day and she did not take well to it. i managed to recover from it (including make up sex ;) ) but it still dont give me answers to my question. i'm sposed to be meeting that other girl 2nite and then goin for a walk with her 2morra and then going to her house.

I'm nearly at china now lol.

Headstock
Author:  Locke [ Mon Jan 12, 2009 3:06 pm ]
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then try using the advice that was given to you; none of which was to take a break.....
Author:  Headstock [ Mon Jan 12, 2009 3:50 pm ]
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but the ting is we dont see each other that often ne way. jsut every few weeks for like a week. so i cant really use that as an excuse, coz she flips at that.

or if i do use it, is there any other way to put it?

Headstock
Author:  Locke [ Mon Jan 12, 2009 4:14 pm ]
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well when you see her every couple of weeks, only hang out with her for two or three days, instead of seven.

and change the phone dynamic-instead of talking on the phone every single day, talk on the phone every OTHER day, and just text the days you dont talk.

if you like the girl, and like the relationship....but find yourself getting sick of her/it quickly, then maybe you should rethink the relationship all together?
Author:  Headstock [ Mon Jan 12, 2009 4:20 pm ]
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hmm i've ben think bout the relationship for ages now lol.

but yeah that phone thing and seeing her only a few days will work i think.

Thanks Locke :)
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