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Author:  Takeher [ Sat Feb 25, 2017 7:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Friends kissing your girl goodbye. Neccesary or not?!
So yes im a jelous guy. My girl looks good and my friends are kind of creepers to be honest. And what man isnt? As far as im concerned were all savages and we all have dirty thoughts and bad intentions every now and then. But there are things that in todays world your friends can get away with, with your girl. Like saying hello and goodbye in touchy ways. Maybe putting there hand on your girls hip or back and toughing cheek to cheek or even straight kissing your girl on the cheek which hasnt happend to me. But ive seen it happen and the boyfriend is always feeling akward.

For me i feel already akward with any of my friends touching my girl for anything. I just feel no other man has to touch my girl and to say bye you can easily just say bye and wave or even high five or shake hands. Whatever but why the leaning in and kissing thing. I feel its unnessasary and just a way to get close to a girl and touch face to face without getting in trouble about it. When im single i kiss every girl on the cheek specially if i like her. Its kind of a form of kino.

So am i wrong to feel this jelous or akward when my friends give my girl a kiss goodbye cheek to cheek? And if im not wrong then how do i go about stopping it without seeming like a jelous crazy dude that is making a problem of nothing. It makes me uncomfortable really uncomfortable. And when i say goodbye to my friends girls i never give a kiss. I always wave or give a pound or highfive to really state they are my homies too and were pals. I pretty much say bye to them just like i do to my actual friends. And i dont kiss because its not neccessary. Thats an old stupid custom in my opinion. Only to be used with family like your mother after not seeing her for awhile.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Feb 25, 2017 10:26 pm ]
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why are you friends with "creepers"?
Author:  Takeher [ Sat Feb 25, 2017 10:43 pm ]
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Theyre not pedifiles. I just think every man is a creeper in some way. If your a man you know what i mean
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Feb 25, 2017 10:51 pm ]
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So am i wrong to feel this jelous or akward when my friends give my girl a kiss goodbye cheek to cheek? And if im not wrong then how do i go about stopping it without seeming like a jelous crazy dude that is making a problem of nothing. It makes me uncomfortable really uncomfortable.

It's not normal behavior for your gf to kiss cheek to cheek with your guy friends. It sounds like she's a bit of an attention queen, perhaps the lone girl in the group, and they're horny and desperate, lol.

Simply tell her (after sex and good emotions) "Unless I give you the green light, don't let guys hang on you. That includes kissing on the cheek."

If she asks why, just tell her you have standards for the people in your life.

A quick hug is the appropriate goodbye in the context of any touching at all IF you all are a close group. If not, there's really no reason for them to be touching her at all.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 12:46 am ]
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In my culture we kiss each other on the cheek when we are arriving or leaving. If your girl is Spanish...then it's a cultural thing and I wouldn't be getting worked up.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 12:50 am ]
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To be a truly great man, we have to evolve beyond self-imposed cultural restraints.

If you feel you are being disrespected, then you're being disrespected. Don't use antiquated cultural customs as an excuse not to set standards for the people in your life.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 12:56 am ]
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To be a truly great man, we have to evolve beyond self-imposed cultural restraints.

If you feel you are being disrespected, then you're being disrespected. Don't use antiquated cultural customs as an excuse not to set standards for the people in your life.

Nothing wrong with it IMO, not everything is a ruse. To each their own.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 1:10 am ]
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That's a fair point. It's up to each man to decide what crosses the line.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 3:40 am ]
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In my culture we kiss each other on the cheek when we are arriving or leaving. If your girl is Spanish...then it's a cultural thing and I wouldn't be getting worked up.
He's talking about the cheek on the face, not the ass cheeks.
Author:  Furiox [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 10:50 pm ]
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kiss on the cheek is normal to me and many of my friends, kiss on the lips would be weird.

Getting jealous over kiss on the cheek is in my opinion childish, there are far worse things you can be jealous about.

So for advice i can only say, work on your inner game so you don't feel jealous about a kiss on the cheek anymore. Good luck
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 11:02 pm ]
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So for advice i can only say, work on your inner game so you don't feel jealous about a kiss on the cheek anymore. Good luck
As a dominant male, you don't kiss a girl I'm exclusive with unless you're family or girlfriends.

There's a fine line between "inner game", and being a doormat.

I'm the bull elk with my harem. I don't need to hang out with spike bucks. If a spike buck comes in and touches one of my cows, that spike buck is going to get whipped.

Hit the gym, get fit. Get powerful. Walk and carry yourself with confidence, and spike bucks, and your gf would never consider kissing in front of you, cheek or not.
Author:  Takeher [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 11:45 pm ]
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Nice. And i agree with that. But these dudes. These spike bucks may be close friends or maybe strangers we just meet for the first time. And lets say they come up and they lean in to give a kiss cheek to cheek to my girl.

How could i spike that buck without embarresing myself and looking like an over protective wierdo?

What could i say or do so they know next time a hand shake or somthing is enough dont get close to my girl again.

Idk how to say in a chill way but at the same time showing dominance.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sun Feb 26, 2017 11:58 pm ]
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Nice. And i agree with that. But these dudes. These spike bucks may be close friends or maybe strangers we just meet for the first time. And lets say they come up and they lean in to give a kiss cheek to cheek to my girl.
To your girl, in person after sex and good emotions:

"I have a deal for you....I don't want guys hanging on you. We represent our relationship in public. That includes kisses on the cheek. And I won't let girls hang on me, either."

If you make it a "team effort" she'll be more enthusiastic.
Author:  Stoliar [ Mon Feb 27, 2017 12:03 am ]
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I once brought a girl at a party, we were discussing in a group with her and another dude, we mentioned salsa and that dude took her hands and started showing her basic steps. I did admire the balls, but I took him apart a few minutes later and told him straight that I wasn't cool with that. He apologized and left my girl alone the rest of the evening.

Now there wasn't any AMOG or stealing dynamics in that. Don't know how I would have reacted if the guy had pursued my girl anyway.
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Feb 27, 2017 12:05 am ]
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Regardless of culture or location, disrespect is disrespect. Now, if whatever the norms are, if guys are doing something they know is disrespectful then

a) guys have little respect for you
b) your girl has little respect for you

Nothing you can do in the moment.

If they are doing something thats appropriate with the culture and no intention to be creepy or disrespectful to you, thats on you.

Either its normal, or its not. If its normal, you're insecure. If its not, its up to your girl. If its normal, putting rules on it is akin to saying "dont shake guys' hands"
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