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Author:  Furiox [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 5:22 pm ]
Post subject:  How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
Just out of curiousity how do you handle situations where guys are trying to hit on your girl, lets say you and your friends go out and your talking to your buddy or your getting a drink and your girl is getting hit on by some dude.

Lets say some random dude comes up and start talking and after some time he starts some kino, she let him and also keeps talking, personally I would not like to see this so I would probably call her out on this by telling her I don't like it when you let guys touch you. (I would come off as a jealous bitch or a man who stands up for his boundaries).

I kinda live by the mentality that I am the coolest dude ever and she is lucky to have me but this could also give you a lonely life in th long run if you keep walking away from girls that have traits you don't like, there will never be a perfect girl and in reality there will always be a guy who is more handsome then you and have better game so for a girl to shoot down all these guys for you after xx years of relationship is quite naive to think.

But the root of my question is how to handle guys hitting on your girl. :D
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 5:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
Can't write much but if your girl is letting dudes touch her and hit on her WHEN YOU'RE RIGHT THERE your gf doesn't respect you or understands what a relationship is. If you're ok with that might as well accept your girl gets fucked behind your back. It's not some great feat to expect a girl to respect you when you're in the same room.
Author:  Furiox [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 6:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
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Can't write much but if your girl is letting dudes touch her and hit on her WHEN YOU'RE RIGHT THERE your gf doesn't respect you or understands what a relationship is. If you're ok with that might as well accept your girl gets fucked behind your back. It's not some great feat to expect a girl to respect you when you're in the same room.
Yes but how would you handle it when it happens? Walk up to them and tell her your done without explaining anything or just leave the place or tell her you don't like it, what would be a good way to handle shit like this?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 6:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
Depending on the situation. In the drunk dude scenario, dominate, walk in say hello to Captain Clueless, kiss her and lead her away.
Author:  dicemaster [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 6:57 pm ]
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Depending on the situation. In the drunk dude scenario, dominate, walk in say hello to Captain Clueless, kiss her and lead her away.
This.

Op it is a good chance for observing to your gf. Watch and learn, is she bitch or not.
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Apr 18, 2016 7:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
If a guy is hitting on or touching your gf and she's telling him get away and I have a bf come in and take her out of the sitiation. If a guy is touching and hitting on your gf and she's flirting back just leave. If a guy is just talking to her friendly don't worry about it. Girls aren't dumb and she will know quicker than you if she's being hit on or something inappropriate is happening. If she's not walking away on her own or shooting the guy down on her own it's because she wants to flirt. And tbh some couples are cool with some light flirting. But if that's not relationship you want then you 2 aren't on the same page.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Apr 19, 2016 9:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
Neo is right about some couples being cool with it, but that as to be mutual. Both members are cool with it. You creating a thread is a testament that you're not, so obviously that's not the dynamic of your relationship.

In which case there's nothing "to handle". If she's flirting right in your face that's plain stupid. You don't do that next to your boyfriend and if you do you either have no respect for him nor do you understand what relationships are, and it that case, you, as the bf, can do nothing about it.
If she doesn't respect you there's either a good reason for that, or she's just incapable. Either way it can't be fixed by you.
If she doesn't understand the concept of relationship, again, it can't be fixed by you.

So you walk.
Author:  Furiox [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 2:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
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Neo is right about some couples being cool with it, but that as to be mutual. Both members are cool with it. You creating a thread is a testament that you're not, so obviously that's not the dynamic of your relationship.

In which case there's nothing "to handle". If she's flirting right in your face that's plain stupid. You don't do that next to your boyfriend and if you do you either have no respect for him nor do you understand what relationships are, and it that case, you, as the bf, can do nothing about it.
If she doesn't respect you there's either a good reason for that, or she's just incapable. Either way it can't be fixed by you.
If she doesn't understand the concept of relationship, again, it can't be fixed by you.

So you walk.
I made this thread only to hear other people advice on how to deal with the situation, my girlfriend does not go out but I see it a lot on my friends where there girlfriends are being hit on and they just watch and do nothing so next time it happens i can give some advice to them.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 3:05 pm ]
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Neo is right about some couples being cool with it, but that as to be mutual. Both members are cool with it. You creating a thread is a testament that you're not, so obviously that's not the dynamic of your relationship.

In which case there's nothing "to handle". If she's flirting right in your face that's plain stupid. You don't do that next to your boyfriend and if you do you either have no respect for him nor do you understand what relationships are, and it that case, you, as the bf, can do nothing about it.
If she doesn't respect you there's either a good reason for that, or she's just incapable. Either way it can't be fixed by you.
If she doesn't understand the concept of relationship, again, it can't be fixed by you.

So you walk.
I made this thread only to hear other people advice on how to deal with the situation, my girlfriend does not go out but I see it a lot on my friends where there girlfriends are being hit on and they just watch and do nothing so next time it happens i can give some advice to them.
Lol. Come on man....You've made multiple threads, all advice is to walk from your relationship. All disregarded because you admittedly are afraid of leaving. Now when told to walk, it becomes "this was about a "friend".

First, be honest with yourself....even if this truly was about your "friends".... you wouldnt leave yourself if your gf was being touched by some guy. If your friends are truly the same way, then maybe all of you need to walk and stop being afraid.
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I kinda live by the mentality that I am the coolest dude ever and she is lucky to have me
No. You dont live by this mentality. You may act like you do, but again...be honest with yourself. I think this thread IS about you, but even if its not, its obvious from not being able to break up in prior threads and having to sneak around to have a shot at another woman on the side...you dont live by this mentality. Nothing personal, I just have to tell guys to be honest with themselves first before they write untruths.
Author:  Furiox [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 5:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
@neo,

This thread really wasn't about me as i said my girlfriend doesn't go out. I have been in a drama free relationship for 4 years and as you might have read i met this cute girl a while back which fucked up my feelings towards my own girlfriend, i made some threads about this to seek advice on how to handle this.

Different options came to my mind including break-up or cheating and yes i could not break-up with my current girlfriend as the reasons did not feel completely right to me, i have a good trouble free relationship with a girl who loves me and let me do my thing but like all humans we have desires and are curious, that is why relationships end so much... 3 months ago my feelings were in a completely different place as they are now.

I still like this girl but my feelings cooled off a lot.

I made this thread not even for my friends but just to get more knowledge on how other guys would handle situations like this as it will happen in any relationship...
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 5:25 pm ]
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I made this thread not even for my friends but just to get more knowledge on how other guys would handle situations like this as it will happen in any relationship...
LMFAO. You are not being honest at all.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 6:15 pm ]
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@neo,

This thread really wasn't about me as i said my girlfriend doesn't go out. I have been in a drama free relationship for 4 years and as you might have read i met this cute girl a while back which fucked up my feelings towards my own girlfriend, i made some threads about this to seek advice on how to handle this.

Different options came to my mind including break-up or cheating and yes i could not break-up with my current girlfriend as the reasons did not feel completely right to me, i have a good trouble free relationship with a girl who loves me and let me do my thing but like all humans we have desires and are curious, that is why relationships end so much... 3 months ago my feelings were in a completely different place as they are now.

I still like this girl but my feelings cooled off a lot.

I made this thread not even for my friends but just to get more knowledge on how other guys would handle situations like this as it will happen in any relationship...
This was like a month ago you asked if to break up. Then a month ago you asked if to tell another girl you like her. This week, you're asking if to like a crush's facebook posts.

Do you see how this looks man?

Then you write like this:
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kinda live by the mentality that I am the coolest dude ever and she is lucky to have me but this could also give you a lonely life in th long run if you keep walking away from girls that have traits you don't like, there will never be a perfect girl and in reality there will always be a guy who is more handsome then you and have better game so for a girl to shoot down all these guys for you after xx years of relationship is quite naive to think.
All of this paints the picture of a guy afraid to walk and an "accept what you have" mentality.

And if this is not happening to you, after 4 years, why would you be concerned about it happening and thats its an eventual problem? If you've been trouble free for 4 years, and its come up, why would you be looking for it in the future? Thats like me being with a girl for 4 years, saying I've met her family and they love me, then asking how should someone meet a girl's family?

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i have a good trouble free relationship with a girl who loves me and let me do my thing but like all humans we have desires and are curious,
Thats the fear. You wouldnt cheat because it's "trouble free" and she lets you do your thing. And you're afraid of losing that and finding drama and restraint. And thats fine...but accept as well that you're mentality is not "she's lucky to be with you" or you have options when the only reason you dont leave is that you wouldnt have that option.


But as I said, even if this was about your friends, then both you and they suffer from the same thing. Fear of walking.

What I would tell you and your friends is I get it...you're afraid to leave someone. I'm not telling you to break up with your girl, but to be honest with yourself. No guy who is with some great girl is worrying about liking some other chicks fb posts. No guy who sees himself as the coolest guy ever is in a relationship described as "trouble free" and "lets me do what I want." My advice would be to leave something that sounds like a 3rd place prize and where you'd even care what another chick thought of you. But even if you don't, think about what your mentality really is.
Author:  Furiox [ Thu Apr 21, 2016 6:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
Thank you, this got me thinking.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Fri Apr 22, 2016 2:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do you handle guys hitting on your girl?
The fact that she's fine with the touching would piss me off a little. I'm not saying it's the right way to handle it, but I'd probably say something to her about this.

Usually though, without any touching happening, I'd just be calm. I'd say hello to the guy and possibly even shake his hand, then when he'd gone I'd talk to her about how nice he was. Think strawman technique, lol.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Apr 22, 2016 12:31 pm ]
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The fact that she's fine with the touching would piss me off a little. I'm not saying it's the right way to handle it, but I'd probably say something to her about this.

Usually though, without any touching happening, I'd just be calm. I'd say hello to the guy and possibly even shake his hand, then when he'd gone I'd talk to her about how nice he was. Think strawman technique, lol.

I gotta disagree with this.

Are you guys really in relationships where you gotta straw man a stranger to your GIRLFRIEND? Where that is even an option? I mean, have some expectations of the person you're with. It's on HER to be faithful and appropriate, NOT YOU, to keep her faithful and appropriate. If a rando guy can chat you up at the bar to the point where I feel I have to do something, why am I with you in a relationship?

When you get hired for a job, and you come to work in your underwear, you're fired. Having the common sense to wear pants is the minimum expectation of your employer. Same with stuff like this. Her having common sense enough to say "sorry I have a bf" or "I have to get back to my bf over there" is just what should be expected of the girl who calls herself your girlfriend. It's not up to you to teach her these things or prevent them from happening. Thats her duty. As YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
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