While we get on really well with each other, my girlfriend wants to call it off saying: "I don't know why, I really like you and I really, really want to, but I don't feel a romantic connection with you." Weirder part is she still wants to be friends with benefits as well as good friends afterwards if we do breakup. All this coming from a girl who I've exchanged 'I love you's with.

We first met about 3 months ago, (she's the girl from the 'From casual to "Lets slow down, I like you" thread), we were casual, I made her my girlfriend, and, like I said, we really do get on really well and have fun, we're practically the same person when it comes to hanging out, we love the same things, and the sex is great, but now she says this. Apparently I'm the only boyfriend she's ever had this problem with. (Ha, maybe my attraction game is too strong.)

I'm confused, its so out of the blue, and I was wondering if you guys have come across this, have any opinions, or can shed more light on what is going on?

Typical girlie speake which translates to: The sex is great; from your end only, not mine.

Why would she offer to remain fuck buddies if she doesn't enjoy the sex?

Why would she still want to be fuck buddies then? I doubt its the sex.

When you do break up... Based on your post, you're not fuck buddies yet. At this point in time, it's just a promise from a girl who wants out.

(she's the girl from the 'From casual to "Lets slow down, I like you" thread)

"I don't know why, I really like you and I really, really want to, but I don't feel a romantic connection with you."

All this coming from a girl who I've exchanged 'I love you's with.

Typical girlie speake which translates to: The sex is great; from your end only, not mine.

Girls don't want to hurt men's feelings; especially their egos. Oxcytocin release and strong emotional attachment are strongly correlated. When a girl feels a strong emotional attachment towards you, she doesn't want to let go. She wants to get closer and make great sacrifices just to be closer to you. In this case, her emotional attachment grew weaker and weaker until it reached the breaking point.

When a girl is having a generous dose of vaginal orgasms with you, you trigger massive oxytocin releases in her body. A massive dose of oxytocin makes girls more emotionally attached to guys who are the source of such intense pleasure.

OP, my opinion is that she didn't want to be exclusive to begin. She went along to give it a try, but it seems pretty obvious she wants to experiment around.

Your obviously trying to push her in a direction she's not ready for. She's standing on the edge of a pool that looks temping, but she's not hot enough for a dip yet. Yet she feels you at her back waiting to shove her in.

You're making it uncomfortable.

You're just 3 months in, the both of you hardly know each other yet. And the sex may be great, but you're laying a heavy price tag on it.

Buyer's Remorse

The phenomenon when a women feel a strong sexual attraction with men (when in reality) they barely know, then afterwards are so filled by regret and disappointment and loneliness, so that they in some way try to justify their behavior by claiming that they need to slow things down so they don't feel taken advantage of and didn't make a conscious personal choice.

Try backing the fuck off.


Save this for when SHE says in ........ way down the road.

Girls don't want to hurt men's feelings; especially their egos. Oxcytocin release and strong emotional attachment are strongly correlated. When a girl feels a strong emotional attachment towards you, she doesn't want to let go. She wants to get closer and make great sacrifices just to be closer to you. In this case, her emotional attachment grew weaker and weaker until it reached the breaking point.

If she really wanted to be with you, she'd find a way to make it work.

The feels aren't there, bottom line. Move on.