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Author:  Zonk117 [ Mon Sep 28, 2015 9:02 pm ]
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Just got into a semi long distance relationship with this new hot girl. I searched for ways to keep her, but could not find any. I don't only want to keep her, but I want to build the relationship as best I can while keeping her chasing and madly in love with me. Kind of desperate for me and my attention (currently she is I think.) I like her a lot, and I hope it develops to marriage.

1. She lives 3 hours away
2. I spend 1-2 weekends a month with her. (So we don't see each other for 2 weeks or so, then we are sleeping in the same house together.)
3. She is extremely faithful, not worried about her cheating
4. She has 1.5 years left in college, so she is busy with school (no work yet), and she loves for us to spend time around her family

Questions and advice: (answer anything you can)

1. What is general idea of how to keep a girlfriend happy, yet chasing after me?
2. I plan to make her never feel like she has completely won me over, but I don't want her to get tired of chasing me.
3. Do girls ever get tired of push-pull? I feel like eventually, she will want me to settle and just be myself? Will she get tired if I am a little to bad boyish-alpha male like?
4. Right now, she loves me and thinks about me more than I do her, and I don't want that to change. I want her to do it more, yet not to where she gives up her life. Not entirely dependent, she still needs to be an alpha girl.
5. How can I make her just keep falling more and more madly in love with me? (What is the general techniques to make this work when you have already got the girl?)
6. How fast should I build the relationship? (I want it to develop into marriage, but I'm waiting 1.5 years for her dad to completely pay for her schooling.)
7. How do I get the most of it for myself too?
8. We occasionally do phone calls... how should I handle them? (Time, how often, jokes, sexy, serious, etc?)
9. I've read and worked through Xuma's Girlfriend training program (Which is very good. If you want to keep you girlfriend, this is a great product that will work for any relationship), but let me know if you guys know of any good or better products for keeping a relationship going and strong. Please post any links here or anywhere else that I could be helpful too. I'm excited that Neil Strauss is putting out a sequel to the game on relationships soon called "The Truth."

Anything you ant to add or that I should think about is welcome. 8)
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Sep 28, 2015 9:42 pm ]
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How many married couples do you know that stay 3 hours away from each other? That's right, none.

Figure out a way to be nearer to each other, long distance doesn't work. Change your circumstance if you are really serious about it.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Sep 29, 2015 7:44 am ]
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Long distance doesn't work. Forget about it.
Author:  Zonk117 [ Tue Sep 29, 2015 8:20 pm ]
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How many married couples do you know that stay 3 hours away from each other? That's right, none.

Figure out a way to be nearer to each other, long distance doesn't work. Change your circumstance if you are really serious about it.

We have a plan to get closer to each other. I'm just preparing for the future now. I realized a lot of my language was wrong in the last post. Maybe that was trying to ask for a step by step system too much. Thats not what I want, but maybe just general idea on the numbers I listed?
Author:  Zonk117 [ Tue Sep 29, 2015 8:21 pm ]
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Long distance doesn't work. Forget about it.
We have a plan to get closer to each other. I'm just preparing for the future now. I realized a lot of my language was wrong in the last post. Maybe that was trying to ask for a step by step system too much. Thats not what I want, but maybe just some general answers on the numbers I listed?
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Wed Sep 30, 2015 4:20 am ]
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3. She is extremely faithful, not worried about her cheating
There will be around 7 days out of 28 days when she won't. It's just a matter of self discipline if she'll be riding another dude's cock or not. And of course, taking very good care that you will never know about it.

As other posters have said, LDRs don't work. For long term relationships, always place your bet on the girl that you can see any time of the day or night at random when you feel like it. Don't take that as an advice though to suffocate her with your presence 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Author:  R.C [ Wed Sep 30, 2015 6:22 am ]
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Ok so I initially started replying to each of your questions but gave up at like #7 because they got increasingly irksome.

If you wanna keep a girlfriend the most effective way of completely fucking it up is by trying to apply exact patterns and tailored step-by-step programs to a fucking inter-human relation which is chaotic by god damn nature.

You gonna be 5 mins into the conversation and be like "oh shit time's up, I gotta hang up according to Action Plan Gamma-3". Seriously, dude.

Here's your general pointers:

#1. Lead an attractive lifestyle.
#2. Never make her the #1 priority in your life. #1 is for you, #2 is most she can get.
#3. Do not game your girlfriend. Do not manipulate your girlfriend.
#4. Don't buy an engagement ring when you got 1.5 years of long distance ahead of you.
Author:  richarddylan153 [ Sat Oct 17, 2015 9:15 am ]
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Quote:
Just got into a semi long distance relationship with this new hot girl. I searched for ways to keep her, but could not find any. I don't only want to keep her, but I want to build the relationship as best I can while keeping her chasing and madly in love with me. Kind of desperate for me and my attention (currently she is I think.) I like her a lot, and I hope it develops to marriage.

1. She lives 3 hours away
2. I spend 1-2 weekends a month with her. (So we don't see each other for 2 weeks or so, then we are sleeping in the same house together.)
3. She is extremely faithful, not worried about her cheating
4. She has 1.5 years left in college, so she is busy with school (no work yet), and she loves for us to spend time around her family

Questions and advice: (answer anything you can)

1. What is general idea of how to keep a girlfriend happy, yet chasing after me?
2. I plan to make her never feel like she has completely won me over, but I don't want her to get tired of chasing me.
3. Do girls ever get tired of push-pull? I feel like eventually, she will want me to settle and just be myself? Will she get tired if I am a little to bad boyish-alpha male like?
4. Right now, she loves me and thinks about me more than I do her, and I don't want that to change. I want her to do it more, yet not to where she gives up her life. Not entirely dependent, she still needs to be an alpha girl.
5. How can I make her just keep falling more and more madly in love with me? (What is the general techniques to make this work when you have already got the girl?)
6. How fast should I build the relationship? (I want it to develop into marriage, but I'm waiting 1.5 years for her dad to completely pay for her schooling.)
7. How do I get the most of it for myself too?
8. We occasionally do phone calls... how should I handle them? (Time, how often, jokes, sexy, serious, etc?)
9. I've read and worked through Xuma's Girlfriend training program (Which is very good. If you want to keep you girlfriend, this is a great product that will work for any relationship), but let me know if you guys know of any good or better products for keeping a relationship going and strong. Please post any links here or anywhere else that I could be helpful too. I'm excited that Neil Strauss is putting out a sequel to the game on relationships soon called "The Truth."

Anything you ant to add or that I should think about is welcome. 8)
Did you got your concept or not ?
Author:  ColaGuy [ Mon Oct 19, 2015 8:12 pm ]
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It sounds like you are trying to game your girlfriend and that just isn't going to work. Relationships are entirely different from picking up girls. An understanding of how girls work/think in general will help but for a long term relationship you two of you just need to be compatible otherwise you will both eventually see through each others shit and it will spiral downwards.

As others have said long distance will not work, it's just not a thing. Me and my girl started off as a long distance relationship and I quickly realised (way before she did) that this shit weren't going to work unless I got my ass closer to her. I spoke to her about it (she loved this) and I got my shit together and moved. If this isn't something that you can do yourself then you need to move on bro.
Author:  OG_PlMP [ Sat Nov 28, 2015 11:22 pm ]
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It sounds like you are trying to game your girlfriend and that just isn't going to work. Relationships are entirely different from picking up girls.
coladude said it best. You're not gaming this girl anymore. That was for the initial phase where you guys don't know each other too well and you want to build attraction. All of these things you listed here tell me its too early to be in an exclusive relationship with her, let alone be thinking about marriage. I've dated a lot of girls. I've broke a lot of hearts and even had a couple heartbreaks myself. I've had amazing relationships and others that just didn't work out for one reason or another.

If this girls the right one for you these questions wouldn't be necessary. One thing that I've noticed is I only have to worry about everything you're asking before the relationship begins. The "getting to know her" phase of the relationship. For me, when it comes down to it, everything will become natural. By that I mean after I've dated for a few months and spend so much time around her, I'll no longer need to be worrying about building the relationship or how to act when on the phone with her. If you can be yourself around this girl and neither of you get sick of being around each other, then you're golden. You guys go out, either just the two of you or with friends and never get bored or irritated (of each other's company), you've found the one.

You want a girl who you can call your best friend. Someone you always have fun with. Someone who gets along with your friends and family, and vice versa. Once you find that girl, that's when you start thinking about relationships or marriage.

And as others said, the long distance sucks as well. No one wants to drive more than an hour to see their partner. I'm guessing that's the biggest factor holding your relationship back right now.

I'll sum up this post with three key factors that I look for when searching for my other half:
a) We can both be ourselves around each other without getting sick of eachother
b) she has an awesome body that i can touch and fuck whenever I please (within reason)
c) she won't fuck other guys
Author:  StinkyApple [ Mon Nov 30, 2015 9:24 am ]
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1. What is general idea of how to keep a girlfriend happy, yet chasing after me?
She is already chasing you. Who the fuck wants to have long distance relationship? It requires dedication.

2. I plan to make her never feel like she has completely won me over, but I don't want her to get tired of chasing me.
Stop. Right there. Don't play games or you will screw it up, no woman deserves that in a relationship. Don't play games on somebody who loves you man.

3. Do girls ever get tired of push-pull? I feel like eventually, she will want me to settle and just be myself? Will she get tired if I am a little to bad boyish-alpha male like?
Yes, they do. Women are attracted to badboys because of sex. But real men, when they want to settle down. It's about balancing it. Again, don't play it. In a relationship, you want to have career goals, and you want her as your biggest supporter. That is the best combination of it.

4. Right now, she loves me and thinks about me more than I do her, and I don't want that to change. I want her to do it more, yet not to where she gives up her life. Not entirely dependent, she still needs to be an alpha girl.
Alpha girls will ruin your beta ass. Only 1 alpha per relationship anyway. The most happy relationships thou, is beta/beta.

5. How can I make her just keep falling more and more madly in love with me? (What is the general techniques to make this work when you have already got the girl?)
By not thinking of it. Trust me, been there. You need to have focus on something else, before you become insane(been there as well).

6. How fast should I build the relationship? (I want it to develop into marriage, but I'm waiting 1.5 years for her dad to completely pay for her schooling.)
Take steps towards the future you want to have(career, income, health etc.), and you will know, when the time is right.

7. How do I get the most of it for myself too?
By not thinking of her. You are doing everything wrong and will cost you.

8. We occasionally do phone calls... how should I handle them? (Time, how often, jokes, sexy, serious, etc?)
This is getting wierd. This person that calls you, loves you actually. Do you want to game her in return?

9. I've read and worked through Xuma's Girlfriend training program (Which is very good. If you want to keep you girlfriend, this is a great product that will work for any relationship), but let me know if you guys know of any good or better products for keeping a relationship going and strong. Please post any links here or anywhere else that I could be helpful too. I'm excited that Neil Strauss is putting out a sequel to the game on relationships soon called "The Truth."
Mate you know what. You dont have to read on anything. Most people forgets 1 thing - you are not in PuA anylonger. It's done. You had a purpose and that was getting a GF. Now, be yourself and focus yourself(something you have forgotten, ever since you went in to PuA). You simple need to find life goals, have her as supporter(this makes you alpha right on the spot). It's so much more attractive, that not only you want her to stay(because you lead), but also having a future you create for her.
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Nov 30, 2015 4:18 pm ]
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You've already lost this chick because you already need an outcome ie she stays with you. The goal shouldn't be to keep her the goal should be to see whether she still makes you happy tomorrow.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Mon Nov 30, 2015 9:31 pm ]
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You've already lost this chick because you already need an outcome ie she stays with you. The goal shouldn't be to keep her the goal should be to see whether she still makes you happy tomorrow.
Precisely
Author:  Zonk117 [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 2:31 pm ]
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Can someone delete this whole thread please? I actually want my whole account deleted haha
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Aug 04, 2016 3:06 pm ]
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Get married.
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