The problem is I can't read her at all. When we started dating she barely texted, maybe once every 2-3 days and took hours to text back.

I jokingly made a comment that she's difficult to talk to

She is also eager to split the check and keep things even. So a lot of positive signs that she respects me.

However there are some things that I can't understand. We have sex and she leaves pretty abruptly afterwards, doesn't try to cuddle.

All of her texts are pretty basic small talk, nothing sensual or sexual. She's pretty weird about letting me know where she lives in case i'm "looney tunes".

Last week I went against my better judgement (I blame the alcohol) and asked her what her intentions were

She texted me the next day saying she kinda felt like a prostitute because I didn't really walk her out or anything.

Anyways, I usually have chicks getting attached at this point and I get to have the power, but now I feel like she's totally has the dynamic of this relationship in her favor and I'm kindve a wimpy mess right now. I'm gonna pull back from texting her for a few days and see what happens, but I'm worried I kinda lost this one already.

First post here,

I'm a 30 year old doctor in a major east coast city. I've been single and dating for the past 6 months after a 2 year long relationship. I met a really beautiful girl off tinder a month ago. We've gone out multiple times, slept together twice. The problem is I can't read her at all.
When we started dating she barely texted, maybe once every 2-3 days and took hours to text back. I jokingly made a comment that she's difficult to talk to and she made the effort to text me more. Now she texts me at least once every other day just to shoot the shit. She is also eager to split the check and keep things even. So a lot of positive signs that she respects me.
However there are some things that I can't understand. We have sex and she leaves pretty abruptly afterwards, doesn't try to cuddle. All of her texts are pretty basic small talk, nothing sensual or sexual. She's pretty weird about letting me know where she lives in case i'm "looney tunes". I've been dating multiple girls to try and prevent ONEitis and doing my best to be alpha and keep things light.
Last week I went against my better judgement (I blame the alcohol) and asked her what her intentions were and she said "I think you're awesome. I just want things to go slow" and that I'm the only guy she's dating . So i was pretty reassured by that.
Then the other day we had sex and she left quickly afterwards and I didn't get up and follow her out being half a sleep. . She texted me the next day saying she kinda felt like a prostitute because I didn't really walk her out or anything. I tried to reassure her by text that she was reading me wrong and that I like her and like hanging out with her and I wasn't using her for sex. I felt pretty beta afterwards doing this but she said she was reassured by it and laughed it off.
Anyways, I usually have chicks getting attached at this point and I get to have the power, but now I feel like she's totally has the dynamic of this relationship in her favor and I'm kindve a wimpy mess right now. I'm gonna pull back from texting her for a few days and see what happens, but I'm worried I kinda lost this one already.

Welcome to the world of 9's and 10's. Strong, socially valuable and independent women will let things play out organically.

Were you feeling half asleep, or annoyed, or testing to see her response?

So you have a need for intimacy not being met. Why not share this with her? She can't read minds. You're wanting her to demonstrate that she's committing to this, but when you try to force things to move at the pace you want them to, often times that's oft putting for a woman and demonstrates you have very little self control. A woman can only feel secure in the presence of a man who has control over himself.

Were you feeling half asleep, or annoyed, or testing to see her response?

Protest behavior - you didn't get what you'd wanted/expected so you 'protested' by showing a lack of regard,
or feigned indifference to her leaving. You had needs in that moment but rather than speak on them you attempted to punish.

So you have a need for intimacy not being met. Why not share this with her? She can't read minds. You're wanting her to demonstrate that she's committing to this, but when you try to force things to move at the pace you want them to, often times that's oft putting for a woman and demonstrates you have very little self control. A woman can only feel secure in the presence of a man who has control over himself.

She may not be the "gushy" type, tbh. So is that a deal breaker for you? Or does she have a lot of other redeemable qualities? Certainly nobody is perfect. That said if this is very important to you then address this with her (in a non-dramatic fashion) at least this way you'll know whether you're waisting your time with her or not.

If you can't speak your truth in a relationship (while being respectful towards the other person), then what is the point of being in a relationship?

Your fear of coming-off "needy" is obstructing the potential of developing a connection with this woman. She may be feeling the very same thing you are. Women with healthy boundaries generally open up to men who aren't afraid to be vulnerable with them. BLogger and former PUAr Mark Manson has a great article on vulnerability https://markmanson.net/vulnerability.

. There's no after sex intimacy, her texts are casual, she's not gushing over me...

You're not making her cum enough. Not trying to be rude. But when a woman orgasms a lot from her man, a chemical called oxytocin in released. This biological trigger will compel her to want to be close to you (cuddling, etc).

why do you like her?

Not necessarily the case. Who knows her history maybe she has a history of sexual abuse (not unlike a lot of women), has fears of getting 'too close', or maybe she too is feeling the connection isn't quite there SPAM.

I'm wondering if I do have an anxious attachment personality and this may be causing me to worry so much. Her unavailability may be pushing my buttons

Anyways, I usually have chicks getting attached at this point and I get to have the power, but now I feel like she's totally has the dynamic of this relationship in her favor and I'm kindve a wimpy mess right now.

No, it's in your control. Mirror her actions.
You treat her differently than these girls. It's a needy mind set. A needy man is deeply afraid that what he has to give is not enough (or that he is not worthy).

You're a grown ass man, and a DR at that. You don't NEED her. You don't NEED anybody to complete yourself.

She should be your OPTION.

She's beautiful, we have good rapport, she's funny. Most of the basic things that you find in attractive people.

I'm wondering if I do have an anxious attachment personality and this may be causing me to worry so much. Her unavailability may be pushing my buttons