Alright folks, pretty cut and dry stuff here.

Girl I have been seeing a bit hasn't really taken the lead or much initiative when it comes to setting stuff up or just keeping in touch. Follows through when we make plans though and when we are together will ask me when I'm free next, and generally follows up on conversation

So you're wanting to feel some connection between meets through contact via text/phone etc. Perfectly understandable.

We've kind of set up date four, I have asked her out all four times.

Pretty common script. What does it mean for her NOT to be setting any of the dates? How are your interactions when together?

Not looking for constant "hey you free?" but just would like to see her try, you know.

You'd appreciate some effort on her part to at least initiate some of the time with you. You want to feel desired, to some extent, and that she values you.

I have tried the freeze out for a few days, almost a week I think. That didn't really work.

Why would it? You did so as test to see if she'd reach out rather than speaking on your needs directly.

What I'd like to do is kind of craft an appropriate verbal response to her when I see her next that articulates just trying. I know in theory that's not the method but I'm feeling like going against PUA protocol for a moment and I'd just prefer to do things in person when I can rather than ghosting.

Tell her what you need, she's not a mind reader. If its not in her preference to follow through then at least you know she's likely not the best fit for you and you can free yourself up to find somebody who is more into the little things in between meets.

I'd sort of like doing this when I see her next because I'm slowly reaching the point where it's not gonna be worth it for me to text her because I'll know she isnt interested but I'm willing to giver he at least a chance after I've spoken my mind.

Any suggestions or thoughts would be appreciate.

Fully aware that she's just not that into you might be an acceptable answer

We've kind of set up date four, I have asked her out all four times.

Pretty common script. What does it mean for her NOT to be setting any of the dates? How are your interactions when together?

Why does it matter to you if she initiates if she is showing up?

If you have had at least oral sex with her, keep initiating contact. If you have not had any physical contact, set up another date, and then cancel an hour before.

It's that simple really?

I mean in that case, guess I'm good. I'd say these things kind of take two people putting forth levels of effort. It doesn't have to be equal but some give and take id imagine.

Interactions are good for the most part, she wants to take it slow, fine by me.

I should probably add one or two elements which sort of slipped my mind. What I mean was, she hasn't gone out of her way to ask me when I'll be free next. ie if we hadnt spoken in a few days Was kind of hoping that the freeze out would work.

So basically you're saying just gotta man up and communicate with her?
It's that simple really? I mean in that case, guess I'm good. I'd say these things kind of take two people putting forth levels of effort. It doesn't have to be equal but some give and take id imagine.
You're gonna have to explain the endgame with that

Interactions are good for the most part, she wants to take it slow, fine by me.

If you have not had any physical contact, set up another date, and then cancel an hour before.

I am saying a man too meek to speak his needs is a weak one.

By the way you havent mentioned anything sexual or physical with this girl and seem to be dodging the points dealing with that, I''ll assume you havent done anything physical with her, at lst past kissing. Maybe if you stop following her lead, you could actually state what you wanted. Given that you're already "fine" with going at her speed, I'd say accept she wants YOU to initiate. Cant be a follower with respect to taking it slow, then expect to become mr.assertive with the texting. Lead or follow. You're already following.

I wonder when's the last time anyone had a "Let's take it slow" experience that actually led anywhere other than nowhere.