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| Author: | Shreder [ Wed Oct 22, 2008 12:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Let go for the all the wrong reasons??? |
Hey guys my recent girlfriend of a couple of months is a Freshman in college, while I am a Senior graduating this May. She told me yesterday that she was getting too attached to me and would rather break up now and it be hard than to break up in a few months and it be even harder. In all honesty I tried to manage expectations a few weeks ago and told her that I wanted to have fun my senior year and I wanted her to get the most out of the college experience, so if we met some other people, we should both be cool with dating them and not worry about monogamy with one another. She said she kind of let me go that day, and just didn't feel the same about me. While on the other hand, I started gravitating towards her. I know I should play it cool and not let this get to my head, I'm not mad, just more confused than anything. Commitment phobia maybe? And of course she still wants to be friends, but I didn't get LJBF'd, we did have a sexual relationship. I let her know that I had dated a lot of women in order to find a great one, and I thought I had with her. "Everything I did was perfect" is what she said. So apparently my game was too good. Has this ever happened too anyone else? A bit of one-itis here I'll admit as usual. But for the wrong reasons? Would love some feedback, Thanks fellas! |
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| Author: | MazeMiami [ Wed Oct 22, 2008 2:11 pm ] |
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I doubt it was that your game was too good, it was her way of being nice while breaking up with you Move on hit up some sets and get some new girls in the mix -Maze |
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| Author: | Z.dub [ Thu Oct 23, 2008 3:40 am ] |
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Sounds like she realizes you don't want to be monogamous, and so instead of continuing the relationship, she wants to cut the cord right now and prevent herself from being MORE hurt later. I've experienced this as well, and it's hard for guys (or at least me) to understand because we don't really think with our emotions. But girls are much more sensitive, and they are very protective of their emotions, and want to avoid being "hurt" at all costs. So because the PUA motto is to "Leave 'em better than you found 'em," just let her go. Don't try to get her back unless you're willing to make a serious long-term commitment. If you lie to her out of selfish motivation (to get laid), then you're just going to cause her emotional pain and confusion which will lead to her being very wary of men, and cause her emotional baggage. Be honest with her, and let the beautiful little birdie fly away to freedom. |
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