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Author:  bonexcrusher [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 4:01 am ]
Post subject:  Bring me back to reality
Heres my current relationship situation: im known my current gf for 4 or 5 months and we've been dating for 1.5 months. I was the first person she had sex with and we have been moving relatively quickly compared to most highschool relationships. Im 17 and shes 18. She sent me an email today telling me that if i asked, she would marry me after graduation. and quote,
"there is no doubt in mind, none at all, that you are the person i want to spend every moment of my life with. i cannot imagine myself with any other person but you." I've always been the type that wants to settle down quickly, thats why i got into the game. This is exactly what i want and im on cloud 9 right now. But brg me back to reality, what are the chances this will work and is not mere infatuation?
Author:  Sexcellent [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Bring me back to reality
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Heres my current relationship situation: im known my current gf for 4 or 5 months and we've been dating for 1.5 months. I was the first person she had sex with and we have been moving relatively quickly compared to most highschool relationships. Im 17 and shes 18. She sent me an email today telling me that if i asked, she would marry me after graduation. and quote,
"there is no doubt in mind, none at all, that you are the person i want to spend every moment of my life with. i cannot imagine myself with any other person but you." I've always been the type that wants to settle down quickly, thats why i got into the game. This is exactly what i want and im on cloud 9 right now. But brg me back to reality, what are the chances this will work and is not mere infatuation?
you're right, it sounds like infatuatoin.

to bring you back to reality: power can shift quickly in a relationship. if she said that about you after just a month,a year from now, some other guy may get to know her for 2 months! perhaps she might fall for him instead. if you don't maintain this relationship properly, you may be sending her an email like that to her to try and keep her with you.

that was just to bring you back to reality.

here's what i really think:

some people are gonna say get out cause she's getting too clingy, but i disagree. you are in a great position here. maintain the relationship, and keep things going in the direction that YOU want them to go. the ball is in YOUR side of the court. i'm not sure who said this, i think it might have been David X in his book "be relentless", but he basically said that the person who loves the least in a relationship, is the one who controls the relationship.
Author:  Synckpua [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 10:55 am ]
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if u feel the same way then get engaged for awhile and see how it goes people do it all the time sometimes years so just make sure ur making a quality decision
Author:  bonexcrusher [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 4:01 pm ]
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ok heres a more recent email update, this is what she sent me:the way i see it... i have no future without you, so basically we can never spit up or im pretty much screwed. lol (but seriously) i can see us laying on our bed in our room with our baby in between us. i love that picture. our baby is gonna be the cutest little damn thing, ill tell you that for sure. and im just wondering but why would you think i wouldnt feel the same way? and another question, why wouldnt i have you to be my husband? i would marry you now if you asked me (althought that may show our parents that we are active, and we would probably look wierd getting married in HS). and i wouldnt have it anyother way than a formal proposal. sorry, im just wierd and old fashioned like that. ive always wanted to start a family asap as well. my brothers have always told me that i will know when i find mr. right, and guess what??.... they were correct for the first time in history. i knew right when i met you that you were the one. sorry if that was a little creepy. and i love you more than ive ever loved anybody. i wish you were over here right now. that would be the bestest thing ever. damn, why cant we be in college yet? we could be in our bed right now, and i could feel all safe being wrapped in your arms. well hopefully ill see you tomoro.
but ima gonna go to bed and dream about seeing you soon
i love you more than you know honey

I guess she does sound a bit infatuated.. i hope it persists into real love. Should i ask her if she infatuated?
Author:  kentheman [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 6:32 pm ]
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Sounds like what my ex said to me. Never take these things seriously. Just say yeah ok and get on with life. Haha.
Author:  flypapermeems [ Tue Dec 16, 2008 6:51 pm ]
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it sounds a lot like infatuation. not saying get out, just saying don't marry her before you know for certain.

i agree that the ball is in your court. keep it at this level for a while, see if she sticks around. i know that sounds silly in the art of picking up, but if you want to see if she's serious, it takes time. if it's real, or if it increases to real love, then she'll stick around even when things get rough.
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