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Author:  StaceyJaxx [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:16 am ]
Post subject:  Giving a Ring... but not "THE" ring
This question is more for the girls, than the guys so Bonita, Fly - and ZIP

Get on it.

Back story - The girl, is super fantastic awesome - brings a sense of peace to me I've never known, kisses me like the first time everytime, doesn't let me get away with shit, but supports me and trusts me unconditionally - Genuinely - Loves me, like, make a life together Love... but without being overwelming over bearing or in anyway lame. AWESOME.

She's never let anyone get close to her before me, so a lot of times I have to kind of, explain the motives behind my actions and my intentions with her, so she doesn't think I'm moving too quickly or too slowly.

I'm giving her a present that can be confused for MUCH MORE than what it is meant to be. The gift is a modest, simple, Tiffany & Co RING Its the feminine version of a ring I've had for years that she adores -

The trick here is it's a RING and I want to express to her... that its not a "promise ring" or an "engagement offer" anything like that...
Wording that so it doesnt take away from feelings I have in giving her the gift, but doesnt give her the wrong idea that I'm ready to get married either?

I want to present it in a way, that says "I'm giving you this ring, (not for her ring finger, it will fit her middle finger on the L hand) as a symbol of my full dedication to you as a woman. Not only as a lover, or a girlfriend, or as my best friend but as a sign of my full circle interest in you as a person. I want it to remind you that I'm always on your side, and just a little wrapped around your finger...

Ideas for presentation??

THANKS GIRLS ;)

... AND GUYS! If you've done this before!?
Author:  StaceyJaxx [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 1:36 am ]
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... yea tricky my dad told me the SAME THING

Not to say I wouldn't... She's major value in my life

Just not tomorrow!

Thanks for the GL wishes, I think I'm just going to have to jump in... see how it goes. haha I'll update ;)

... my precious ;)
Author:  Bonita [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:01 am ]
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maybe you could put it on a necklace. That way she sees a ring on a necklace and not "omg a ring!"

And then explain to her that you just think she is special and wanted to get it for her etc....
Author:  StaceyJaxx [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:13 am ]
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Tricky thing is mama... she's SO not a ring on a necklace kinda girl...

She's like - get my nails done, femme, lady lady

Its def a ring - updated thoughts?

I mean I'm not saying I don't want to give her a ring, i just need to make it clear that its not THE ring... without taking away from the fact that it is ... in truth, A ring.
Author:  Bonita [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 5:53 am ]
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Hmmm that makes it tougher...

Maybe if you present in in a way like "I saw this ring and I thought it was fitting for you. So I wanted to get it for you." Explain it before she opens the gift or before you present it. That way she won't have the initial reaction such as "omg it is a ring what type of ring is it." By time she sees what you got her she already know you bought it because it reminded you of her and you thought she'd like it etc.
Author:  Whoopie [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 6:18 am ]
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If you want to get her a present I would go with a bracelet. Doesn't even have to be something expensive. They got all different types of bracelets out there now. You know the kind that have like different symbols on them. IE: Lips, smiles, etc.

Be creative with it so everytime she looks at it. It will remind her of the good times and whats to come.

^Look I can be very Romantic! :D
Author:  Playerone [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 6:59 am ]
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Quote:
I find it funny a thread about a ring attracted me to read it.

"My precious"
I lol'd ><
Author:  Chief [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 8:13 am ]
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What if you hand it to her casually without any packaging or any sense of formality? And then tell her how special she is to you and whatnot and that you felt like getting her this ring that'll fit on her middle finger. I'd follow that up with, "I know it's a RING, but if you get the wrong idea I'm gonna spank you. :wink:"
Author:  flypapermeems [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 5:45 pm ]
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i say give it to her. if she already has pointed out that she loves it, it's something she wants, go for it. but tell her in plain and simple terms that it doesn't mean you're engaged. i like the full circle interest bit and the wrapped around your finger bit, very cute.

my ex-bf gave me a ring, which i still wear. i happen to like rings and it was one that i really loved, plus it doesn't fit my ring finger which made things less complicated.
so make sure it fits a different finger besides ring, and be clear in your intentions.
Author:  StaceyJaxx [ Sat Dec 27, 2008 7:30 pm ]
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Chief, Fly - Loves it...

I'll post later how it goes... more than likely under a LR

Thanks Friends!
Author:  StaceyJaxx [ Tue Dec 30, 2008 11:24 pm ]
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So for those of you waiting for the follow up...

She was totally cool about it! Didn't have to explain a thing! She was happy surprised apreciative and cried. Immediately put it on her middle finger and said i'm sure it's meant to go here like yours right?

She's dreamy

Thx for your help guys (and ladies) :)
Author:  Roads [ Tue Dec 30, 2008 11:29 pm ]
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Awwwwwwwww
Author:  flypapermeems [ Wed Dec 31, 2008 12:42 am ]
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*thunderous applause*
i'm so glad it went well :) yay!!
Author:  David~ [ Wed Dec 31, 2008 1:39 pm ]
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Golf-clap*
Author:  Locke [ Wed Dec 31, 2008 1:56 pm ]
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I find it funny a thread about a ring attracted me to read it.

"My precious"

But on a serious note, my father once said "never get a girl a ring unless your getting married." And that is completely true, no matter the presentation it has a certain subtext, given by society. The ONLY way I could see this subtext being thwarted is by making the ring a necklace, but even then it seems like it'd still have that nasty after taste of commitment.

Good luck :)

uhhhh in what context did you get this fatherly advice? Because I try to look back, and I can't recall being sat down and told anything like that!!

hobbit....be myyyy daddy.


Oh, and there are many MANY presents you can give to symbolize you love and affection that are NOT a ring. I would go with any other option.

If you are going to do it regardless, then just casually throw it on her bed when she isn't home. That way you can give it to her indirectly, and she will never suspect you are requesting anything. Just a cute present from you to her. She may even call you in there to see how it looks "on." Then seduce your face.
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