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| Author: | felipe89 [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 4:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
when is it ok to be just friends after a relationship? specifically, I don't see there being a need to be friends after a relationship if someone was: manipulative, dishonest, and mean-spirited...This woman sends me emails/texts periodically(I don't respond) and has mentioned that she thought "it was just a bad time for the both of us"..... I think time is the most precious thing, so why would I spend it with someone who doesn't have values that I want my friends to share... as she hasn't acknowledged her faults, I think her real motivation for friendship is to keep her options open... |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 4:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
when you have no more hope of being with the person |
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| Author: | R.C [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 6:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
What's the point? |
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| Author: | groovy_boy [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 6:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
Quote: when is it ok to be just friends after a relationship?
When you set apart ways in good terms and respect each other, you can be "friendly" but not really friends after feelings settled down.Quote: specifically, I don't see there being a need to be friends after a relationship if someone was: manipulative, dishonest, and mean-spirited...This woman sends me emails/texts periodically(I don't respond)
You said it yourself.Quote:
and has mentioned that she thought "it was just a bad time for the both of us"..... I think time is the most precious thing, so why would I spend it with someone who doesn't have certain values that i want my friends to have...
Correct and correct. You know the answer with your rational part of your mind but can you hold the temptation? Because I don't think it is all about staying "friends".
as she hasn't acknowledged her faults, I think her real motivation for friendship is to keep her options open... |
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| Author: | dicemaster [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 7:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
When you feel nothing if someone fucks your ex in front of you. It would not be a big deal. |
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| Author: | felipe89 [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 8:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
She can sleep with whomever she wants... I don't care... What's the issue is that there's no acknowledgement of her malicious actions and comments..If a law wasn't enforced everyone would break it... What I mean is I feel like there has to be consequences for bad behavior, otherwise things repeat themselves in some way or another... I hope my thinking is right on this |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 8:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
Ofcourse there's consequences if people treat you like shit, lol. You cut them out of your life. I don't think you need us to tell you that. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 2:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
Quote: when is it ok to be just friends after a relationship?
Keep on keeping on.specifically, I don't see there being a need to be friends after a relationship if someone was: manipulative, dishonest, and mean-spirited...This woman sends me emails/texts periodically(I don't respond) and has mentioned that she thought "it was just a bad time for the both of us"..... I think time is the most precious thing, so why would I spend it with someone who doesn't have values that I want my friends to share... as she hasn't acknowledged her faults, I think her real motivation for friendship is to keep her options open... She will dry up after someone else starts pounding it. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 5:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: when is it ok to be friends after a relationship |
Take the time and do the work on yourself, and that means not having someone like her in your life to impede/stunt your progress. People who 'rebound' or jump into new relationships would sooner satiate their immediate attachment needs rather than take the time to heal. Like the addict they attempt to numb, or chase-after the 'love dragon' to recapture the excitement, that flood of oxycotin and dopemine, one experiences when in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. So even if your former partner has jumped into something new, feel sad for them, have some sense of compassion that they're running from themselves. Continue to fordge ahead, alone (while connected to friends and others) to heal and once you've reclaimed that energy for yourself, to then be more discerning of who you invest it into for the future. |
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