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Author:  nickfury [ Thu Nov 19, 2015 3:13 pm ]
Post subject:  ex wants to have "the talk" after reconnecting
So we broke up with my ex about 1 1/2 months ago. She was the one to break up saying she felt asphyxiated.

Went on no contact, and started going out other people during the breakup.

Reconnected last week, over text, went out, had dinner and sex. Before sex she kept saying we need to talk and I was like: look, let's have a good time right now, I am enjoying the moment. Re connection was positive.

This week she says: I am confused, my sisters are telling me that you are already going out with another girl, why are you talking to me? (this is mainly because they probably checked on my social networks, and even though there was nothing explicit, they figured)

I said: Hey look, I am currently not dating anybody... but we were broken up, remember? you broke up with me, so yes, I went out with other girls after we broke up.

She freaked out in jealousy she was like I can't believe you moved on so fast. "I don't blame, forget about it, if you want to go out and see other girls just do whatever you want... just one thing, don't contact me ever again"

I was like hey chill out, you said you didn't want anything with me ok? So you don't want to be with me but you don't want me to be with anybody else? Look, I think we need to cut this BS jealousy thing that is not taking us anywhere, and make a decision. If you want to get back great if not we can just part ways and move on. As simple as that.

She was like: you are right I am sorry. I am just scared that any time we have a fight you'll try to run off to "solve" it with another girl like you did. Just give me some time to think about it, it is not good to think while I am mad and disappointed.

We texted this morning positively and she said: can we meet and talk about it in person?

How do you go about it? I would like to get back with her, but maybe I should go in expecting the worst?
Any advice?

Thanks!
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Nov 19, 2015 4:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: ex wants to have "the talk" after reconnecting
I can almost guarantee that had you not moved on to other girls she wouldn't have shown interest to begin with this time, and there would be ABSOLUTELY NOTHING she would want to talk with you about now. I'm guessing your vibe with her this time was generally loose and take it or leave it, as it would naturally be if you had moved on to other girls, and this attracted her even more.

One time I was speaking with an ex over the phone and the moment she even caught the vaguest notion that I may be meeting up with other girls her interest level spiked to the moon. You have stirred her emotions, it's like oxygen to the girl.

What you're doing is obviously working, I would keep doing that. Trust your gut.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Nov 19, 2015 5:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: ex wants to have "the talk" after reconnecting
Stop man. This is like you're 6th thread about the same girl. And she wasn't even your gf I think. Stop trying to get with a girl that it's clearly wasn't working with. Move on. Block delete
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Nov 19, 2015 5:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: ex wants to have "the talk" after reconnecting
Quote:
I can almost guarantee that had you not moved on to other girls she wouldn't have shown interest to begin with this time, and there would be ABSOLUTELY NOTHING she would want to talk with you about now. I'm guessing your vibe with her this time was generally loose and take it or leave it, as it would naturally be if you had moved on to other girls, and this attracted her even more.

One time I was speaking with an ex over the phone and the moment she even caught the vaguest notion that I may be meeting up with other girls her interest level spiked to the moon. You have stirred her emotions, it's like oxygen to the girl.

What you're doing is obviously working, I would keep doing that. Trust your gut.
+1
Author:  nickfury [ Thu Nov 19, 2015 9:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: ex wants to have "the talk" after reconnecting
great idea! thanks a lot for the replies!
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