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Author:  ttyler [ Thu May 11, 2017 4:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction back?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months. We only see each other on the weekends. Throughout these 4 months, I have been maintaining a very good frame (always leading, dominant, strong social circle). I strongly believe this was the result of a lot of self improvements. But something happened at the end of last week that made me feel like I have lost all the power in the relationship and girlfriend is starting to lose attraction towards me.

Some background: Before my current girlfriend, I have been in a long term relationship for many years. After I got out of the relationship, I was able to game a lot of girls but the farthest that I have gone with them was them giving me BJs. I have only had sex with my ex and current girlfriend.

Last weekend: For some reasons, I just could not perform. And it was really frustrating because once it happened for the first time, it got in my head and I basically couldn't perform at all for the entire weekend. I could tell my girlfriend was very frustrated because she thought I was not attracted to her anymore. Here is where my beta mindset and insecurity kicked in - I wanted to assure her that this happened wasn't because of her but because of my inexperience. So I ended up revealing my number of sexual partners and previous relationships without even her asking. The way I delivered this message was also pretty bad because I made it seem like I had some really bad secrets to reveal. But I knew I messed up right after this. Even tho she said the numbers don't change her point of view about me, I felt a complete loss of power in the relationship. It felt like she's starting to lose attraction towards me. She also stopped saying babe and goodnight to me.

Is this something that just needs a round of good sex to fix? Or should I give more context about why my number is so low? Or am I just being a beta and thinking too much? Thank you for reading this far. I really appreciate this.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu May 11, 2017 5:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
Got some good old fashioned overthinking going on here.
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just needs a round of good sex to fix?


Time to get creative. Don't worry Bro, you won't break her.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu May 11, 2017 6:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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Even tho she said the numbers don't change her point of view about me

9's and 10's like it when they know you've fucked a lot of girls. And they love it if girls check you out when you're together. It gets them worked up. They like to see men who have the kind of options they've always had. It;s unusual for them, exotic.

No damage done.



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Is this something that just needs a round of good sex to fix? Or should I give more context about why my number is so low? Or am I just being a beta and thinking too much? Thank you for reading this far. I really appreciate this.

Get some handcuffs, candles (for hot wax, not ambiance, lol), and a blindfold. When she walks in, don't even talk. push her up against a wall, make out, and just go for it. Dominate, toss her around.
Author:  ttyler [ Thu May 11, 2017 8:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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9's and 10's like it when they know you've fucked a lot of girls. And they love it if girls check you out when you're together. It gets them worked up. They like to see men who have the kind of options they've always had. It;s unusual for them, exotic.

No damage done.
Arch - But I am at the opposite of the spectrum. I haven't fucked enough girls.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu May 11, 2017 8:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
So you confessed to her you've only fucked a couple girls?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu May 11, 2017 8:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
Admit to her you want to have more experiences sexually, and you want to do that with HER>
Author:  ttyler [ Thu May 11, 2017 8:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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So you confessed to her you've only fucked a couple girls?
Correct. It's a huge mistake. I have actually gotten a lot of BJs from a lot of other girls. But I chose not to go all the way with them because of my old fashioned mindset. Should I mention that to her to change her mindset? Would that even do anything?
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Admit to her you want to have more experiences sexually, and you want to do that with HER>
Thanks, I will do that!
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu May 11, 2017 8:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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[Should I mention that to her to change her mindset?
Bro! Sometimes it's better to be a man, and keep your damn mouth shut.

If you lay all your cards out on the table, what mystery is there left for her to savor?
Author:  ttyler [ Thu May 11, 2017 9:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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Bro! Sometimes it's better to be a man, and keep your damn mouth shut.

If you lay all your cards out on the table, what mystery is there left for her to savor?
Thanks bro. Really needed to hear this. Already made this mistake once, can't make it again!
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu May 11, 2017 9:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
There's no need to bring it up again.

Most men get neurotic like this over one small thing, then harp on it for weeks, and get dumped.

Women forget about this shit. They simply don't care. Women, for the most part, are more okay with shit than guy's are. They WANT you to care less about dumb things, to live in the moment and to be passionate.

Use this as an opportunity to analyze how much you're yapping/texting, and dial it the fuck back. A man who constantly talks is not attractive.
Author:  Slick_uk [ Thu May 11, 2017 9:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
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Last weekend: For some reasons, I just could not perform.
No... Your penis could not perform. Did you go back to foreplay? Did you go down on her after this happened? Does she know what your buttons are?

If she's a cool girl, the number of secure partners doesn't matter and doesn't necessarily show inexperience.
Author:  R.C [ Fri May 12, 2017 1:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Revealed too much insecurity. How to gain attraction bac
Dude, don't do that in the future. Jesus Christ there's not one guy on this forum that hasn't had that happen to him. There's no need to bring inexperience or number of partners into it. Just laugh it off, it's not a big deal. Not unless you make it a big deal.
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