Hi guys,

I've been dating a girl for few months. I absolutely adore that she is working hard, trying to accomplish a lot. It's like a big plus, but not the important factor(most guys know what i'm talking about).

But it's double edged. Because, words like "i need to climp on top of a company" etc. is annoyance for me. It feels like it's a change for traditional male/female role. It just brings lots of unnecessary attention towards career and not so much on family life and kids(if that is going to happend).

And i'm honest, I rather want to be the hard worker(while she openly admitted, that a "home going" wife(in terms of a tradtional 8hrs job), is not her)

Am I wrong if I call on this and tell my concerns? Any experience with ever hard working, achievment seeking women? Or, will everything settle down and people change?

Let me tell you the ugly truth. She will wait until she finds better bf than you and she will kick your ass.

It is kinda obsession i know that shit. She will never stop till she ll feel depressed and has bournout. With the time you will figure out you are not enough for her. This kinda chicks adore victory in every area of life. Who is successfuller than you is a potential cheating material for her..

After a time she will say that she has to go business dinners, fucking meetings bla bla shit what end with distance between you too. Fuck and do not commit. If you already saw that signs, drop it like it is hot fella.

Hi guys,

I've been dating a girl for few months. I absolutely adore that she is working hard, trying to accomplish a lot. It's like a big plus, but not the important factor(most guys know what i'm talking about).

But it's double edged. Because, words like "i need to climp on top of a company" etc. is annoyance for me. It feels like it's a change for traditional male/female role. It just brings lots of unnecessary attention towards career and not so much on family life and kids(if that is going to happend).

And i'm honest, I rather want to be the hard worker(while she openly admitted, that a "home going" wife(in terms of a tradtional 8hrs job), is not her)

Am I wrong if I call on this and tell my concerns? Any experience with ever hard working, achievment seeking women? Or, will everything settle down and people change?

Is the "insecure" thing the generic answer here? My concern is grounded in terms of a work/romance balance and i'm sick worried, that this is bound to a personality trait(if so, that will affect me and I can't help, as it's far away from my view on male/females roles). I'm wondering, what your experience is and how you failed/made it work.

But yeah I can see that I fell in love to quickly, before clearing my head for this(I prefer calling that inexperience).

Words that keep coming is "i need time", "this is going fast", "i'm afraid/scared"(i take this as commitment issue)to everything good and genuine love(for the most of the time, it feels so atleast). It feels like she keeps testing me, maybe draggin me along and I kinda can see throu the BS - or am I just insecure?

I just realized who you were. You're the guy that snuck into your girlfriend's phone and confronted her on a message that some guy sent her. She didn't break up with you because of your age. She broke up with you because you are insecure.

But it's double edged. Because, words like "i need to climp on top of a company" etc. is annoyance for me. It feels like it's a change for traditional male/female role. It just brings lots of unnecessary attention towards career and not so much on family life and kids(if that is going to happend).