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| Author: | humdinger [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 11:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | What would you have done in this situation? |
So, I've been seeing this girl about every week for 1 month, I always go to her place, we chill, and then have sex, we sometimes even go on dates, but it's nothing serious. (it's a fwb situation with not just sex) Anyway, one day when she showed me a brought a new brand new box of condoms (10 count), we ended up having sex and using 2 condoms that night, leaving the count to 8. Now, a week later, I go over her place again, we chill and she tells me to get the condoms out of the box, and this time there were only 5 condoms there. So I jokingly confronted her and said, so " are you sleeping with other people/what happened to the rest" She got extremely defensive and upset, and told me she wasn't. She said maybe I counted wrong, but I clearly remembered the count, and the box said 10. She told me I was crazy for doing, but still wanted to have sex, I refused and left. Was I overreacting? I know it's nothing serious between us, but it just feels gross if she actually did sleep with another guy. Am I wrong for being turned off by that? Was she lying? |
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| Author: | R.C [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 11:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
Oh, no. Totally not an overreaction to dramatically leave the scene because your FRIEND WITH BENEFITS is fucking other dudes too. You're a hypocrite. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 1:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
If you can't handle your fwb sleeping with other people maybe you're not ready for that kind of relationship. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 5:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
I think the common thing to be said now is " You're both single. You can both do whatever you want", but I've never subscribed to this with the women that I talk to. The majority of the quality women that I know say they don't feel comfortable sleeping with more than one guy at a time. Now if you're going for these tattooed, pierced, modern chicks with the blue/green/grey hair dye you'll encounter some different reactions. I don't sleep with women who sleep with other people while they're sleeping with me. Its a double standard sure. But thats just the way it is. When the spiders in the room I can't hide under the blanket and say "You get it, I'm scared" or "you protect me while we're out". Thats a double standard as well. Double standards exist. I do think you handled it like a girl, but I don't think there was anything wrong with how you felt about the situation. |
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| Author: | humdinger [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 10:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
Edit: I guess it's not a fwb then. None of us never mentioned fwb. Which just agreed that it will be nothing serious, but we still go on dates. Fwb was never used between us, my bad. But I see that the other two of you (neo rc) like another cock in the girl you're sleeping with. And I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not sleeping with any other girls while sleeping with her. Way to assume and make an ass out of yourself, mate |
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| Author: | J.Daniels [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 11:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
Quote: Edit: I guess it's not a fwb then. None of us never mentioned fwb. Which just agreed that it will be nothing serious, but we still go on dates. Fwb was never used between us, my bad.
Actually, it's you who assumed. Never ASSUME that you're exclusive with a girl until she brings it up. If she hasn't brough it up, you're not in a relationship and you're not exclusive. Way to lose your temper and make a tit out of yourself, pal. Just because you choose to have tunnel vision when you're single, doesn't mean she should choose to do the same.But I see that the other two of you (neo rc) like another cock in the girl you're sleeping with. And I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not sleeping with any other girls while sleeping with her. Way to assume and make an ass out of yourself, mate Dick. Having said that, I'd be kind of annoyed, too. I wouldn't blame other guys for it, and I'd understand we're not exclusive, but it'd still piss me off. The pussy feels tainted in that situation. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Wed Jan 13, 2016 11:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
If you don't make your boundaries clear and up front, you have no one to blame but yourself. She in return has the right to respond to your boundaries, but you put it out there. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Thu Jan 14, 2016 12:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
Quote: Edit: I guess it's not a fwb then. None of us never mentioned fwb. Which just agreed that it will be nothing serious, but we still go on dates. Fwb was never used between us, my bad.
Jeez man...is this just a pattern of you reacting to things like a kid?But I see that the other two of you (neo rc) like another cock in the girl you're sleeping with. And I'm not a hypocrite. I'm not sleeping with any other girls while sleeping with her. Way to assume and make an ass out of yourself, mate As I said, if you're fwb with a chick and you cant handle her sleeping with other dudes then thats not the relationship for you. How does me saying that mean I like another cock in a chick I'm sleeping with? Did I say, I could handle that kind of fwb relationship? I'm a fact guy...You're in a fwb relationship. If she is fucking other people and no talk of exclusivity...thats what it is. Even if you weren't fucking other people yourself. So it IS a fwb relationship and thats how she sees it if shes fucking other dudes. Now, can you handle a fwb relationship? No. Because you left her place once you found out. So you can handle a fwb relationship. If you wanted exclusivity or that on her side, the you shouldve told her. Personally, i dont sleep with girls who are sleeping with other guys, hence I would have defined what we were to her the moment I decided I didnt want to sleep with other chicks, or I didnt want her to. You gotta blame yourself for not stating what you wanted. So she's sleeping with someone at least one other guy. She lied to you about it. You gotta decide if you can be okay with knowing that. If not, stop messing with her. If it were me, I'd walk...because even if she says she wont fuck other dudes, she lied when confronted so I could never trust her and I'd just assume she still is sleeping with someone else. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Jan 14, 2016 9:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
She wasn't confronted though. In life you need a bit of tact and diplomacy. When you throw a hissy fit like a 12yo entitled girl, yeah, you're getting lied to. Because you obviously can't handle the truth, or even a normal conversation for that matter. And yes OP, you are a hypocrite. Because you agree to a "no feels" relationship and then act as if she owed you something. |
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| Author: | Cross De Lena [ Thu Jan 14, 2016 12:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What would you have done in this situation? |
I guess you are developing some feelings for her... And you were acting on your feelings. I would try and talk to her, I wouldn't mention this little "incident", I would simply state my requests and if she can't live with that, then she's out of the picture. EDIT: I forgot she probably lied to you. But again, you were not in relationship so whats that got with you? See if you can come up with some agreement. |
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