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I agree about your "Texting a ton" however - we had pretty great vibes texting back and forth over the days previously - i totally agree i should just text less and set up the date/bang asap but this didn't feel like one of the cases.
You're the man. You make "the cases".
By putting her on a pedestal you played "careful" and fell into her frame.
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-I didn't read the last posts so im gonna skim them over but what do you guys suggest i texted her in the morning instead of "Safe flight etc" The tarot card wasn't a useless detail my man, there's a huge back-story for this.
You need to let go of those backstories, or at least save them for in-person. This is 2017, live in the moment. Also, focusing on tiny details when you're not in a relationship can be considered weird.
Two things:
1. You texted her in the morning because you were insecure about the lack of response, not because you were concerned about her having a safe flight.
2. You brought up the tarot card story because you were fearful of losing her, so you needed an emotional control mechanism.
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Double edit: I don't doubt few mistakes were made, however - for those who disagree about the safe flight text, what do you suggest? Or just not to text at all and wait?
Yes.
What I hear from girls a lot:
"Arch, I like how I don't feel obligated to carry on texting with you. It's hot."
You're a man. You have man shit to do. Get to the point in a good feels way in texting, then get off the phone. Just like you can be a Stage Five Clinger in person, you can be one over text, too.
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Edit: (The have a safe flight + tarot joke was sent next morning)
After you didn't hear from her after texting the previous night, right?
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then waited roughly 4 days, - sent the video water park (not a selfie) just said something like "bet my weekend beat up yours" to go over that part.
If this girl is really hot, a video shows too much investment, IMHO early on.
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-I think i got the hint but knowing myself and the connection i THOUGHT we had, i really wanted a genuine response/answer from her and that's why i texted again 3 days later. She obv gave me the answer and admitted being anxious/scared, falling for this other dude. Oh well. Such is life.
Hope everyone's doing good
Yeah it sucks. I'm not saying you were 100% at fault.
Your biggest mistake was making her choose. There was no reason to force anything. Had you played it patiently, she may have hit you up for sex, you would've knocked it out of the park, and then she'd be falling for YOU, and you'd never know about the other guy. See how this works early on with 9's and 10's?
When told about "patience", most guys have no idea what that means. You truly have to be patient. A girl who fucked you, and who has the hots for you isn't going to completely forget about you in three days. That is
nothing at all to socially valuable women.
I have courted stunning women whom I thought, at the time, ghosted me. And a month later I get a text saying "Hey Arch, you should come over."
You have to let a woman choose you organically.