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Author:  Luca_J [ Sun Oct 19, 2008 9:00 pm ]
Post subject:  I'm Scared of Getting Hurt
Ok you guys are experts in LTR's ;)

Im a PUA and yeah Im good but I always end up getting deep with this one girl which is rather AFC i guess

we've been serious for about 7 weeks now and yet we're not together, we've been out a lot together, obviously we've kissed too many times to count, although i havent had sex yet, i've been advised against it. She's an emotional girl, when i suggested we started seeing each other 6 weeks ago she said she'd been hurt in the past and wants to take it slow, then about 5 weeks ago we went to a party and she got with me and then got with about 3 other guys, i was completly gutted, and she seemed really sorry but i was pissed off and i made it clear to her.

things have changed greatly since then, week on saturday ago we went to a party near my house, and she was being difficult and irritating frankly, but we had a deep chat about how i would always be there for her and she could trust me etc etc. Then she disappeared for a walk with the girls and i started gaming this other girl, anyway to cut a long story short I ended up getting with her. This made my girl get really jeleous like really bad, she text me twice whilst i disappeared one was sayin "everything you said you wasnt you proved tonight you are." and that was being called a player. we went through a stage where she claimed she didnt know how she felt etc etc but im sure she likes me regardless, anyway time has passed since then and she seems to have grown closer to me, the other night she was drunk and all she wanted was me, she was constantly hugging me and holding my hand. She rang me wanted me to go see her later on when we had gone our seperate ways. ( I wasnt far away from her) and when i said no im busy she text me later on sayin " i miss you so much but i know you dont care anymore so should i just forget about everything? do you think shes starting to want a relationship? she mentioned the thing she missed most about relationships is that she missed cuddling up in bed with someone.

I do really like her and would love a relationship with her. any advice on whats going on here and how can i deal with it in a PUA way and not a AFC way :) thing is i know she likes me but why wont she be in a relationship!
Author:  Reo [ Mon Oct 20, 2008 12:24 am ]
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I've seen this same post in several places. They all scream FAIL! you're doing way too much chasing after this unstable girl. You said it yourself she hooked up with 3 guys including yourself at a party. Then, you're having DEEP conversations about how she can trust you and you'll always be there for her....wow just wow.
Your doing too much battling back and forth with this girl
She knows the right buttons to press to piss you off. She's got figured out to a T.

You want something more from her than she's willing to give right now which is, a relationship. She's not that type girl from what I'm reading.
Author:  Savage1 [ Sun Oct 26, 2008 1:11 pm ]
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Sounds like a set up for a heartbreak brother. Walk easy with this one.
Author:  Abdul-aAfc [ Sun Nov 02, 2008 5:16 pm ]
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She is trying to test how much you can handle and what are your boundaries. I had say just ride the wave but that doesn't mean you shouldn't keep on sarging
Author:  dronten [ Mon Nov 03, 2008 8:45 pm ]
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If I were you I would just go for another girl.. I've had close relationships with a couple of really messed up girls (perhaps a bit worse than yours, though) and I have to tell you it just isnt worth it.

BUT, if you still wanna go for it (of course she could have the makings of a great girlfriend underneath it all, who am I to judge?) you have to be prepared for her shit. She has relationship issues, you both know it. You can either try to do it her way, or she can try yours. She messes around with other guys? Fine, then you mess around with other girls. She wants you to commit? Then SHE has to commit as well. Be short and straight with her. Don't take any nonsense. Don't let her control your thoughts and feelings. "This is the way I am, and if you wanna be with me you have to listen to what I say." If she wants you, she'll have to chase you.. otherwise some other girl will come along, realize what a great guy you are, and snatch you.
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