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Author:  Billydee1995 [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:05 am ]
Post subject:  The age old cycle of hot and cold
Whats up guys...so the general consensus on here is that when your girlfriend inevitably begins acting distant (not texting,being short,etc...) you should never call her out.instead you should just live your life and give her a taste of her own medicine.however, some have argued that if shes already your girlfriend and the attraction is there, then you should call her out for being distant or flaky because if she thinks your ok with it then she will keep doing it and not take you seriously.so which is it?
Author:  Billydee1995 [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
Also, even pick up artists seem to agree that communication is crucial in a relationship.so wouldnt the thing to do in this situation be to, well COMMUNICATE?im not sure what to do because it also makes sense that letting her know it bothers me would possibly lower her attraction towards me.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
Yeah, if it's your gf, you should communicate.

But typically a girl withdrawing is a bad sign, and asking "why don't you text me as much?" is going to weaken attraction even further.

If I had a gf withdrawing, I wouldn't try to solve what was going on in her head. I would take a look at how I was showing up day to day. Analyize and improve what you can actually control. And number one, and number two on the list:

1.

"Am I making my gf orgasm, a lot? Is this sex good? Am I leading and dominating in the bedroom?"

2. "Am I being the fun, emotionally-centeted guy, or have I started to complain about life a lot? Am I initiating a lot of serious talks with my gf? Am I being Debbie Downer?"

Women WILL NOT withdraw from a guy who is blowing their minds in bed. And they will not withdraw from a guy who is just plain fun to be around.
Author:  Billydee1995 [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 2:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
Our sex life is great,and when we talk i usually am able to make her laugh alot.i dont actually think she is withdrawing,i think shes just trying me up with a shit test to see what she can get away with.if so, wouldnt telling her its not cool be a fail? Or would not telling her cause her to do it more?
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 4:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
You: "I'd rather we communicate if one of us is mad, rather than be passive-aggressive."
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 1:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
It sounds like you feel in your gut that you should wait it out, but you've came here to convince yourself and look for others to convince you to do the opposite of what you feel like you should do.

You know your situation better than anyone; we only know the picture you choose to paint for us based on how you feel in the moment; so a lot of our responses are tailored to a painted picture and no so much the accuracy of the situation. I only say this because in your post you seem incredibly biased on your point of view. Only here looking for a specific answer so that you can feel comfortable going against what you truly think is best. You aren't asking for honest opinions on a situation, you're asking to be told the go ahead and call her out.

You do what you want man; but your girl should miss you enough to contact you. If thats not the case; you may want to reconsider.
Author:  Billydee1995 [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 2:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
Your right eddie.i guess im looking for some generic formula or something that doesnt exist. I know that its never ok to call out a girl you just met as it shows too much interest, but thought maybe it would be different in a LTR. I dont think i should ever call her out but withdraw myself instead...
Author:  Billydee1995 [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 2:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
I feel like even in a LTR ,this is simply one of those things that cant be communicated because women think emotionally, not logically.therefore you should never call a woman out on being distant as it will push her away no matter how long you have been together.am i right in assuming this? What are your thoughts?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 3:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
The level of emotional attachment in your post is clearly a display on why it is she's not contacting you like you want her to. You're hooked. You're attached and she's the opposite. You're on forums posting to people you don't know about your girlfriend who just isn't contacting you. Do you thinks she's on forums saying " I wonder if i should contact my boyfriend?" No.. When she wants to; if she wants to; she's going to just do it.

Now, theres nothing wrong with calling your girl out; but I would never do so over text message and I would try my very best to refrain doing it in any other way than in person. Phone call is an emergency option. And nothing about this says its an emergency. Have some self control and be patient. Do you not have nothing else going on? Are you so hooked that the only thing you can think about is why she isn't contacting you? Get a life bro. She'll love you more when you do.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Dec 01, 2016 4:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: The age old cycle of hot and cold
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