PUA Forum :: Extreme case of mixed signals

I met this girl and we are in love(yes, should not be that complicated), but this is how I feel(we are like in the 3rd week of the relationship):

Words that keep coming is "i need time", "this is going fast", "i'm afraid/scared"(i take this as commitment issue),

Im so frustrated, that I'm about to drop everything.

Give her the benefit of the doubt and trust in what she's telling you, if you want to have a healthy relationship.

Well, I did everything after the book got it where I want(in a quickly fashion).

Now the power bites me in the ass, because I don't know where the fuck to steer it anylonger.

She keep floating so much between logical and emotional(where im more emotional now).

Thank you for the input guys. Keeps me thinking.

I met this girl and we are in love(yes, should not be that complicated), but this is how I feel(we are like in the 3rd week of the relationship):

I feel embarrassed.

Told it how I feel as it is. It made me feel like an asshole.

Mixed signal in this case: my own insecurities.

Thanks for input.

I reliased that we are going throu something very intense(which opens up for misunderstandings).

Benefit of doubt always.

I don't know. You don't want to break someones heart? It makes me feel ashamed and respondsable.

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 5:06 am ]
Post subject:	Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
Hi guys. I met this girl and we are in love(yes, should not be that complicated), but this is how I feel(we are like in the 3rd week of the relationship): She keeps throwing obstacles(the alarming ones), because as im trained, I pick up the red flags right on the spot. And I don't want that shit in my relationship, so I call on that and we discuss(sadly). Words that keep coming is "i need time", "this is going fast", "i'm afraid/scared"(i take this as commitment issue)to everything good and genuine love(for the most of the time, it feels so atleast). It feels like she keeps testing me, maybe draggin me along and I kinda can see throu the BS - or am I just insecure? Granted, this girl is very inexperienced. But I also take it as mixed signals, because I can't relate to other than that?(never met inexperienced woman before). Im so frustrated, that I'm about to drop everything. I will give it a shot thou, if you have any idea(if I can present this in a way, that makes me get throu loud and clear). Thank you.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 5:11 am ]
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"i need time", "this is going fast", "i'm afraid/scared" Translation: "I feel scared because I have a need for security that's not being met" Take the cue, she's giving it right to you. Don't take it as a rejection, take it as a need you can help her meet (the need for security/to feel safe). You're going to get guys posting here saying its some ASD or some crap, that just encourages mind-games. Give her the benefit of the doubt and trust in what she's telling you, if you want to have a healthy relationship. If you want games and toxicity, see it as some sort of shit-test.

Author:	neo87 [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 5:31 am ]
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Quote: I met this girl and we are in love(yes, should not be that complicated), but this is how I feel(we are like in the 3rd week of the relationship): Quote: Words that keep coming is "i need time", "this is going fast", "i'm afraid/scared"(i take this as commitment issue), 3 weeks in, thinking or acting like both of you are in love IS PRETTY FAST. Quote: Im so frustrated, that I'm about to drop everything. If you're about to drop it out of frustration, how is this love? Quote: Give her the benefit of the doubt and trust in what she's telling you, if you want to have a healthy relationship. This. I dont know how women tell guys EXACTLY whats up and they look for something more. Again, women seem to have more sense in these threads. She's thinking logically...it IS too fast. It's most likely not "love." You're thinking emotionally, ie it's love, yet you're about to drop her for frustrations. You dont even trust her words. Is it love? Are things moving too fast? Do you know what intimacy is?

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 5:44 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
Well, I did everything after the book got it where I want(in a quickly fashion). Now the power bites me in the ass, because I don't know where the fuck to steer it anylonger. She keep floating so much between logical and emotional(where im more emotional now). Thank you for the input guys. Keeps me thinking.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 5:50 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
Quote: Well, I did everything after the book got it where I want(in a quickly fashion). Now the power bites me in the ass, because I don't know where the fuck to steer it anylonger. She keep floating so much between logical and emotional(where im more emotional now). Thank you for the input guys. Keeps me thinking. Misattribution. The book did nothing.

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Author:	R.C [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 9:14 am ]
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Quote: I met this girl and we are in love(yes, should not be that complicated), but this is how I feel(we are like in the 3rd week of the relationship): How the fuck are you "in love" after 3 weeks?

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 9:33 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
I don't know... Fast living fast dying? No clue, perhabs it's not geniune.

Author:	R.C [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 12:01 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
It can't be. You barely know her in 3 weeks. I think you're taking the term love very lightly. Neo even painted a picture in that direction. It's no wonder really the girl is feeling suffocated if you hold this relationship in "we love each other" standards so soon.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 6:03 pm ]
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At three weeks, you don't even know what her shit smells like yet. Recognize the signals your new girl is sending out. Death by suffocation.

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 8:02 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
I feel embarrassed. Told it how I feel as it is. It made me feel like an asshole. Mixed signal in this case: my own insecurities. Thanks for input.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 8:14 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
Quote: I feel embarrassed. Told it how I feel as it is. It made me feel like an asshole. Mixed signal in this case: my own insecurities. Thanks for input. What MADE you feel like an "asshole"?

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 8:48 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Extreme case of mixed signals - advice needed
I reliased that we are going throu something very intense(which opens up for misunderstandings). Benefit of doubt always.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 8:58 pm ]
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Quote: I reliased that we are going throu something very intense(which opens up for misunderstandings). Benefit of doubt always. That doesn't answer my question. I asked for a feeling, you gave me vague thoughts (an interpretation) as to what's going on.

Author:	StinkyApple [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 9:00 pm ]
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I don't know. You don't want to break someones heart? It makes me feel ashamed and respondsable.

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Author:	n2thevoid [ Tue Mar 01, 2016 9:09 pm ]
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Quote: I don't know. You don't want to break someones heart? It makes me feel ashamed and respondsable. Ok, now we're getting somewhere. Feeling: ashamed Responsibility lies in yourself. You cannot be responsible for the way another people feels or thinks, you can only stimulate them to do so. So you're feeling ashamed because you somehow feel responsible for your girlfriend feeling heartbroken?