So me and this girl went on a break for about two weeks. I understand what a break means, usually it means to me testing other waters. Eventually she was the one to come back to me (I have dated this girl for 8 months). And little by little she has been chasing me to where we were back in the beginning stages. she was acting weird the last week by telling me she has to handle a situation and couldn't tell me until later. I wasn't having that, she disliked it when I was vague and mysterious so I stood my ground and called her out on it. I eventually got it out of her.

We have only started seeing each other two weeks ago again. And she has revealed to me that she made out with a neighbor That lives close by a few times during our break. Telling me she was lonely and she doesn't have many friends yadda yadda, and didn't expect that to happen at all right... So she has been avoiding him since she has come back and has finally decided to confront him this week that she is back with me and pretty much let him know that it wasn't really anything. Basically sounds like she just was leading him on.

This is irritating me. I understand she didn't break any laws or whatever the social contract is between a gf and bf . She didn't cheat but one of her first questions when she came back to me was "did you sleep with anyone else". At the time I did go out on dates with other girls but I didn't escalate all the way. Only because I was just enjoying getting back into date mode and I kinda liked her still. She also got mad I uploaded pictures a with other girls and how other girls were saying how cute I was on my profile. Now, all this and I did not ask her if she did anything over our seperation because in my mind, a break means a break. I didn't ask because I didn't care nor did I want to know. Now, I'm just more annoyed that she brought up those things and interrogated me when she pretty much was a hypocrite.


She's been apologetic since last night and it seems like the power shift is going to me. She texted me that she hated leaving me this morning (she came over last night) but I haven't really texted her back. You think I should let this go? I'm just annoyed and needed to vent that she was a hypocrite the last week making me seem like a bad dude if I did sleep with someone. Makes me question her as a person.

I saw your last post about this girl and was going to comment but figured you'd take it the wrong way. This is just my honest opinion. IF YOU HAVE TO PLAY GAMES TO GET A GIRL WHO HAS KNOWN YOU FOR 8 MONTHS TO COME BACK, WHAT DO YOU EXPECT? You play games, you get games. Yes, she is a hypocrite. But here's simple advice. If a chick isnt sure if she wants to be with you, let her go. Don't force it or manipulate it. Because if you manipluate it, as you did, you just get a girl that doesnt really want you for you, hence she would ask for a break to makeout and fuck the neighbour.

Or....Freeze her out, make her feel bad, come back to you. The power will continue to shift in your favor. Then she thinks, well he really made me feel bad and he hooked up with some chicks, i gotta fuck the neighbour to get some of that power back. So she fucks the neighbour, and you pat yourself on the back that youve got the "power." Months pass, you become gf/bf, she always has those doubts about you that you needed to make her jealous to keep in the first place, she dumps you.

Do not get into a relationship with a chick who needs time to think. Let her go. She's hid things from you. She asked for a break to mess around. She is leading on another guy. Guys miss all these flags, game the girl to get a gf and when she decides to eventually lead YOU on, you'll be surprised.

so I stood my ground and called her out on it. I eventually got it out of her.

Makes me wander wether next time she see's a guy she likes, she'll just go on another 'break' with you so that she can hook up with him, then come back.

I don't think she's into you as much as you're into her, unfortunately.

Sounds like "taking a break" had a lot of ambiguity tied to it.

If you weren't together during that time, what's it matter what she did?

So you're questioning her character, that's your right. But at the end of the day if this is a girl you truly want then let it go and put your ego to the side.

Don't do this. You see just how well it is working for you now.

What would it be like if you accepted others' actions and didn't have any attachment to the outcome? If you were secure enough in yourself to know no matter how long of a break you took she would still be all about you, would things be different?

That's the problem I'm having now. Lol, say we are having down time again and she goes on a break and whoops another accidental fling...makes me wonder.


And nah man, she was all about the chase in the beginning but then I became too available and I kinda started liking her a lot more. Lately she's been doing more the initiating. But yeah, we will see. She's been saying things like I can't stop thinking about you yadda yadda. Heh. Sounds like me in the beginning of the year when I had 6 chicks lol.

If YOU agree to a break I don't see what the difference is whether or not she sees no one or has sex with the entire North American continent. It's just not your business.

And yes, I understand that you pestered her about it because she pestered YOU about the same issue. Still, I wouldn't have given in, and I wouldn't do something just because my significant other did it.

Or I can let things go with the flow, but my eyes are peeled.

I think your decision to call her out on her bullshit was a good one. Let her know you aren't a blind idiot. It sounds like you have a strong frame set but she's just testing you, which is honestly immature as fuck after dating as long as you have; respond accordingly. You're walking on thin ice with this one.