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Author:  Penrose118 [ Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Been dating this girl for one month. Have had sex twice, oral too. Been on 6-7 dates, all awesome. All initiated by me. Every time she has accepted. We've done drinks, concert, dinner, cooked dinner etc. Last time we hung out was last wed night/thurs morn. Our text protocol is typically i text her first she responds within two hours, i respond two hours later. etc. She initiates a text to me this Tuesday:

Tues:
[12:30pm] Her: What are you doing tomorrow night?
[1:32pm] Me: Should be free whats up?
[4:52pm] Her: Thought my friend had a few extra tickets to Oh Wonder but she gave them away :( How was your weekend?
[8:15pm] Me: Oh bummer. It was awesome. How was yours?

No response

Wednesday:
[6:38pm] Me: Sounds great (sarcastically). still down for apple picking this weekend?

No response


WTF happened? and what should I do at this point? Should I just wait to see if she ever responds? Is it over?
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
This isn't a relationship and I get that you are repeating the exact same question that you posted in a different thread. Bottom line, we can't read this girls mind or what's currently going on in her life that may prevent her from answering you. There's not enough information for anyone to go on.

If she hasn't been involved in a personal tragedy, then she isn't showing that she's at all interested in you at the moment. That's the best that can be figured out from our end.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
You're asking us is it over? Instead of you making the decision on whether or not it should be over depending on what behavior you find to be acceptable or not?

How do you feel about the way she responds/not responds to your messages? Is it upsetting? Do you not care? And have you made any of this clear to her instead of sending girly passive aggressive sarcastic comments expecting to get some where.

When you know what you want, you say and stand on what you want. You don't get all girly and try to nudge them in a way that says " I don't want you to be offended, but I'm offended". You take care of that and you guys will get much further. However, it doesn't sound like she's putting a quarter as much into this as you are. And once again, if you want a shot at that changing, confront her, spell it out for her clearly and see how she responds. If she's unable to respond or at least make attempts, you make your decision from there.

You're a big boy.. You don't have to wait on a woman to tell you when things should continue or not continue.
Author:  Penrose118 [ Fri Oct 21, 2016 9:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
That sucks
Author:  xopow [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 12:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
It doesn't suck. Think of it this way, you learned early on that you were not meant to be with this woman. Whereas there are those who find out months into it.

Recently I started learning of a more pimpish mentality, wherein sex is not acknowledged to have value and neither does any woman have particularly significant value.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 4:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Quote:
Been dating this girl for one month. Have had sex twice, oral too. Been on 6-7 dates, all awesome. All initiated by me. Every time she has accepted. We've done drinks, concert, dinner, cooked dinner etc.
Sounds like you showered her with expensive dates too soon. Let a woman earn that.

Quote:
Last time we hung out was last wed night/thurs morn. Our text protocol is typically i text her first she responds within two hours, i respond two hours later. etc. She initiates a text to me this Tuesday:

Tues:
[12:30pm] Her: What are you doing tomorrow night?
[1:32pm] Me: Should be free whats up?
[4:52pm] Her: Thought my friend had a few extra tickets to Oh Wonder but she gave them away :( How was your weekend?
[8:15pm] Me: Oh bummer. It was awesome. How was yours?

No response
[11:00] that night: She's blowing another guy.
Quote:
Wednesday:
[6:38pm] Me: Sounds great (sarcastically). still down for apple picking this weekend?

No response

[10:00] same night, realizes she might like the other guy more.

Quote:
WTF happened? and what should I do at this point? Should I just wait to see if she ever responds? Is it over?

First, you're not "dating" her. Dating ( at least where I'm from implies exclusivity). You "went on dates". And sex only twice in a month is just a lack of spark, IMHO.

She has another guy, maybe two. You're on try-out right now.

Do not text her until she contacts you. Game other women. If she contacts you, arrange a meet at your place (no high investment dates) and dominate in the bedroom right away. Women who love how you are in bed return your texts very quickly.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 4:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Quote:
You're asking us is it over? Instead of you making the decision on whether or not it should be over depending on what behavior you find to be acceptable or not?

How do you feel about the way she responds/not responds to your messages? Is it upsetting? Do you not care? And have you made any of this clear to her instead of sending girly passive aggressive sarcastic comments expecting to get some where.

When you know what you want, you say and stand on what you want. You don't get all girly and try to nudge them in a way that says " I don't want you to be offended, but I'm offended". You take care of that and you guys will get much further. However, it doesn't sound like she's putting a quarter as much into this as you are. And once again, if you want a shot at that changing, confront her, spell it out for her clearly and see how she responds. If she's unable to respond or at least make attempts, you make your decision from there.

You're a big boy.. You don't have to wait on a woman to tell you when things should continue or not continue.
OP, use this as an opportunity to communicate your needs, rather than resort to passive aggressive tactics in hopes she figures it out.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 5:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Quote:
OP, use this as an opportunity to communicate your needs, rather than resort to passive aggressive tactics in hopes she figures it out.
He's not in a relationship.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 5:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Quote:
Quote:
OP, use this as an opportunity to communicate your needs, rather than resort to passive aggressive tactics in hopes she figures it out.
He's not in a relationship.
As you've defined it "First, you're not "dating" her. Dating ( at least where I'm from implies exclusivity). You "went on dates". And sex only twice in a month is just a lack of spark, IMHO."
Author:  Penrose118 [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Guys, she's the one that reached out to me asking what I was doing the next night. All I did was answer the question. She then asked me how my weekend was which shows interest. There's no indication of her pulling away until she randomly does not respond.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 8:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Dump a bucket of cold water on your head, dude.

She's not responding to your texts, and your sarcasm text after her first non-response is needy as hell.

This girl should be ringing you up to come bang you. Instead, you're scratching your head. Sex only twice in one month is a huge red flag. A girl who likes having sex with you will want it 2-4 times a week at a minimum.
Author:  Penrose118 [ Sat Oct 22, 2016 9:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Serious help needed here. Very odd situation
Ok thanks.
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