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| Author: | FrontG [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 7:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
So I just wanted to get the community's sentiments on this. If your girlfriend asks you if you want to talk, do you always try to accommodate her? Specifically, in my situation, in the past, I know my girl said that she would like to talk to me more often. I considered what she said and I actively tried to talk with her over the phone/messaging her more often. But that's whenever I feel to; that's about 4 times a week max. Sometimes she would randomly message me and ask if I want to talk with her and I mostly end up giving her a call. But other times I just don't feel like talking, I just want some time for myself to do whatever I want (I'm a medical student with limited time); so I end up telling her we would talk some other time. Do you think this is insensitive of me? Personally, I was thinking that she should be cognizant of my limited time and she should accept that we won't be able to talk as often as she'd like. I do make time to meet up in person at least once a week and I think that is acceptable. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 7:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
I don't think it's insensitive I just don't understand how you two communicate. There's texting, there's facebook, there's wapp. When she asks if you want to talk does she imply phone calls exclusively? And if so, why? People usually send each other funny pics, videos, joke around via text. They communicate more or less constantly. Those back and forths don't have to happen within minutes. Texts can be sent instantly or hours apart. But they don't just call and "talk" for the sake of talking. |
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| Author: | FrontG [ Sat Sep 03, 2016 9:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
We communicate by wapp messaging and phone calls only. When she asks if I want to talk, we both understand its a phone call. I believe she wants the phone call because she knows I don't like messaging her(I told her i don't like messaging anyone in general, but the truth is, she's really boring in messaging conversations, she just kills the mood, even with flirty messages; so I told her that I don't like messaging in general, just so I won't make her feel bad) She wants to talk to me because she misses me. I miss her too, as we haven't seen each other in about 2 weeks, but, I don't feel the need to talk with her as much as she wants to talk. I don't feel like messaging/calling her everyday, but she wants that. Isn't it normal for couples to go for days without talking? And I'm not referring to freezing anyone out. |
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| Author: | Furiox [ Sun Sep 04, 2016 9:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
Been in your situation and see this a lot in my friends relationships. Most likely she wants to talk to you when she is bored/ doesn't have many friends to talk to... i would say most girls just text for the sake of texting and expect the man to lead the conversation.... even though there isn't much to talk about. If you don't like talking to her through text/SPAM then don't do it, just keep it short like, il call you after work and carry on what you were doing. Seeing her once a week is a bit low though for a relationship, i can see why she would text often as she misses you. seeing her 3 days in the week should calm her down a bit more on the texting. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Sep 05, 2016 7:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
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Isn't it normal for couples to go for days without talking? And I'm not referring to freezing anyone out.
Not really. Like I said. I'll send a funny pic, she'll comment back and then we'll exchange a few more texts later in the day. That's talking. That's what I consider normal. That's what I do with friends as well. As far as actual phone calls go, I rarely ever call. Unless it's more of an urgent Quote: but the truth is, she's really boring in messaging conversations, she just kills the mood, even with flirty messages; so I told her that I don't like messaging in general, just so I won't make her feel bad
That's kinda stupid. If she cooks for you and you dislike the meal, are you gonna say you loved it just to not make her feel bad? The only result of that will be her cooking the same meal over and over, and you hating it over and over. Be honest. If she's a boring texter tell her to step her game up. Maybe she is texting you when she's bored. Maybe she doesn't have many friends to talk to, like Furioux said. Whichever the case may be, encouraging her to do it because you "don't wanna make her feel bad" is a lose-lose scenario. |
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| Author: | FrontG [ Tue Sep 06, 2016 12:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Do you put aside time to talk to your girlfriend? |
Thanks for your opinions Furiox and R.C.; I agree with you R.C. because I made honesty a big thing in our relationship.. I will tell her about it. Quote: i would say most girls just text for the sake of texting and expect the man to lead the conversation.... even though there isn't much to talk about.
Couldn't agree more, now that you mention it
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