I don't want a relationship. And no casual sex without relationship.

That is what my ex just told me, few days after the break up and i'm like wtf? Her argument is that we don't suit in longer term, because of age differences(which is valid, but should love not win?).

She told me that she is up for coffee and we could see each other and talk. And I said if she wants coffee then i demand she contacts me, kinda like "make up your mind woman"(don't know if thats beta). But I know that she will never call me(stubborn type).

Unless you treated her like shit, an ex will usually want you back when she knows you're happy with another woman or women.

I just realized who you were. You're the guy that snuck into your girlfriend's phone and confronted her on a message that some guy sent her. She didn't break up with you because of your age. She broke up with you because you are insecure.

This feels horrible.

I love you... but

This feels horrible.

OUCH!!! If you’ve heard the words “I love you ....but"

What you are actually hearing is the death of a relationship.

It means the same as LJBF's.
Of course it does. She's going to drown her sorrows in some new cock, how are you going to drown yours?

To be honest, I condemn your actions of checking her phone, but she most likely didn't break up with you over that. A girl doesn't go from love to break up over something like that. When a girl breaks up with you, she was planning to for a while. This was just an excuse. Now maybe your insecurities seeped into the relationship before. Maybe she was just getting bored. Maybe she was realizing for a time that you're age difference was a problem. Maybe she DID want to date the other guy or new guys. I dunno. But a break up like this doesn't come from nowhere for checking a phone. Even if you had admitted you always did it, which you prob didnt, she wouldnt go from relationship to 0 if things were going well before. You were about to get dumped soon.

Now I know that prob sucks to hear but I gotta be honest with it. It's easier to think that this one thing you did caused her to break up, but most likely you lost her a while ago. Going forward, work out your insecurities...heck by how it played out I wouldnt be surprised if she started dating the other guy or some guy right away that was there. But if you aren't secure in a future relationship dont be in it. If you dont trust someone dont be with them.

But hey, maybe things were really great before and this break up and her wanting to "see each other and talk" is her way of putting things on a break. If that's the case if you meet up with her she'll give you some openings to win her over. If she really just doesnt want you completely, then she was planning to break up, in which case the friendzone is real.