Hi!

So I recently got into a new relationship. The girl is great, she's smart funny and gorgeous. We went on a few dates already and have been messaging frequently.

For her studies she studied a medical related degree about 3 years ago...for whatever reason she's not working in the field as a researcher which is what she wanted (likely could not find a job).

Anyway she's told me she's working as a manager on crazy night shifts but hesitant to say what company it is, she says she took the job to get experience in 'management', however stating she wants to get back into cancer research.

The issue is that I found out she happens to be a manager at McDonalds for the past 3 years This is a farcry from the medical degree she did. She doesn't have the professional work experience in her field of study.

I've known her for a month, I want to know whether I'am stepping out of my boundaries here by suggesting uni courses she could do (medical information systems?) to get into her field in corporate and out of 'Mcdonalds' or is it too early in the relationship for that?

I guess the thing is because it's early into the relationship, should I even care/bother?

Just to add in my family they won't ever accept a McDonalds manager They've made that clear. Imho I also think if you've studied a degree you got to work in a professional field.

Thanks for the advice!

Hi!

So I recently got into a new relationship. The girl is great, she's smart funny and gorgeous. We went on a few dates already and have been messaging frequently.

For her studies she studied a medical related degree about 3 years ago...for whatever reason she's not working in the field as a researcher which is what she wanted (likely could not find a job).

Anyway she's told me she's working as a manager on crazy night shifts but hesitant to say what company it is, she says she took the job to get experience in 'management', however stating she wants to get back into cancer research.

The issue is that I found out she happens to be a manager at McDonalds for the past 3 years This is a farcry from the medical degree she did. She doesn't have the professional work experience in her field of study.

I've known her for a month, I want to know whether I'am stepping out of my boundaries here by suggesting uni courses she could do (medical information systems?) to get into her field in corporate and out of 'Mcdonalds' or is it too early in the relationship for that?

I guess the thing is because it's early into the relationship, should I even care/bother?

Just to add in my family they won't ever accept a McDonalds manager They've made that clear. Imho I also think if you've studied a degree you got to work in a professional field.

Thanks for the advice!

What possible reason could you ever have to work at McDonalds if you hold a medical degree?

There's no reason. Unless you're not capable of getting a job in the medical field, that is.

I've known her for a month, I want to know whether I'am stepping out of my boundaries here by suggesting uni courses she could do (medical information systems?) to get into her field in corporate and out of 'Mcdonalds' or is it too early in the relationship for that?

Just to add in my family they won't ever accept a McDonalds manager

That's batshit crazy. Incredibly needy and over-stepping.

What a terrible sounding family.

Think for yourself. Attraction and biology > human constructs and materialism.

Act like a fucking man and never let your family dictate your social decisions.

I have found that men and/or women who have these kinds of agendas early on in relationships tend to grow old, alone. Or be stuck with someone they're not attracted to.

1. Does this person make me smile?
2. Do I have fun with this person?
3. Does this person turn me on mentally and physically?

Then we all die. How do you want to spend the tiny amount of time we have here?

1. Does this person make me smile?
2. Do I have fun with this person?
3. Does this person turn me on mentally and physically?

Then we all die. How do you want to spend the tiny amount of time we have here?

100% this. Where your girl works temporarily, doesn't devalue her or your relationship. She's in employment and isn't dependent on you, that's a good thing.

Way to lower standards.

3 years is not "temporary". If she wants to have a rocking career at McDonalds, more power to her. But when you're bullshitting that it's a temporary job to improve your management skills for your future medical career... that's just delusion.

It's temporary if she doesn't plan on making that her full career, IMO.
I couldn't care less about where my girlfriend works tbh. As long as she's happy and it's going where she wants it too. Way better than being unemployed and chasing your future career. Standards are subjective.

OP, when you get a girl just accept her for who she is now. Don't try to change her into being who you want her to be. Instead, get into relationships with women that meet your standards.