Hi guys,

So I was in LTR with my co-worker for 3 months. Everything was great until all of a sudden she wanted to break up. I asked her why and she said she felt empty. She lost her interest in me. She used to look forward meeting me on the weekend to go on a date, but not anymore.
She also mentioned that she didn't feel like someone special to me.

By no means i am here to ask how to get her back. I am just wondering how could this happen ? Did i do something wrong ?

If you were only seeing her on a weekend night, you weren't in a relationship. You were a fuck buddy.

How long were you dating before you started the relationship? I'm asking because you may be another in a long line of victims of the two month rule.

If you were only seeing her on a weekend night, you weren't in a relationship. You were a fuck buddy.
Sounds like a communication issue, which makes sense since you barely saw her.

Not necessarily.

@OP, did she want a relationship or did you?

only dated her for a month before we got into LTR. What is two month rule ?

I perceived this as her wanting LTR rather than being just a weekend date buddy and I initiated the relationship talk. She did open up to more physical contact though after the relationship talk.

This is you doing her job. You pushed for something more than she's ready for. Women will let YOU know this shit.

Yep. And they'll bounce if they're not ready.

She bounced.

If you follow my five basic rules, women will not leave you, whether it's two months or twelve.

Yep. And they'll bounce if they're not ready.

She bounced.

If you follow my five basic rules, women will not leave you, whether it's two months or twelve.

It's a pattern that happens with women (I haven't been able to see it with men) that quickly jump into relationships with men. It usually takes about two months for women to see a man for who he is realistically and the infatuation that kept her attracted regardless of all the flaws or red flags that may have been present wears off. It's somewhere about two months where the guy will either notice that she's acting different, she is questioning if she wants to be in the relationship, or she abruptly ends the relationship.

I've been thinking about writing a thread on it for the last few weeks. Maybe I'll get around to it over the next few days.

This is you doing her job. You pushed for something more than she's ready for. Women will let YOU know this shit.

Yep. And they'll bounce if they're not ready.

She bounced.

If you follow my five basic rules, women will not leave you, whether it's two months or twelve.

Hi guys,

So I was in LTR with my co-worker for 3 months. Everything was great until all of a sudden she wanted to break up. I asked her why and she said she felt empty. She lost her interest in me. She used to look forward meeting me on the weekend to go on a date, but not anymore.
She also mentioned that she didn't feel like someone special to me.

By no means i am here to ask how to get her back. I am just wondering how could this happen ? Did i do something wrong ?

Before you start throwing up pictures and signs, this is a serious question. Did your girlfriend start spotting flaws in your personality in around two months and it cause you to have to adjust your behavior towards her because you were at risk of losing her? Careful, because you've already answered this question in a previous post. IMO, the goal for a guy that's good with women is never to have to adjust his behavior to keep a woman around. When the magic wears off, they should want to still be around without you having to change the core behavior that you've shown her from day 1.

You should always let women come to you with the relationship talk. No hints, no vague questions you interpret one way or another, no nothing. Let her be the one bringing exclusivity up.

As far as this goes, I tend to agree with Jack. In my opinion it's the first 3 months that are the make or break of a relationship.

Not sure if she spotted my flaws during the relationship. I did spot her flaws though. I believe i didn't adjust my behaviour on the brink of losing her. Instead, I froze her out for a week when she told me she was unsure about the relationship and needed the time to think. Which then a week later, she wanted to break up.

She used to say she misses me when we didn't meet on the weekend, but during the last three weeks of the relationship, we didn't meet on the weekend due to our personal matters. Yet when we had the time, she refused when i asked her out and out of nowhere she wanted to break up.