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Author:  Alexfc [ Sun May 22, 2016 7:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Girlfriend distant on holiday

Hi! So i met this awesome girl in december which i met trough some mutual friends.
We have been having alot of fun for the last 6 months and everything has been perfect till now.
We havent had the gf bf talk yet, but she has told her friends and everyone basically that we are in a releationship, so i guess we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I should also mention that we live 1 hour apart from each other and none of us have had the time to meet eachother because of school/work for the last 1.5 month(this is a very long time apart for us). This is also the reason we havent had "the gf/bf talk" yet.
We both fancy eachother very much and she actually applied for a school in my area for next semester.

She has been taking a year off from school to work and had planned to do some traveling.
By the time i met her she hadnt been doing any traveling yet, so i said she had to just do it while she has the chance.
So she and her bestfriend booked a 2 week holiday.

Her trips comes to an end now and she is taking the flight home in 3 hours. Now the problem here is that she has been kind of distant to me while on holidays. Replying kind of short and sometimes only answers when i ask questions. Its very expensive to call/text in that country so she only has wifi when she is on the hotel or at a restaurant/bar. So i understand that we cant talk that much, but her whole way of replying has changed. She havent really asked about my day or what im doing the whole trip, which is a very different behavior form her.

Now i hope this will get back to normal as she gets back to the "normal life". But if this is a warning sign, i think this the right time to deal with it before it gets a real problem and worst case break up.
Now shes a very social girl, and i have noticed when she is around her bestfriend she kind of only pays attention to her, which i can understand. Before she left we planned for her to come visit me next weekend and the next one again. Havent checked yet with her if we are still on. I have tried not to be needy while shes been on holiday and just sent her some messages to ask her if shes having fun and what not.

Is there anything i should do to get things back to normal? Or will time show?

English is my 2nd language so sorry for the grammar.

Author:  JackZero [ Sun May 22, 2016 7:13 pm ]
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Too early to be worrying. Let her get back to her normal routine.

Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun May 22, 2016 11:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.

Author:  Alexfc [ Mon May 23, 2016 7:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.
Well then the next step is easy :lol:
i'll keep this updated

Author:  kallitexnis [ Mon May 23, 2016 10:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

Wait till she comes back.

- be outcome free (no expectations)
- don't be needy, as you said
- be social, go out with friends, talk to other girls
- being busy helps not overthinking

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon May 23, 2016 5:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.
Jeez can I read it first? You forgot to say gleefully!

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon May 23, 2016 5:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.
At her age, this does not mean
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back to normal?
This will or will not happen.

Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon May 23, 2016 5:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.
Jeez can I read it first? You forgot to say gleefully!
Image

Author:  Alexfc [ Mon May 23, 2016 9:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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back to normal?
This will or will not happen.
Been really busy with school today, so i didnt reply to her snapchats and instead i sent her a text when i came home.
Conversation seemed like it was back to normal . She just went to bed to catch up on some sleep and told me to sleep well and that she loves me etc(Normal bedtime ritual, like it was before holiday). Will check with her tomorrow when shes a bit rested up, if we are still on for the weekend.

Author:  R.C [ Tue May 24, 2016 6:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

Man some of you guys just don't get the point of Holiday.

She's there with her best friend for two weeks. She doesn't care about your day and she shouldn't care about your day.

In all honestly if you go on vacation and have to make an effort to be on your phone so you can feed your partners attention needs, you're in the wrong relationship.
And if you actually do make that effort, you're also quite frankly an idiot.

That said, chill the fuck out OP. Stop being so controlling and understand that her life should not revolve around you.

Author:  Alexfc [ Tue May 24, 2016 8:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

Well she has to work.. We have planned for her to come this week... like forever
What the fuck do i do now? Last phone call i had with her about 2 weeks ago, she said that she have told her boss that she could not work that date.

Edit: Just got a message " yeaah. I just need to take what i can get"

Author:  n2thevoid [ Tue May 24, 2016 6:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

This has FAIL written all over it. Know why?

You're continually looking to her for reassurance that everything is o.k., and in the mean time put your life on hold.

Find your dick and balls, probably lodged somewhere between your ass cheeks and take life by the horns.

(*u know you're spending way too much time here when your responses start sounding like Haywood's*)

Author:  Alexfc [ Wed Jun 15, 2016 9:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

Got a message from her the 25-26.may saying she didnt really know if she was ready for a relationship after all. And that she hasnt been sure for some time. She said that it didnt feel right to come over to visit just to tell me this. But if i wanted we could still meet up and talk about it. I replied: if thats the way she feels, its not much to talk about, and that i would just continue on with my life instead and ended it on good terms.
The days to come she sent me alot of snapchats which i didnt reply to, she still does. I only send her some once in a while to not seem pissed off. I've been having a conversation with her aprox once a week through snapchat(wich she initiates) and she is curious about my life. I only reply polite and dont invest too much.

I slept with a girl 2 days after the "breakup" and been kind of seeing this girl since. Everything has actually been going very well. I also have a couple dates set up this week and next. Even a 39yrs old super-milf Lol.

But the last couple of days ive been thinking about her alot! I dont really know if/when the right time to contact her again.

Author:  R.C [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 10:13 am ]
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But the last couple of days ive been thinking about her alot! I dont really know if/when the right time to contact her again.

Sometime never.

Author:  GenesisPUA [ Thu Jun 16, 2016 12:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girlfriend distant on holiday

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In before Haywood Jawlock says that she's bouncing on some other dude's cock.
Jeez can I read it first? You forgot to say gleefully!
:lol:

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