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| Author: | Sethmclo [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 3:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | confident after breakup... |
So this chic broke up with me. She's 5 years younger immature and was very dependent on me emotionally and financially, definitely has a significant anxiety disorder. We met about a year ago, after seeing each other once a week for about a month, she flaked out. Told her I actually liked her but then went strict no contact. 6 months later she comes back... I make her jump through some hoops obviously, then we're together for about 7 months. Literally she got sick, I got sick, we didn't have sex for like a week which she took as an insult, so I thought that was significant. But the thing is that she got really affectionate and loving during the last month. She came to my last couple sporting events to watch which she hadn't done in the last 6 months. She was just... loving MORE during those months. And she felt I wasn't affectionate enough and it seems like she went into auto rejection and broke it off. She ignored me a bit but basically I did the same thing as last year: told her clearly that I cared about her but did not like her methods or actions and have gone into no contact. Basically tried to flip the situation and act like the breakup was agreed upon and appear strong, blah blah you guys know the drill. I would appreciate input as to whether you have experience something like a giant **** test breakup because she felt she needed to gain some power or something. I'm pretty sure she didn't leave for someone else, it's just that she's retreated into a cave, away from me. She acts like she wants me to fight, so she can say no, to boost her ego, and I've tried to go far enough to show I'm real yet maintain frame and not turn into a desperate wuss. Anyway just let me know how you guys experienced this, if they came running back sooner or later, how you handled that of course, or any other thoughts. thanks |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 4:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Why do you want to continue with this girl? I just don't understand these relationships that you have to treat like a chess match in order to maintain them. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 5:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: She's 5 years younger immature and was very dependent on me emotionally and financially, definitely has a significant anxiety disorder.
You can do better. I promise. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 5:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
So, she's your only option? When men believe that women are scarce, they become more willing to subjugate themselves to them. Quote: I'm pretty sure she didn't leave for someone else Well she isn't sitting around getting moldy waiting for you.
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 6:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: So, she's your only option?
TruthWhen men believe that women are scarce, they become more willing to subjugate themselves to them. Quote: I'm pretty sure she didn't leave for someone else Well she isn't sitting around getting moldy waiting for you.sickening i agree with this guy When you settle for people like this you demoralize yourself, and it will be all the harder to move on and build yourself back up to find someone 'better'. |
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| Author: | Sethmclo [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 9:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
well she actually is sitting around. like i said she's got this anxiety issue and everything points toward it being a big test. she literally has nothing without me so i'm confused. never had that kind of thing happen? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 9:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: well she actually is sitting around. like i said she's got this anxiety issue and everything points toward it being a big test. she literally has nothing without me so i'm confused. never had that kind of thing happen? I don't understand what your problem is other than you actually entertaining this type of person. If you think she's testing you, why even take the test?
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| Author: | neo87 [ Thu Jun 02, 2016 9:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: Why do you want to continue with this girl? I just don't understand these relationships that you have to treat like a chess match in order to maintain them.
I'd even say why continue with all this:Quote: So this chic broke up with me. She's 5 years younger immature and was very dependent on me emotionally and financially, definitely has a significant anxiety disorder. We met about a year ago, after seeing each other once a week for about a month, she flaked out. Told her I actually liked her but then went strict no contact. 6 months later she comes back... I make her jump through some hoops obviously, then we're together for about 7 months. Literally she got sick, I got sick, we didn't have sex for like a week which she took as an insult, so I thought that was significant. But the thing is that she got really affectionate and loving during the last month. She came to my last couple sporting events to watch which she hadn't done in the last 6 months. She was just... loving MORE during those months.
This is the girl you're posting over OP? A girl who is immature and you need to support, who wouldnt even come to your events? I'm curious to what you guys' definition of a "SHIT" girlfriend is, if these are the chicks you have to strategize for. Is a shit gf one with down syndrome? And whats fucked up is you guys do all this shit for these chicks who you pay for, you have mental issues, and THEY are the ones breaking it off and sending you running to a forum for advice on how to make it work. You got a shit gf and relationship OP, if this is the chick you were with, just cause she wont even come to your events and because she would break up over supposedly you got sick for a week. I dont even need to mention the immaturity and dependency shit. Do better. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 03, 2016 3:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: well she actually is sitting around. like i said she's got this anxiety issue and everything points toward it being a big test. she literally has nothing without me so i'm confused. never had that kind of thing happen?
You have nothing without her, you're needy as hell.
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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Jun 03, 2016 7:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
I just read the first line of your post. What the hell is wrong with you guys? DATE NORMAL WOMEN! |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jun 03, 2016 1:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
So, she's your only option? |
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| Author: | groovy_boy [ Sun Jun 05, 2016 7:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: well she actually is sitting around. like i said she's got this anxiety issue and everything points toward it being a big test. she literally has nothing without me so i'm confused. never had that kind of thing happen?
Stop making excuses for her. Sometimes you get involved with people who are not emotionally healthy or mature. This might have been a result of childhood traumas, insecurities, problems in the family and list goes on. If you develop the mindset that you can find someone better then you will be much more willing to walk away when you start seeing recurrent problems that drain the energy out of you.
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Sun Jun 05, 2016 5:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confident after breakup... |
Quote: I just read the first line of your post.
He picked a real winner. Surprised it didnt work..
What the hell is wrong with you guys? DATE NORMAL WOMEN! |
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