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Sorry for the long post here. Very tricky girl.

Met her after 1 hr of texting online same night, tried to get me to buy her dinner etc. But I tricked her into going back to my place and had to face 3 hrs of lmr before fucking her. Since then we have been fuck buddies for 2 months. Only thing we've done outside netflix and chill is go see a movie and go to a sex shop. She knows I see other girls and willingly allowed herself to be round 2 on 4 occasions, one of them being in the same apartment 'waiting her turn'. She has told me about her guy friends she uses for meals, rides, etc. Said she doesn't want me as a boyfriend several times, but eventually got attached and jealous of another girl I'm dating and fucking. Last week her mood changed drastically and she started to say things have become one sided, blah blah and I should start showing that I care more and maybe go to dinner once in a while. She has told me in the past that she has fucked someone else while I was away but that she is currently not seeing anyone else. This turned out to be a lie as another female friend of mine was contacted by her on POF to set up a threesome with another guy that was not me. We started seeing each other less. At one point she threw the old 'this is just about sex for you blah blah'. I don't do fuck buddies.

Eeexxxceepppt, you just did that with me for 2 months without hesitation. She subtely began hinting at things that she cant afford to pay, and began changing our meetup times by 2 hr windows. She stopped showing up in the outfits I requested (compliance failures), and became less enthusiastic with sex. She said she wants a break from me and she is going away for 2 weeks and when she returns she will decide if she wants me or not. She left expensive items of hers at my place intentionally, so she really is not nexting me. She knows I have several options.

Is this following conclusion accurate...

She found someone else to fuck for that sole purpose (fuck buddy) and is now trying to make me her boyfriend and make me work for her pussy because she no longer respects me sexually as much as her new lover?

She is invested in me regardless, as she had given me many chances.

-Am I fucking up or is she just a hypergamous bitch?
-Is she using me as a placeholder in case this guy doesn't ditch her while on vaca?

I told her I will not talk to her until she returns so she can have her space. Keep in mind, her mother died amidst all this and I was not there for her
This is why she is going on vaca to go back home for the funeral.

Please help

Author:	DMVA100 [ Wed Apr 20, 2016 9:43 pm ]
Post subject:	Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Sorry for the long post here. Very tricky girl. Met her after 1 hr of texting online same night, tried to get me to buy her dinner etc. But I tricked her into going back to my place and had to face 3 hrs of lmr before fucking her. Since then we have been fuck buddies for 2 months. Only thing we've done outside netflix and chill is go see a movie and go to a sex shop. She knows I see other girls and willingly allowed herself to be round 2 on 4 occasions, one of them being in the same apartment 'waiting her turn'. She has told me about her guy friends she uses for meals, rides, etc. Said she doesn't want me as a boyfriend several times, but eventually got attached and jealous of another girl I'm dating and fucking. Last week her mood changed drastically and she started to say things have become one sided, blah blah and I should start showing that I care more and maybe go to dinner once in a while. She has told me in the past that she has fucked someone else while I was away but that she is currently not seeing anyone else. This turned out to be a lie as another female friend of mine was contacted by her on POF to set up a threesome with another guy that was not me. We started seeing each other less. At one point she threw the old 'this is just about sex for you blah blah'. I don't do fuck buddies. Eeexxxceepppt, you just did that with me for 2 months without hesitation. She subtely began hinting at things that she cant afford to pay, and began changing our meetup times by 2 hr windows. She stopped showing up in the outfits I requested (compliance failures), and became less enthusiastic with sex. She said she wants a break from me and she is going away for 2 weeks and when she returns she will decide if she wants me or not. She left expensive items of hers at my place intentionally, so she really is not nexting me. She knows I have several options. Is this following conclusion accurate... She found someone else to fuck for that sole purpose (fuck buddy) and is now trying to make me her boyfriend and make me work for her pussy because she no longer respects me sexually as much as her new lover? She is invested in me regardless, as she had given me many chances. -Am I fucking up or is she just a hypergamous bitch? -Is she using me as a placeholder in case this guy doesn't ditch her while on vaca? I told her I will not talk to her until she returns so she can have her space. Keep in mind, her mother died amidst all this and I was not there for her This is why she is going on vaca to go back home for the funeral. Please help

Author:	JackZero [ Wed Apr 20, 2016 10:00 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
The part I love about reading your posts is there is at least one line in there that just screams sociopath. We keep explaining this issue over and over again on the forum. FB relationships will usually have one person that wants a relationship at some point into it.

Author:	R.C [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 8:11 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: Please help I don't think we can provide the kind of help you need.

Author:	DMVA100 [ Fri Apr 22, 2016 9:26 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: The part I love about reading your posts is there is at least one line in there that just screams sociopath. We keep explaining this issue over and over again on the forum. FB relationships will usually have one person that wants a relationship at some point into it. But if the desire for that relationship pops up out of nowhere like this, it probably means you have been replaced as the nsa fuck buddy and have been slotted as the boyfriend because she caught feelings in this case and you may be better for something other than strictly fucking (i.e. going out and spending money on her with dates etc.) Usually if fuck buddies disappear it means they found better cock, or they got into a relationship with someone they are more compatible with other than you (since fuck buddies aren't supposed to have feels, interests, etc, which keeps things drama free)

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Apr 22, 2016 11:58 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Sounds like the only one getting played is you, and you're clearly doing it to yourself.

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Author:	DMVA100 [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 3:43 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: Sounds like the only one getting played is you, and you're clearly doing it to yourself. What do you mean exactly?

Author:	n2thevoid [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 3:57 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: Quote: Sounds like the only one getting played is you, and you're clearly doing it to yourself. What do you mean exactly? What is it exactly you're wanting from her?

Author:	DMVA100 [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 7:59 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: Quote: Quote: Sounds like the only one getting played is you, and you're clearly doing it to yourself. What do you mean exactly? What is it exactly you're wanting from her? To keep having sex but she wants to do other date activities. I know that's normal after 2 months but the fact it occurred so suddenly is where my suspicion lies.

Author:	JackZero [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 8:11 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
How do you know that her feelings popped up from nowhere? Two months is not enough time to know who the real person is outside of what they want you to know. She may have simply said that she doesn't want a relationship to not drive you away or didn't know that she would eventually want one. Either way, words and actions don't always match but the reasons behind them not matching isn't always going to be broken down to "is she for real, or playing me?", type of explanations. Instead of worrying about what she may or may not be up to, go by her actions to see if it's worth it for you and/or fair to her. (lol, we know you don't care about fair to her)

Author:	n2thevoid [ Sat Apr 23, 2016 8:16 pm ]
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It won't work. You're on two different pages. Move on, you're PLAYING yourself into thinking that it will. In addition, you aren't respecting her if that's what she wants by holding onto her for a sex only type relationship.

Author:	maria_ [ Sun May 15, 2016 12:48 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Quote: Sorry for the long post here. Very tricky girl. Met her after 1 hr of texting online same night, tried to get me to buy her dinner etc. But I tricked her into going back to my place and had to face 3 hrs of lmr before fucking her. Since then we have been fuck buddies for 2 months. Only thing we've done outside netflix and chill is go see a movie and go to a sex shop. She knows I see other girls and willingly allowed herself to be round 2 on 4 occasions, one of them being in the same apartment 'waiting her turn'. She has told me about her guy friends she uses for meals, rides, etc. Said she doesn't want me as a boyfriend several times, but eventually got attached and jealous of another girl I'm dating and fucking. Last week her mood changed drastically and she started to say things have become one sided, blah blah and I should start showing that I care more and maybe go to dinner once in a while. She has told me in the past that she has fucked someone else while I was away but that she is currently not seeing anyone else. This turned out to be a lie as another female friend of mine was contacted by her on POF to set up a threesome with another guy that was not me. We started seeing each other less. At one point she threw the old 'this is just about sex for you blah blah'. I don't do fuck buddies. Eeexxxceepppt, you just did that with me for 2 months without hesitation. She subtely began hinting at things that she cant afford to pay, and began changing our meetup times by 2 hr windows. She stopped showing up in the outfits I requested (compliance failures), and became less enthusiastic with sex. She said she wants a break from me and she is going away for 2 weeks and when she returns she will decide if she wants me or not. She left expensive items of hers at my place intentionally, so she really is not nexting me. She knows I have several options. Is this following conclusion accurate... She found someone else to fuck for that sole purpose (fuck buddy) and is now trying to make me her boyfriend and make me work for her pussy because she no longer respects me sexually as much as her new lover? She is invested in me regardless, as she had given me many chances. -Am I fucking up or is she just a hypergamous bitch? -Is she using me as a placeholder in case this guy doesn't ditch her while on vaca? I told her I will not talk to her until she returns so she can have her space. Keep in mind, her mother died amidst all this and I was not there for her This is why she is going on vaca to go back home for the funeral. Please help She thought she was tough and she would be able to handle it but she fell for you and she wanted a relationship. The new guy she found him because she wanted to cool down her feelings because you didn't respond as she wanted. She is trying to use sex with lots of guys as a method of numbing her feelings. She is not playing you. She is confused herself. The question is what do you want from her?

Author:	Dragula [ Sun May 15, 2016 1:34 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
it's pretty simple Tell girls what your intentions BEFORE you sleep with them You might lose a few girls, but the ones that are compatible with you, they will end up being some of the most drama free amazing experiences of your life. I've been seeing a girl casually for like 3 years, she obviously hates it, but she knows I ain't gonna change for her so she accepts it. P.S. The OP is still a weirdo

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue May 17, 2016 10:58 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Is she for real, or playing me? - Long post
Classic: don't date girls you fuck too early(as casual sex was your intention). Now, man up and back off. Respect her and yourself.

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