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Author:  Legend_buu [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 6:07 am ]
Post subject:  i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
This is my first time in the forum, well I started learning game about 2 years ago I improved in many ways more confident, pleasant to be around. After a year I found a girl and basically we got into a relationship

Me and my ex girlfriend have been dating for the past 1.5. We always has a good communication, I always trying to do new things to do. The problem is that about 9 days ago she decides that she wants to break up.

The story: my ex gf had an important exam to do, she failed it.So now she had to redo it.Me and my gf would use to see each other during the week and weekend(3 days a week in total). I told her that we should meet so she can put all the effort into studying, during those nine days we talked over the phone each day and text, everything seemed to be normal.So basically 9 days went by and the day came to do her exam, i walked with my ex towards her exam place, she took it, so I waited one her after she was done the exam, she was crying saying that she thinks that she didn't pass the exam, so I listened to her and told her that she put all the effort to pass it and try to listen to her.After a few minutes I told her "let's go eat so you can change a bit your ideas" so arriving at the resto she asked me how was my weekend I told her that I went out with a couple of friend, the she proceed with who, I told I went with some guy friend of mine, then she told me what did you, well I told her that what I did is what everybody does have fun, then she asked me if I paid a drink to a girl and I told her why she was asking so many question and I told her that for she trusted me she would no I did not pay girls drinks, I finally told her that I did not. We proceed talking and I told her that I was maybe going to go to Toronto for the weekend(since she is traveling to Florida for a week) I told her that I have a female friend that lives there and she can visit me the city. Then she told me that I was a pretty lucky guy to go with a pretty girl, she told me later on why not go with guy friends....the conversation stopped there and we proceed to talk about other stuff. After dinner she told me the following " I was not going to tell you but I have to" I told her what is that? We sat down and she told me that she was not happy as she used to be and that we both wanted different things out of life she told me you want to go party and have fun with your friends and travelling to Toronto (making reference to what I told her earlier) and I asked her what I was doing that was not making her happy and she told me that she couldn't explain why. While she was saying this she was crying and saying sorry. I was calm but eventually my emotion rised up and I told her that we could work things out and she told me that she didn't want to. I did a big mistake and begged her to stay with me...i brought her home and we said bye
After I left her I received the following text messages



Her: I am sorry we ended things the way we did. I care so deeply for you. you are still my best friend. I am
Always here for you. You'll always have a special place in my heart.

Her: did you get home?
Her: you could atleast tell me that you are ok...

I did not respond to her message cause I was hurt and sad and I know I could not handle and text her

Some Info about her and I:
She is 23 and I am 20
She finished school and works
I am currently doing my bachelor and do volunteering
We both had a good communication and sex life, sex never died in our relationship.



It's been 9 days since the break up and I haven't contacted her cause I don't know what to do.
During the 9 days she has posted pictures of herself sad and some picture where she is happy.
We haven't unfollowed any of our social media

I want to get her back and but I don't know how to proceed and want an advice whether or not this case is worth the try

In those following nine days I've started to go back to the gym,focused more on my studies, going out and meeting new people, actually I have a date on Friday( more like a friends as for now I only want to improve my life)


I really appreciate your time and advice
Thank you
Author:  JackZero [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 6:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
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I want to get her back and but I don't know how to proceed and want an advice whether or not this case is worth the try
She's made a decision and talking about it didn't change her mind. She was honest and said that she didn't want to try. You said you want to improve your life and that, IMO, is the right decision.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 8:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
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I want to get her back and but I don't know how to proceed and want an advice whether or not this case is worth the try
She already made her decision. She was completely honest about not wanting to try too. I know it sucks OP, but you didn't respond to her messages and started focusing on your life. That's the exactly right thing to do.
You're on the right track. I'd suggest unfollowing her from social media as well, it does nothing but hold you back.

The relationship is over. Please don't stagnate your progress by trying to get her back. Not only is it not going to happen, you'll also lose your dignity in the process.
Author:  dicemaster [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 3:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Op, priorities come first. She made her decision to left you. Seems like u had nothing bad to do, so focus your life. You are handling the situation well for now. I ve been there last month, so best thing to do like others said unfollow her and do not expect to she will come back to you.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 3:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Her: I am sorry we ended things the way we did. I care so deeply for you. you are still my best friend. I am
Always here for you. You'll always have a special place in my heart.

PPpphhhhhtttt! LOL!
Author:  dicemaster [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 4:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Quote:
Her: I am sorry we ended things the way we did. I care so deeply for you. you are still my best friend. I am
Always here for you. You'll always have a special place in my heart.

PPpphhhhhtttt! LOL!
In th fone music, UNCHAIN MY HEART lol
I smell BS.
Author:  Legend_buu [ Thu Mar 24, 2016 10:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
I really appreciate the time that you guys took to read and give advice.

I just wonder when we were having dinner everything seemed find we were laughing and then she told me that she was excited for the weekend because she was coming to sleep at mine.
And then after dinner she told me what I explained in the post, when we were going to sit down and talk she told me if I wanted to visit her office which was on the way.

I am very confused as for the breakup, like they say action speak louder than words and the way she was acting is like she loves me but wants to beak up

I would like you guys opinion towards that

Thank you
Author:  R.C [ Fri Mar 25, 2016 8:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
It's not that hard to understand. And the signs are there. She was unhappy. And her acting all lovey dovey was her attempt at trying to convince her own self that everything was in fact fine. Right up until she couldn't do it anymore.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Mar 25, 2016 2:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
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i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
I'm questioning whether you were completely out of touch with reality, I sure there were red flags you may have missed, it's very likely there's another dick parked in that airplane hanger of a pussy as you type your story looking for answers.

This isn’t a time to beat yourself up yourself about all the things you wish you’d done differently, or chase her ass to get closure, or another chance. This is the time to let go of this relationship and prioritize taking care of yourself so you can recover from the devastation of a surprise attack, heal, and move on.

Don’t call her for answers that aren't there. That last 'talk' didn’t go well. I get it there’s so much more you want to know and all those things you forgot to say. So you’re tempted to call her, just one more time. The problem is, this follow up conversation will never, ever be satisfying. You might feel good for about three seconds but as soon as you hang up the phone you’re going to think of something else you want to say, which will lead you right into an endless loop of just one more needy ass phone call. (You know the one. It's where toss your dignity in the toilet, you cry, profess your undying love, and beg like a POW kneeling in front of a fresh dug grave,)

Why? It's pointless. And it will NEVER EVER WORK.

To make her feel guilty? 'YES! That's it! I want her to feel my pain!'

And it's likely she will. For about 15 fucking minutes maybe! Only because women LOVE emotion and drama! Even the bad kind, makes them wetter than sitting on the corner of the washing machine on spin!

So how do you think she'll ease that pain? Satisfy that urge? Run to you? NO!!

She'll call Mr. Newdick, and start merrily bouncing up and down on his cock, she'll start to cry, just a little, and the dumbass will tenderly inquire "What's the matter?" and SHE will sob one word "NOTHING".

Her needs are met.

Is that what you want to cause?

Maintain your dignity.

I know you’re just doing it because you want closure, when deep down what you really want is another chance.

Not gonna happen, if a woman does not want to be with you, trying to convince them otherwise is a long and painful road - for YOU.

Now go read J Daniels post on getting your ex back.
Author:  Legend_buu [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 7:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Uptdate: its been a month since the break up, today à month exactly after the break up, i bumped into her while shopping, i was with a female that i am currently dating so i introduce my date to my ex, my ex asked question where she was studying and in what, we chatted for like 3 min then i told her that we had to go, after the conversation she had wattery eyes, the conversion was positive, she texted me 10 min later, hey(Name) It was good seeing, thanks for coming to day hi! Hope youve been good. I dont know how to respond to her text. Thanks for the help
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 7:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Quote:
Uptdate: its been a month since the break up, today à month exactly after the break up, i bumped into her while shopping, i was with a female that i am currently dating so i introduce my date to my ex, my ex asked question where she was studying and in what, we chatted for like 3 min then i told her that we had to go, after the conversation she had wattery eyes, the conversion was positive, she texted me 10 min later, hey(Name) It was good seeing, thanks for coming to day hi! Hope youve been good. I dont know how to respond to her text. Thanks for the help
"Nice to see you, have a good life."
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Apr 13, 2016 9:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Quote:
Uptdate: its been a month since the break up, today à month exactly after the break up, i bumped into her while shopping, i was with a female that i am currently dating so i introduce my date to my ex, my ex asked question where she was studying and in what, we chatted for like 3 min then i told her that we had to go, after the conversation she had wattery eyes, the conversion was positive, she texted me 10 min later, hey(Name) It was good seeing, thanks for coming to day hi! Hope youve been good. I dont know how to respond to her text. Thanks for the help

"No worries. All the best."
Author:  R.C [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 6:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
"Seen"
Author:  dicemaster [ Thu Apr 14, 2016 10:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Was that u sorry could not recognised, all the best for ya.
Author:  Legend_buu [ Tue Apr 19, 2016 12:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: i was not expecting that she doesn't want me anymore
Update#2 I want to start by Thanking all of you guys that took the time to read and reply. I am still writting in this thread cause I want to keep this as a memory and laugh.After a month I can say that at first you want her back but once you shift your mind and start to improve, you dont want to go back. You meet new people and you realize, wow i was blind there is so many interesting people out there and better then what you thought was "the best".

So today i got back another text of my ex
Her: name . If you own a Honda and are assured and drive your friends Ferrari you are insured, under his policy. Therefore if something happens to the Ferrari well it's covered under your friends insurance. Good night.

I asked her a question about insurance Before we broke up. I dont know how to respond. I would say "Thanks" and Thats about It or i wouldnt reply at all.

I want to keep eventually her as a friend and only that. I am happy with my current life and don't want her back.

How could I respond to her text when she text me.

Thanks
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